Amount of money for gift (I have a girlfriend in Poland)

11 Dec 2011 / #31

If he was asking about a real girlfriend, the replies would have been very different. But it's obvious that he hasn't seen her for a long time, he barely knows her, yet thinks she's a "girlfriend".

If he's dumb enough to send several "gifts" a year to someone like that, then he can't really expect better responses.

Reading stuff like this, it's no wonder that so many people still fall for Nigerian scams:

Are all Polaks as greedy and rude as these people? Because this friend wants to come to America, and I am starting to think that, if she is like the ones who answered my question, I don't want her here. In fact she works at a bank and wants to be a financial consultant, and now I notice that in all her emails, she seems to talk about that, and money, a lot.

a.k.

11 Dec 2011 / #32

Guy asks a question in all innocence and gets mugged by half a dozen infuriated PM members.

He is not so innocent. Look what he has posted under "reply" user name.

Sidliste_Chodov

How do you know that girl asked for any gifts?
It could be that she is using him but on the other hand he nowhere said that those gifts were expected by his "girlfriend". Maybe he was sending them spontanously?

Sidliste_Chodov 1 | 438

11 Dec 2011 / #33

Sidliste_Chodov

How do you know that girl asked for any gifts?
It could be that she is using him but on the other hand he nowhere said that those gifts were expected by his "girlfriend". Maybe he was sending them spontanously?

We can't know for sure, but he obviously has his own doubts already:

Are all Polaks as greedy and rude as these people? and now I notice that in all her emails, she seems to talk about that, and money, a lot.

delphiandomine 86 | 17823

11 Dec 2011 / #34

It could be that she is using him but on the other hand he nowhere said that those gifts were expected by his "girlfriend". Maybe he was sending them spontanously?

Of course she's using him.

But he's a racist idiot, so it all equals out. Can't say I feel sorry for Poles reliving dumb racist Americans of their $7/hour salary.

f stop 24 | 2493

11 Dec 2011 / #35

IMHO, $20 in a mail shows you have no imagination, know nothing about me and are
too lazy to go to the store and post office. A stupid teddy bear would be
better. Bottle of perfume (Channel has a new one). Simple bangle bracelet. Don't
send money. It's not an amount. $200 will be as bad as $20.

wielki pan 2 | 250

11 Dec 2011 / #36

send a card and a nice winter scarf. that should be enough.

Expect more from you than this comment Mr Moderator... !!! The fact remains that if you like somebody the skys the limit when it comes to gifts, 1000zl in this context is peanuts for somebody living in the west... The Americans have always big noted how rich they are and conned many a Polish Lass, the naive Polish girl eyes water and ears prick when she hears she is about to meet a man from America lol.. In truth the Americans are as poor as anybody else and current figures suggest that some 40 million Americans live below the poverty line.. This has brought about a generation of Polish people who are good at using the calculator and experienced in the art of gold digging...Sending a winter scart would find its way to a place other than being wrapped around the neck...more likely in the rubbish bin.

f stop 24 | 2493

11 Dec 2011 / #37

Sending a winter scart would find its way to a place other than being wrapped around the neck...more likely in the rubbish bin.

What on earth are you talking about, you silly man??

Wroclaw 44 | 5359

11 Dec 2011 / #38

Expect more from you than this comment Mr Moderator...

in the context of the relationship, which in actual fact is nothing, then i stand by what i said.

wielki pan 2 | 250

12 Dec 2011 / #39

in the context of the relationship, which in actual fact is nothing, then i stand by what i said.

Now Mr Wroclaw, my comments were intended to be light hearted, but if you want to be serious, can I ask you a question would you sent a person you fell in love with a nice winter scarf? somehow I don't think so.. Unfortunately Poles are too serious, its time they laugh at themselves like the rest of us do.

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What on earth are you talking about, you silly man??

Well f stop, you may be right, but can I suggest you take up a course in reading and understanding english..good luck.

f stop 24 | 2493

12 Dec 2011 / #40

you were airing your dirty laundry, I hoped to snap you out of it, but.. nevermind. Carry on.

wielki pan 2 | 250

12 Dec 2011 / #41

No dirty laundry.. oops I'll just check....nope its all clear my end.. I won't snap out if it, don't need to... you may need to, forum members will undoubtedly assist you in finding a good English speaking tutor in Poland.. Check us out.. Poland is Good

f stop 24 | 2493

12 Dec 2011 / #42

forum members will undoubtedly assist you in finding a good English speaking tutor in Poland..

That's a first. :) I do appreciate all attempts at wit.
What I referred to as your dirty laundry, is the fact that if in your experience a Polish women are likely to throw a Christmas present of a silk scarf in the 'rubbish bin', then that says something about you and your relationships. Wielki Pan. :)

wielki pan 2 | 250

12 Dec 2011 / #43

hmmm... I don't know what you are getting at f stop... please explain... does it mean that I will need to take up english classes at a Polish English School. I don't think so, but nothing would surprise me.. hmm.. well don't know about a silk scarf, but the question remains would YOU accept a woolen scarf???.. do you carry a get rich calculator in your pocket???

f stop 24 | 2493

12 Dec 2011 / #44

I don't know what you are getting at f stop... please explain...

which part?

wielki pan 2 | 250

12 Dec 2011 / #45

what are you getting at Miss f stop... I'm just a easy going guy... no need for a heavy agenda please...

f stop 24 | 2493

12 Dec 2011 / #46

k then, did a woman ever threw your gift in a garbage, because she wanted something more expensive? That's the story I'd like to hear.

wielki pan 2 | 250

12 Dec 2011 / #47

No... but I would never give her rubbish....

f stop 24 | 2493

12 Dec 2011 / #48

Consider the possibility that some of those Polish women' calculator skills you keep bringing up could have been acquired after they met you. ;)

Meathead 5 | 467

12 Dec 2011 / #49

Gordo or whomever you are you don't know the girl well enough to be sending her gifts. You can't buy affection. Aren't there any local girls you know that are looking for a date on a Saturday night?

wielki pan 2 | 250

12 Dec 2011 / #50

Consider the possibility that some of those Polish women' calculator skills you keep bringing up could have been acquired after they met you. ;)

I'm a easy target, you may want to divulge your skills at winning over the hard earned earnings of the person of your life!!!, just joking the bottom line is the author of this post wanted to know what was enough to forward to a loved one.. would you accept a $20 from the US of A as a xmas gift....somehow I don't think so...

f stop 24 | 2493

12 Dec 2011 / #51

you may want to divulge your skills at winning over the hard earned earnings of the person of your life!!

seriously, don't you realize that statements like that make you look foolish? If you really think that all the women are out for the guys money, then you have a very narrow view of the world.

And to answer your question; if it's a scarf, I'd keep it and reciprocate with a tie or something, and a nice note. But, if it's $20, I'd send it back with impersonal x-mas wishes, and maybe a thinly veiled suggestion for a cheritable donation, if I can think of one. ;)

a.k.

12 Dec 2011 / #52

wielki pan

What's your nationality?

wielki pan 2 | 250

12 Dec 2011 / #53

And to answer your question; if it's a scarf, I'd keep it and reciprocate with a tie or something, and a nice note. But, if it's $20, I'd send it back with impersonal x-mas wishes, and maybe a thinly veiled suggestion for a cheritable donation, if I can think of one. ;)

Not a bad answer, however the tie would be filed away and never see the light of day, ties have reached there expiry date, doubt if they will be a fashion statement in the near future...

[quote=a.k.]What's your nationality?

Identify as Polish, have no choice as both parents are Polish...

a.k.

12 Dec 2011 / #54

Identify as Polish, have no choice as both parents are Polish...

Have you been born/raised in Poland?

Does your mother married your father because he was giving her expensive gifts?

I feel sorry for you, you probably have nothing to offer besides money... therefore you will never experience a true love.

wielki pan 2 | 250

13 Dec 2011 / #55

[quote=a.k.]I feel sorry for you, you probably have nothing to offer besides money... therefore you will never experience a true love.

Unless your a mind reader I don't know what this has to do with my comments, I was only making a few points about what people expect when giving gifts....I'm sure there are other valid points which have been raised...I don't think giving somebody in Poland 20$ is a good idea...

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17 Dec 2011 / #56

@Gord

Dont give money unless you are her uncle ,or she will use you up for everything you got and then she will dump you .On the other hand how would you feel if she sent you $20 to USA ? Would you feel embarassed or would you gladly accept it and then would you be expecting more $20 dollar bills to come your way for your bday, easter , halloween etc?