'love God and love your fellow man.'
Love the sinner, not the sin. Your neighbour supports himself as a shoplifter and pickpocket. Do you meet up with him for a beer and chat amicably creating the impression that you approve of his conduct and treat it like "just anotehr job", thereby reinforcing his convicztion that he's doing the right thing?
I realise that if you were to criticise his "profession" he'd probably stop meeting up with you. So it's difficult to follow the Gospel admonitions:
"If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.
Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted.
As for a person who stirs up division, after warning him once and then twice, have nothing more to do with him, knowing that such a person is warped and sinful; he is self-condemned.
The problem is that not everyone (apparently you incldued) folllows the Good Book when it describes same-sex intimacies (sodomy) as a sin. And, as was the case with our hypothetical thief, following Evangelical instruction to admonish seems to only trigger resentment and hatred.