I wish those mothers would finally stop brainwashing their kids about expectations from marriage and having children.
No ... she didn't brain wash me by her words just now. This brain washing started when I was born actually :)... my father also supported her alot in this process of brain washing on me and my sisters ... My grandfather (who died when I was young) also gave some brain washing to me.
None of those brainwashing had to be with words. While growing up I've seen the most lovely couple, and no I am not boasting one bit, because you actually need to live that bringing up to able to comprehend how tactful this superb brain washing technique is.
I've seen them have disagreements, and I've seen them smiling and holding each others hands later. I've seen how they treasured what little things they had, with each other and us on the peak of all their contentment ... even when times turned difficult on us. These whole events, the ups and downs of life, and how they handled it with the family and with values - was the greatest brain washing session a son could have. No I cannot recover from this brain washing which my parents have given me. I am hopeless in this case I suppose :)
My eldest sister have been married and I have two most wonderful nephew and niece. A very hard working and respectable brother in law (a very good and sincere choice by her, having the family involved in the decision making process, and keeping patience and confidence in him). They are a beautiful couple, and no, she is not unhappy. My sisters and I are quite close. She has also been subjected to severe brain washing! It actually influences her decisions and choices for life aswell. Maybe she is hopeless too, and I can see that she and her husband are making their children equally hopeless :)
My other sister is also married, and married another wonderful man! They both are heading towards the same hopelessness that my sister grew up amongst! :)
Marriage is hard.
So is making a nice cake. But then you must set your heart to it, must add love, must keep the ingredients proper :). It depends upon the prioritization in a person's life. Family and values being the highest priority, while everything else (even career and ambition) coming second (but much lower, to be second to that highest peak). Climbing a mountain is never easy, but those who wish to reach the peak will die for it :).
holly grail of woman's life.
The seed being sowed ... for the man and womans life ... to combine and germinate into a family :). Proper sun, proper water (care from both the partners, and holding on to love and values) give a proper and growing tree. Otherwise, when there is no reliability, no commitment, no prioritization in life, this plant will change (not the change of growth, but the change on contraction) and die :).
Everything is subjected to change. Anything which is living, and so does a relationship. But you need to administer it in the right way, which will determine whether it change is a positive one, or whether it a negative one. Nothing is static, ofcourse, change is the sign of life, and the sign of death aswell ;)