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English boyfriend coming to visit me in Poland


nomaderol  5 | 726  
15 Jan 2010 /  #31
Why I should feel obliged to unconditionally offer bed and board to a complete and utter stranger is beyond me.

i dont know why.. hmm, maybe, you may want to make a quality control test first.
Sokrates  8 | 3335  
15 Jan 2010 /  #32
But thats not how it works over here.

McCoy has a point, thats how it works here but in long term relationship, two months long and dumping a guy to your parents is just weird.
Amathyst  19 | 2700  
15 Jan 2010 /  #33
I count one real pole = McCoy.

Sok = 2

Sunshine = 3

Magda = 4

: if they don't want to have a complete stranger in their flat, they are un-Polish and should be thoroughly ashamed of themselves! :-/

Yeah shame on you, you selfish Pole for not wanting some random stranger in your house!!!! :D
Wroclaw Boy  
15 Jan 2010 /  #34
Wroclaw Boy:
I count one real pole = McCoy.
Sok = 2

Sunshine = 3

Magda = 4

Hang on you said most Poles before i flagged you, two of those three posted after i posted and you cant count sunshine as she started the thread. So please go back to your original post before trying to get smart and sarcastic. or will you start PMing people about me again?

if they don't want to have a complete stranger in their flat, they are un-Polish and should be thoroughly ashamed of themselves! :-/

Offer them the hotel money instead and then see what they say!! any way you dont count youve lived in England so long youre probably embarressed to even speak Polish in public.
Lir  
15 Jan 2010 /  #35
Have you asked your parents what they think? Surely that should be the first thing you do if it is their home?

See what they say about it all.

Maybe hostel for the two days you are working < he can do some sightseeing> and then maybe spend a few nights at your home when you are then off work and able to be with him < if the parents would welcome that>

Best of both then really. I think he would feel uncomfortable being on his own with your parents for the first two days if he has never met them before and especially if he cannot speak any Polish. That surely does make for a very awkward situation on both sides initially.

Good Luck though and hope it all works out for all of you.

:)
Magdalena  3 | 1827  
15 Jan 2010 /  #36
Offer them the hotel money instead and then see what they say!! any way you dont count youve lived in England so long youre probably embarressed to even speak Polish in public.

1. If you offer them the hotel money you will have offended and embarrassed them so thoroughly they might never speak to you again. At least this is how it would work for me and mine.

2. Why don't I count? I've only lived in England for a couple of years and no, I am not one of those idiots who pretend to be British. I love being Polish and Slavic :-)

BTW, I spent a couple of years in India as well, does that mean I am now Asian? ;-p
szarlotka  8 | 2205  
15 Jan 2010 /  #37
BTW, I spent a couple of years in India as well, does that mean I am now Asian?

No - your are now officially a Polindianbrit. I believe you are now entitled to some form of EU grant;)
Magdalena  3 | 1827  
15 Jan 2010 /  #38
I believe you are now entitled to some form of EU grant;)

gimme gimme gimme! I could sure use the money ;-)
BrutalButcher  - | 386  
15 Jan 2010 /  #39
BTW, I spent a couple of years in India as well, does that mean I am now Asian? ;-p

How was the food there? A cousin of mine travelled to India once. He used a public restroom (:S) and they had to cut off his leg.

But he said it was a beautiful place.
Magdalena  3 | 1827  
15 Jan 2010 /  #40
How was the food there?

I was quite young at the time, but I remember having access to most kinds of food from traditional Indian to European. I even had mok-mok (very similar to kołduny w rosole!) cooked by a an old Tibetan lady at a small stall somewhere in the Himalayas (again, was too young to properly register the place name and all).

Funny, but I actually like Indian cuisine a lot more now than I did back then. I guess as you grow older, you learn to appreciate the variety the world has to offer ;-)

I also bathed in the Ganga, so am officially absolved of all sin in this life, ha! Or rather of all sins committed up until that moment, I guess. Not so good, after all...
Wroclaw Boy  
15 Jan 2010 /  #41
I am not one of those idiots who pretend to be British.

i should hope not and that was not what i implied. At the end of the day if there was a million Brits in Poland i wouldnt want to advertise where im from.

From your posts i would say that your family had and has money, consequently you were shielded form the harsh realities of life in Poland. Most Poles i know do not have money and they think like the majority who also do not have money. I dont wnat to drag up the enitre conversation but i believe many who comment on here are not on the level at all.
Magdalena  3 | 1827  
15 Jan 2010 /  #42
From your posts i would say that your family had and has money

Actually, you couldn't be farther from the truth.
I come from the downtrodden intelligentsia, my family has always struggled, and whatever I have now (not a lot of it!) I have worked very hard to achieve. Not that that has anything to do with the topic at hand.
frd  7 | 1379  
15 Jan 2010 /  #43
Well like anyone would say "Yeah, you're right, I'm a lazy bum who never had any life problem".. and that's where we can end this discussion.. : o
bullfrog  6 | 602  
15 Jan 2010 /  #44
downtrodden intelligentsia,

two fascinating words.what is the intelligentsia? Are these people who consider themselves loftier or more intelligent than others? does it mean that you consider yourself and your family as intellectuals??
king polkakamon  - | 542  
15 Jan 2010 /  #45
From my experience it is better to stay in hotel than close to parents unless you have special interest for the mom.
Englishpoznan  4 | 99  
15 Jan 2010 /  #46
Why don't you just ask your parents? Then we can end this boring thread!
Emily_xo  - | 5  
15 Jan 2010 /  #47
Emily_xo:
and if I was from a nice family
Everything would be lovely in the world of bringing boyfriends home.

Clearly this girls parents would not be comfortable with a stranger in the flat, I can tell you now, neither would mine, I dont think it has anything to do

Actually you miss the point, if this situation involved a nice Polish family, then they would react accordingly to frd's assumption

Hmm I always thought a hotel idea would make the parents even more uncomfortable

because girl's of such nice familie's are well behaved ofcourse. :))

Emily_xo:
Then I would finish him somewhere in the middle of the night, when everybody is asleep.
What do you mean? Murder plan?

Having my mind fixed on him would not arouse me to fall asleap. I would have to check on him to see how his body is reacting. Assuming that he's firm, I wouldn't wanna go to bed with my mind wandering on that I have some unfinished job in the house.

:D
mira  - | 115  
16 Jan 2010 /  #48
Why don't you just ask your parents? Then we can end this boring thread!

She already did. Maybe you should start reading first. Besides, if it's boring for you, why would you post anything here, eh?lol
To me, if you say, sunshine, that your parents prefer him staying in a hotel, then he should stay there.I presume he will be invited for a dinner to your parents, so this is when they can meet.
bullfrog  6 | 602  
16 Jan 2010 /  #49
Assuming that he's firm, I wouldn't wanna go to bed with my mind wandering on that I have some unfinished job in the house.

That's a good girl Emily, never leaving a job unfinished??I think you and I could get on well one with another!
Emily_xo  - | 5  
17 Jan 2010 /  #50
I think you and I could get on well one with another!

well I'm not surprised, most people(regardless of it's background) find it easy to get along with me.
rtz  - | 46  
24 Jan 2010 /  #51
... I think this is the beginning of a beautiful friendship!
childwithin  8 | 136  
4 Feb 2010 /  #52
well I'm not surprised, most people(regardless of it's background) find it easy to get along with me

for sure

regardless of it's background

that just made me think, humble appologies that it did
RonWest  3 | 120  
4 Feb 2010 /  #53
Emily_xo

More women should think like this. You'll make a great wife for some lucky guy someday!!!

Having my mind fixed on him would not arouse me to fall asleap. I would have to check on him to see how his body is reacting. Assuming that he's firm, I wouldn't wanna go to bed with my mind wandering on that I have some unfinished job in the house.

:D

skysoulmate  13 | 1250  
4 Feb 2010 /  #54
...If he were my boyfriend, and if I was from a nice family, and if he was coming over for few days and arriving doing the day time- having to deal with long distance relationships is not easy- then I would take him into the hotel doing the day.

Yeah, that sounds reasonable.

Then I would take him back to my house doing the evening to meet my family, where we would spend the night. Have him sleep on my bed, where I would be sleeping on the couch, or bedroom floor, depending on your parents.

...and respectful to everyone...

Then I would finish him somewhere in the middle of the night, when everybody is asleep. In the morning, I would cook a breakfast for my family, while they get to know their potential son in law. Then we would go out again doing the day, probably back into a hotel room.
:-)

OMG! I'm falling in love all over again!!! ;)
rtz  - | 46  
4 Feb 2010 /  #55
finish him

... with a knife, of course and the problem is solved! :)

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