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19 Apr 2010 / #1
I am an African American woman...older..middle aged..but look younger
I met a wonderful man...beautiful academic Polish man..about my age..who also looks young!
We met from an online dating site and clicked immediately online...then on the phone
and then had three dates one of which was a special lenten church service.
The connection felt intense and promising.Our first kiss was explosive.
He brought up the idea of being in an exclusive relationship...and I wanted this so much,he'd already begun acting like a boyfriend
though of course ... I had normal apprehensions about things moving so quickly,but he is so special. He has said I am special and beautiful. I loved researching Polish words to text and email him in Polish and he was very very touched.
Then shortly after the I should be your boyfriend conversation...he says something odd...he said.. "you like me ...more than I like you." I asked ...what? and demanded to know what that meant...he brushed me off..said he had to get off the phone at that point... and then almost stood me up the very next night for our Saturday night movie date. I had to call him at to find out if he was coming and then he lied and said something came up but after being prompted...confessed to feeling ...things developng more than he wanted and so quickly and he needed to regroup. We finally went out but..I felt rejected..
He kept giving mixed signals....sitting close ..then not.....not wanting to kiss ...then asking why I didn't seduce him. Now we only communicate when I initate it...Meanwhile
he's been on that online dating site ALL the time ..but not contacting me...except only to respond the few times I've timidly reached out
I continue to date others but I only want him...but of course if he's not seeking me ..
I have to move on.
It hurts. I already fell in love with him and he seems flirtatious ...but not available to me as before. I am asking him to call me to clarify once and for all... what's happening. My friend says if he is not calling ...he is letting me know what's going on. She also sas his pulling back ..is male cultural....and if I leave thngs alone...not pressure him...we could hav relationship..
I met a wonderful man...beautiful academic Polish man..about my age..who also looks young!
We met from an online dating site and clicked immediately online...then on the phone
and then had three dates one of which was a special lenten church service.
The connection felt intense and promising.Our first kiss was explosive.
He brought up the idea of being in an exclusive relationship...and I wanted this so much,he'd already begun acting like a boyfriend
though of course ... I had normal apprehensions about things moving so quickly,but he is so special. He has said I am special and beautiful. I loved researching Polish words to text and email him in Polish and he was very very touched.
Then shortly after the I should be your boyfriend conversation...he says something odd...he said.. "you like me ...more than I like you." I asked ...what? and demanded to know what that meant...he brushed me off..said he had to get off the phone at that point... and then almost stood me up the very next night for our Saturday night movie date. I had to call him at to find out if he was coming and then he lied and said something came up but after being prompted...confessed to feeling ...things developng more than he wanted and so quickly and he needed to regroup. We finally went out but..I felt rejected..
He kept giving mixed signals....sitting close ..then not.....not wanting to kiss ...then asking why I didn't seduce him. Now we only communicate when I initate it...Meanwhile
he's been on that online dating site ALL the time ..but not contacting me...except only to respond the few times I've timidly reached out
I continue to date others but I only want him...but of course if he's not seeking me ..
I have to move on.
It hurts. I already fell in love with him and he seems flirtatious ...but not available to me as before. I am asking him to call me to clarify once and for all... what's happening. My friend says if he is not calling ...he is letting me know what's going on. She also sas his pulling back ..is male cultural....and if I leave thngs alone...not pressure him...we could hav relationship..