Torments me my boyfriend had a relationship with a pole-how do I get over this

my boyfriend ex was a pole and its on my mind all the time! I keep thinking of her, looking at her on facebook etc. I think if she was english, spanish or any other nationality I would properly be able to forget about her but the fact he dated an polish woman just upsets me. I see polish people as a threat to my country, there are taking over and I cannot believe he may of married this woman and had polish babies with her. To me it shows a total disrespect to the UK.

I don;t know why I am posting this here? maybe get over my polish hatred? I don't want keep thinking of her, I dont want get worried when we hear a polish accent on the street or on tv that my boyfriend will be thinking of his ex.

How do I get over this? I think the main problem is I think when he sees polish shops, hear acccents that he is thinking of her. I dont want have this hate

I don't know either. My suspicion is that you are trolling. Why? Maybe you were inspired by a couple of quite stupid threads in the last few days.

it is not even written by a native speaker

definate troll

Trust me, Polish people are _very_ low on the list of threats to the UK. Historically the do end up assimilating and blending into the local populations unlike groups whose main contribution are gangs, violence, inbreeding, parasitism and dysfunctional cultural traditions.....


You probably can't. Break up with him (no matter how you feel about him) and keep reminding yourself that it was _your_ feelings that led to the break up, nothing that any Polish person did to you.

maybe it is a matter of imagination - imagine that you are safe in your relationship and that no Polish woman can threaten your relationship - they say positive thinking works miracles - after all your boyfriend broke up with this Polish girl so either she was not loving and caring enough or the cultural differences (including the language barrier) are too much for average people

as for mixed couples in general - there were lots such after many Poles had to stay in Britain after the World War - these people integrated pretty well and their offspring is fully integrated and you wouldn't perceive them a threat to Britain today - even if it is not gonna be the same this time (as it seems for most Poles for now - but it can take surprising turns in not too distant future) they are not gonna take the country over - yes they are competition in the labour market but mostly in menial jobs - and even this can change pretty soon as the German labour market opens up for Poles just now and Germany is just next to Poland - you can expect a lot of Polish people working in the UK to move to work in Germany in next couple of years

He is nor probably more demanding.

:)))))
We share the same thoughts...southern sun, must be...

It is the Balkan enlightment.

Is there any other kind?
The others just abused the term and concept.

The air here is different.It produces a more explosive mix.

My heart beads for you, have you ever considered undergoing cosmetic surgery? You might be more competitive if you go through with it, depending on how much work they have to do.

my boyfriend ex was a pole and its on my mind all the time! I keep thinking of her, looking at her on facebook etc. I think if she was english, spanish or any other nationality I would properly be able to forget about her but the fact he dated an polish woman just upsets me. I see polish people as a threat to my country, there are taking over and I cannot believe he may of married this woman and had polish babies with her. To me it shows a total disrespect to the UK.

I don;t know why I am posting this here? maybe get over my polish hatred? I don't want keep thinking of her, I dont want get worried when we hear a polish accent on the street or on tv that my boyfriend will be thinking of his ex.

How do I get over this? I think the main problem is I think when he sees polish shops, hear acccents that he is thinking of her. I dont want have this hate

Sheesh, someone here has one heck of a problem.

Assuming this isn't a troll job:

1) Polish people aren't a "threat" to UK, Ireland or any other place. Until Your politicians opt out of the EU and re-instate visa laws Polish can freely visit, settle, work, etc. Get over it. Not to mention that UK invited a boatload of Indian, Pakistani, Bangladeshi, even Somalian people a while back and a lot of them aren't really that keen on assimilating if You catch my drift, so what's with singling out Polish all of the sudden?

2) polish babies - from what I've seen a lot of Polish women who come over to the UK and "have babies" don't really raise their babies to be particularly "Polish", stressing overall education, ability to speak the LOCAL language and ability to fit in. And in the United States many of the younger generation "Kowalski's" don't even consider themselves Polish. Hence I truly don't get that fixation with "polish babies".

3) To me it shows a total disrespect to the UK. - lol... Shagging a Polish chick equals disrespecting the UK? Did the Queen issue an edict that I'm not aware of? Seriously, loads of British lads are doing Polish chicks ( for various reasons, I mean quite often a lad who works part-time and inherited a bedsit in Thamesmead from his granny is the very definition of success for a Polish lady ) so again - dunno what's Your problem.

4) How do I get over this? - honestly I believe You should see a doctor.

BTW, I'm Jewish so plz don't throw any Poland-based insults at me.

On the other hand in Greece I have met 10 years old polish children who do not speak a word of Greek despite being born and raised here.They go to polish schools and generally the Poles tend to keep their traditions and do not change much as the Russians do who speak Greek rather fluently.

Have you considered you may fancy her yourself?
because thats another thing that Poles do over here you know,they turn straight girls into lesbians ,watch out,you may end up invited to special Polish pies eating contest,thats their pies not ours,very fatty and quite chewy,especially if you get the tail.....

He must have been really desperate.

Haha, I'm going to come over and steal your hunky British men and I've got Polish genes in me which is a plus to them. Yep, they like my blonde hair, high cheekbones, and slim body not your horse face and mousy brown hair.

i bet you have a face like a bag of spanners...:)
Anyway the OP is winding you all up.....don't take the bait.

They say three is a crowd, but it could be fun.

he is obviously a traitor to mother england, you should murder him and then wrap yourself in the flag and commit suicide.

yes and send polonium to his ex...serve her right...

get some serious counseling.. cause people dont have obsessions unless they have issues and
you seem to have a problem with someone who is his *EX*

your behavior is unacceptable.

and your behavior shows insecurities , why would you look at her picture over and over?
yes get help asap.

I am not joking, I am serious, you are hating someone you dont even know, would you want
the whole nation of Polish people to hate you because your british and there are expats all over
Poland who are buying up their land. Yeah, would you want them to feel this way about you
then when you go for a nice holiday, someone tries to hurt you because you are british??

do you see how you sound? again I suggest you get some help.

trolling much OP?

She hasn't posted again since the last post, of course she was trolling

well she/he/ it needs help..

maybe its no immi coming back to haunt us.

nah, just trolling


nah, he must have found a girl and left us alone, thank God;)

[quote=aphrodisiac]nah, he must have found a girl

yeah he walked to the nearest sex store and bought her ;)

hey, this is what they are for after all;). I wish some other member would take this option;)

Hey I am back. I think its just because I am afraid he may want get with another polish girl and well I am english and cant compete, yes I am very insecure and no not a troll.

If I wasn't with my boyfriend I wouldn't give a crap about the polish but its just me being very insecure.