If as you say there are spouses who cross their fingers behind their back, what a way to start married life based on lies, now there is a foundation for failure.
take a big ole' step off your high horse, bucko. so you were a virgin when you got married? did you sleep in the same bed as your fiance before you got married? how do you feel about homosexuals? what about having sex for pleasure, whenever you want? what about contraception? ever been divorced? I could go on and on, I actually remember my pre-cana in Poland. it was done in mass lecture, the church was standing room only filled with couples about to get married....and half of them were falling asleep. you know, a "foundation for failure" and all that.
why would you want to put yourself through the paperwork needed for the Church
for the same reason most others do it. because one of their spouses can't imagine breaking the tradition, or an even stronger influence, because they know their mother would be heartbroken if she didn't see her little girl walk down the aisle. tradition trumps the rest and if just one wants it and the other doesn't, the "other" one chalks it up as, "oh hell, it's just 45 minutes, he/she's happy, then we can leave and start the real party." don't try and make it out to be more than it is.
The effect of the sacrament is an increase in sanctifying grace for the spouses, a participation in the divine life of God himself.
and hokus pokus alamagokus.
I mean, no offense dude, if you're into all that, rock on buddy, but you're romanticizing about something very few actually pay attention to.
my boyfriend did however read hed have to promise the priest he will never turn to the "wrong side" and join another religion and that all the children we have we bring up in the catholic faith..
ain't that nice? ain't it nice to know that you're "on the wrong side"? as a matter of fact, that would most likely include your entire family. it'll make you feel good walkin' down that aisle, especially because you'll finally be "on the right side".........right? look no further to see how amazingly condescending religion can be.
so bethanyxx, how do you feel about eliminating your own faith from your life, as well as your children's lives?
or do you plan on crossing your fingers behind your back.