If you've got a trauma make sure to share it with others eh?
I dont consider it a trauma at all, it was nerve racking the first time but now i wouldnt have it any other way, im treated like a king when i stay with the inlaws. Beers waiting on the dining room table chilled to the correct temperature the lot. Besides its a two way deal.
My parents said that if we lived in a house, not in a flat he could stay with us. But in this situation they said they prefer he stayed in hostel or something similar.
I'd take that as a personal insult to be honest. So basically he will never really be welcome as long as they live in a flat which will ofcourse be for ever.
I would be embarrassed having to do a number two, in a confined space with the future in-laws sitting in the next room.
The largest turd in the house is a right given to the young man who marries the daughter, that was told to me by my father in law. Besides were all adults right? Most Polish people cant afford nice en suite apartments or multiple wc's, you just have to make do. I really dont care about that anymore.