It seems to be about what HE wants, a relationship involves two people making decisions together,
Spot on. I went out with a guy like this who was always trying to make the decisions (it didn't last long). It can be quite demoralising. Unless, of course, a person wants decisions made for them.
They've been together for 3 years, would it be possible to have such a double life for so long?
Hmm, perhaps not if he had a wife then. Slightly more possible if it was a girlfriend. Convenient for him that his family "won't accept" zabko so he has to go to Poland alone each visit. I don't know how long out of the 3 years they've lived together but the less time it is, the more possible he could have a girlfriend back home.
Oh well, I dont think that any amount of advice offa bunch of randoms off a forum will persuade her to make any life changing choices...
I should think about posting my love life on PF. People could do with a good laugh :)
zabko, listen to this guy.