tonysax
Hi tonysax,
We live in the Los Angeles area and my wife is Polish. I have lived here in the USA all of my life and after visiting Poland I have found that family means more in Poland than here in the US especially in Los Angeles. You don't say what the circumstances are regarding your relationship with the baby's mother except the child was unplanned. It's my opinion that the relationship with the child's mother is something that you have to think about first. You are here and she is in Poland carrying your child and what happens between both of you needs to be decided before you can decide what the best home situation for a child. This is my opinion but I think raising the child in Poland will give the child a sense of who they are and where they came from. The child will learn Polish and have family that will support, (you stated that your family here do not support you in this situation which is unfortunate and is one more reason not to support being in LA; they should celebrate the child's life A CHILD NOT A MISTAKE), and care for them. LA is the harsh reality of the bright lights going nowhere and having nothing. Many of our children struggle with acceptance, obesity, learning and many other situations that the child will not encounter being raised in Poland.
I hope that you and the mother are able to communicate and choose the best situation for the sake of the child and all the best in your decision which must weigh heavily upon you.