people decided then that cash is much more practical
it is, cause they can go buy their own appliances/pay for their honey moon or whatever..
Insulting for village peasants who have no idea about manners, perhaps.
I tried one time to send money for genealogy , And it was refused, maybe some just dont want to feel like
they are charity case,That wasnt my intentions and I said that, but he still refused. I still wanted to do
something nice for him for helping me.. but it was just a nice gesture, he said he would even fly here and
fly back with me if i ever came to poland.
sometimes its not culture, but pride, that isnt something exclusive to polish, maybe to
people in general, cause they dont want to look bad, opression, depression, handouts call it what you want
even in weddings, if they choose gifts so be it..
I think those who make enough money, dont want people to think otherwise of them, and you know nice gestures
can be mistaken for sterotypes ( people thinking all polish are poor) or so they think this is what might be thought
of them because of the war, their economic situation before.
but others a fine tuned to give when you recieve.. you dont feel right by not giving something for their help..
so anyways, my two cents,, if it makes sense.. lol