So I have a Polish friend that I have been speaking with and she lives in Poland. I asked her for her address so I could send her something in the mail. She gave me her address and then I thought I better tell her that I am going to send her something from the States.
I thought it would be fun just to send her something from America but when I told her I wasnt just sending a letter she got mad. She told me she was dead serious and didnt want me to send her anything.... So did I do something wrong? I wasnt sending her a diamond or anything, just a little something for fun...
So I know we are from different parts of the world, but did I do something wrong here?
No, you didn't. I can't say why she doesn't want a gift from you. There can be many reasons: maybe has a husband?? or knows reputation of polish girls??or doesn't have money to send you a gift, or thinks you want sth more than be just her friend....really many reasons :)
Sniezyk, I IMMEDIATELY saw the problem, if only be glancing at your profile under "Znasz j. polski?", to which you responded "No".
Clearly, it was among other things, a language issue; you don't speak her language, and she probably doesn't speak yours with cultural fluency. Result? CULTURE CLASH, seen a bazillion times, my friend!!
Did you do anything "wrong"? 'Course not. You merely extended the hand of friendship and this woman's femaleness got in the way. She would've reacted the same way if she were American, French or whatever! She probably though would not have reacted with the same speed were she also American, for example, and not Polish-:)
Incidentally, she didn't do anything "wrong" either. It was just a case of a silly misunderstanding gone beserk (near as I can tell).
Don't let it get to you. Trust me, I had a German girlfriend when I was in my early twenties and she was but a few years my junior. Now, although we spoke the same language since she didn't really know English, we still clashed on a broad range of intercultural issues. We finally decided to call it quits.
First, some of you people seem to be ******** and need to check your **** at the door. If you dont have something polite to say then dont say anything.
Yes she is a cyber friend that speaks PERFECT english. I told her I did not want anything in return and this was just some American souvenirs.
Hmmm. methinks here might be the rub, old man-:) She obviously misunderstood your completely innocent intentions. Had you explained them (more realistically perhaps, HAD them explained) to her in Polish, she more than likely would have been touched, albeit slightly embarrassed, maybe therefore reluctant to disgrace herself by saying the wrong thing.
You merely extended the hand of friendship and this woman's femaleness got in the way. She would've reacted the same way if she were American, French or whatever!
It means the guy did make a mistake.
I told her I did not want anything in return and this was just some American souvenirs.
Pawian, Sniezyk's only mistake was mistaking this girl's misimpressions, that's all. He's NOT in the wrong. This was HER perception (not always the reality)!
Well I didnt know what I did wrong there, but I REALLY dont know what i did wrong here. All I did was ask a simple question and get attacked for it....
IMHO, you did nothing wrong. I've seen the famous 'flip' numerous times here. You think all is well and 'boom', you are public enemy no1. Head up and move on. Who wants to be with a headcase?
Then just perhaps that ought have been made clear from the outset. Allright, I'm 52, slightly older generation when people did weird stuff like meet at parties, at the bakery, hotel lobbies etc... Internet dating?LOL Always a bit dodgey, I'd expect!
Lyzko, and everyone else for that matter....This woman is just a friend.....we are not dating....not talking about getting married.....never going to meet.....she is just a friend whom I chat with and nothing more....
We have never spoke about anything close to dating, and Im not iinterested in dating someone that lives on the other side of the globe.
I was just offering her a couple American items, I thought it would be fun...
just from a female point of view, how long have you been chatting to your friend? if its not been too long, then its understandable she may well be wary about receiving something through the post. to be honest if it were me i would probably be a bit wary. from her point of view, ( and i dont know what type of site you met her on) maybe she thinks she will be obligated to you in some way....if it were me though i think curiousity would get better of me. just apologise and hopefully you will remain friends
