"In Poland a lot of women work and their men don't"?

Long but I need a help with this :)

I am from a different culture in which a man supports his woman financially , but am a bit different and it's ok if I Help with the finance.

Now the thing is that am married to a guy who is half polish and half like me :D
he's doing his Master degree , he goes to university 3 days a week after each day he stays at home . other than this he's doing nothing.

I am working as a teacher (just month ago I found the job) , but the money I bring is not enough at all (his tickets to university is half my salary)!! and he won't even look for a job

saying : in Poland lots of women work and their men don't !
supporting that with the fact that he's studying !

am not asking for 24/7 job , am just asking him to work in the weekend !!!!!!!!!

am so frustrated , broke and tired !
so am I putting too much pressure on him to work 2 days a week ? or does it work this way in Poland?

oh and add to that , do polish men (as Europeans) believe in the quality of "being the man of the house and being responsible for his woman"? because he says that this is only in our culture but in Poland it's ok if he's not supporting his woman and he's not acting manly ! I mean am doing everything like everything under the name "there's not such a thing called being the man in Poland"

No, it is not ok in Poland, get rid of him


that's bs, it must be non Polish side of him or something

get yourself a full Polish man not some half this half that

He's my husband and I love him , I dont thing I would get rid of him because of this , but I can cut my money and don't give him any !

I've spent around 6000 zlote in 5 months because he ain't work !

I just wanted to make sure how it works in poland :)

so yea, this is not normal, there are situations like yours when man doesn't work and woman does but normal Polish man does not feel ok about it and tryes to do something to change it, if he thinks it's ok that means he's immature mama's boy

My friend's husband ca't get a job abroad where he lives with his wife and he feels horrible with it. He is feeling so down.

I wish something will change with your husband's attitude toward work. Usually men will do everything to get a good job. On the other hand, I know a couple where she works and earns a lot of money while he sits at home and cares after their three children.

Try just nicely talk to your man. Maybe he will change his mind.

@adeona
To be frank, how it 'works' in Poland, or wherever, won't help you much here.

Your guy is studying. He is concentrating on that. He doesn't feel the need or have the energy to do anything other than that. You know that, and that is why you have been doing what you're doing, because you love him.

But what you are doing is tiring, and the responsibility with the money is draining. So first you tell him how you feel, and he says sorry ok but I am studying. Then you try to find cultural reasons for making him help you ... sorry. This isn't going to work. People don't operate like that. So, what - you say 'But in Poland the man is supposed to support the family' and he says 'oh, cripes, sorry, yes, forgot - let me go get a job in Pizza land at the weekends and until 3 am so you don't feel so bad' ... would be great, but you know it won't happen.

In terms of Polish culture, students usually are students - for years - until their late 20s even - and they have a kind of respected, untouchable status because they are 'studying'. Yes, they do sometimes work jobs - but not if they have a working partner ... Until your guy is in the workplace, he is dependent. And you are supposed to understand that and work now, because in the future he will be able to earn well because of his studying now.

Can you both cope on your salary at the moment? Is it possible? If you can live on love and adrenalin, do that.

He hasn't got there yet - you aren't yet seeing him being a man - he is still a student.

And would you really want him to be the big breadwinner, and you the zero? Because if the man does all the work, then the woman does what she's told. Do you want that? Think about it.

I would personally earn the money, live frugally, have a lot of sex and be happy, in your situation.

But that is just my opinion, and I am a bit bohemian, I think ; )

Ditto.