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Mroz surname - adoption - searching for family members of my adopted Polish daughter


amurphy 1 | 1
22 Jan 2010  #1
Looking to contact family member of my adopted Polish daughter who was born Nov. 26,1986 in Krakow. Mother was from Tarnov. Last name Mroz?
billkat1 - | 1
28 Feb 2010  #2
I too am looking for the birth mother of our adopted children. We adopted in 2007 when our kids were 6 & 8, so they have vivid memories of their birth mother and their lives in Poland. Our situation is somewhat complicated, as our boys have 3 half-siblings that were adopted by another US couple in 2006. Recently we were notified of another sibling found in an orphanage in Warsaw. The other US couple is working towards adopting this child. We have a relationship w/the other US couple and are involved in their newest adoption. We thought that this new child might bring w/him additional information about Polish Mama. As of yet, it has not. It seems as though I have a wealth of information provided to us at the time of our adoption including birth parent names, last place of residence, birth place, birth dates, etc, but I have no idea how to make the info work for me short of going to Poland and knocking on doors. If anyone has info on how to get started on something like this, please let me know.
terri 1 | 1,621
28 Feb 2010  #3
Before you start knocking on doors, DO make sure that the mother wants to have contact with the children. By now, she may have a new family and a partner who may not know of the previous children. You could break that new family up by your contact. If you have a name, start looking on 'nasza klasa' or other portals, where you could make contact with the 'mother', directly but you MUST respect her wishes. You may also wish to consider the wishes of the 'children', if they want to get in touch with their 'birth mother', there maybe a good reason. Generally, it is only later that children ask 'why their birth mother didn't want them and abandoned them, gave them away like toys for others to play with'. Contact the mother/father if you MUST, but bear in mind, that the mother may also want the children back, (by law she cannot do this), but....
skysoulmate 14 | 1,297
25 Jan 2011  #4
Before you start knocking on doors, DO make sure that the mother wants to have contact with the children. By now, she may have a new family and a partner who may not know of the previous children. You could break that new family up by your contact....

... but you MUST respect her wishes.

Terri - you really feel that way? Wouldn't that be a relationship built on a lie? What about the wishes of her new partner to know the full truth about his fiance/wife, etc.? We are not talking about who she was with in the past, etc. Who cares. We are talking about a child she gave birth to. A pretty big deal, wouldnt you say?

I mean if I was her new partner I think I'd have liked to know the full truth, nothing wrong with putting up a child for adoption if that seemed like the right idea at the time. However to keep it secret from the new partner seems somewhat sickening to me... What else could she be hiding?? Sounds like a very unhealthy situation.
Varsovian 92 | 634
25 Jan 2011  #5
Without going into it any further, you can't argue with the deep emotions of other people - it's a minefield in so many ways.
skysoulmate 14 | 1,297
25 Jan 2011  #6
I totally agree.

I guess I was looking into the "deep emotions" of a man who one day finds out that his wife of 10 years or so had a child in the past that she gave up for adoption. Don't know what I was thinking, keep forgetting that we men have no feelings whatsoever.... I've read quite a few statements on this thread alone that we men are liars? How is this different? Enlighten me please.

If a man turns down a woman just because she had a child in the past then he simply doesn't deserve her. In relationships honesty should ALWAYS prevail. I just don't see why such an important event should be kept secret from a loved one??

"on this thread alone" - meant to say "on this forum alone."
annasurma1983 2 | 5
28 Jan 2011  #7
hi could you write me message billkat1 -i will help you find yours mother email me


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