Hi! Im a girl from Asia. I went to Poland this summer for vacation and to meet my friend (first meeting!). The first intention was just spending time in Europe but after few days of spending so much time with my friend, I fell in love with him. Unexpected. He can speak good English and really sweet because he will send me him every night. Even if his tired. I can feel that he likes me too, because some of his actions and words, for example; he said that he will never visit my country on the first day, (too expensive) but now we are making plans for his visit next summer (his willing to get a part time job to earn money). This action leads me to believe that he likes me back too, but I'm not certain. Because on the first day, he told me that Polish are very hospitality to foreigners. This is the reason why I won't dare to confess to him. By the way, I'm back to my country and we have been chatting through the skype and chats everyday (in the past, it's like once a month), and I will spend this Christmas with him. Therefore I wont like this relationship to be awkward. So my questions are, Are polish men very welcoming to foreigners? As in willing to spend time all his time with the girl, prepare meals, invite the girl home, introduce to his friends and told his mom about the girl? What do you think about my doubts?
Thankyou for spending time to read and answer my doubts. Really grateful :) That's why I fall in love with polish ;)T
I am not Polish but I guess men are men...I would do all that crap till I get tired of that girl and expect her to cook clean do chores and earn money to support my drinking,gambling,smoking and whoring habbits.Anyway distant relations usually dont work with my exp.
Be careful when you are with him. Learn to understand him, and if he is interested to marry too, then talk about it. Have patience, encourage him to take a deeper look into his career. I think he will be very lucky to have you as his partner :).
My wife is a South Korean, and we have a daughter too. Its a wonderful experience, however, only with serious people. Unfortunately many stupid and selfish people are around in this world, and in every nationality.
.I would do all that crap till I get tired of that girl and expect her to cook clean do chores and earn money to support my drinking,gambling,smoking and whoring habbits
I'm sure that he's not treat you like only friend. He has a typical symptoms when Polish boy is fall in love. Is it a love? This is not a simple answer. When next time you will meet him - look at his eyes and you should know...
But I have one advice for You: Don't be so fast. Some words said too fast (for example: Marry me, I cannot live without you) could destroy everything. Polish men need time. Real love need time...
So my questions are, Are polish men very welcoming to foreigners? As in willing to spend time all his time with the girl, prepare meals, invite the girl home, introduce to his friends and told his mom about the girl? What do you think about my doubts?
You madame, have a textbook type of an, at least interested in you, Pole.
To say the least, this is not just common courtesy. If a polish guy invites you over for Christmas and talks about you with his mom he definetly sees you as something more than a friend.
As far as I experienced Poland and Polish people, they tend to be very warm and friendly, interested in other cultures. Inviting you over for christmas, meeting his friends and family and telling you Polish are pretty much open to forneigers is a way of showing you his culture and a way of showing you who HE is. The chatting on a daily basis and willing to save up money to visit you in the near future may also indicate that he really likes you.
I agree that they tend to be very warm and friendly, interested in other culture. This is what I saw from his friends :) Thankyou for giving me useful information :)
Send you home? Do you mean; He brings you home/to your place? Anyway, you are in a privileged position because you can chat and figure things out before you show up at christmas, Im sure you can find a subtle way so things wont get awkward! I wish I was chatting with the Polish guy I like! Good luck!
Is that you wrong name:)? My suggestion; learn a few Polish words and phrases, they love that, also reveals effort coming from you. And bring a little gift from your country for the host! Or a delicacy everyone can enjoy! When I came over to Poland for christmas, they really appriciated it!
Lodz: Hahaha I saw the comment. She posted a day and received many mails, maybe because its rare for a Thai to appear on here? :)
Dancer7: That person isn't me. Thankyou for your advice! I have prepared everything needed, just waiting for the day to come :D What delicacy did you bring over? :)
I brought some small souvenirs from Holland and Dutch cake, its was just a nice gesture. They were not into giving christmas presents to one another but I dont know how its done among other familys in Poland. Here in Holland it can vary. Christmas in Poland is a bigger thing when you compare with Holland, but we do find christmas the most important celebration of the year.
I spent 3 days with Chinese guy travelling in business across Estearn Eorope. The guy is 25 28 yo. Looking not bad. Always sending - receiving messages on his iPhone. No girlfring / wife in China. I observed he had problem with direct relations with real woman, he was shy talking to any. I hope your Polish boyfriend is not like that guy.
Dancer7: I'm thinking of bringing some local snacks like biscuits and cookies. I brought some cookie over the last time and he said that its yummy. Maybe I will bring something similar :) For the Christmas presents, he told me who he will buying presents for, and they are all the seniors who are older. So I'm unsure should I prepare something small? Little Souviners? But this makes that I have to prepare for everyone isn't it? I'm afraid that its overdoing action.. By the way, why did you travel to Poland the last time? :)
Wawa_marek: My polish friend is definitely not the same. Thankyou for the input :)
I travelled to Poland because Im of Polish/Jewish descent. I was curious about my roots, since there are no Polish tradtions left in our family. I had met a few people form Poland at work and they invited me over, however this is a long time ago. I remember they had fortune cookies at christmas (thats Chinese isnt it?)) for everyone and they loved it!
About your presents, I agree, dont over do it. You could ask your crush about this and what might be expected in terms of giving Christmas presents. Although I would bring at least the cookies ( fortune cookies, or any cookie you like) This way you can show something about your culture too.
While chatting, cant you just ask him a little bit more about his love life? Like if theres someone he really likes? Youre friends so questions about this topic shouldnt be that strange (without coming on to strong). I have male friends in which I have no romantic intrest at all and I ask them all the time.
I think I will just stick to just bringing cookies, and I will help just help to take some photos during the exchange time then :)
The suggestion about asking his love life is awesome, but how should I start the topic about this? There was onces I asked him about polish girls (don't remember the exact question I asked), and said that the girls like older and more money men to be boyfriend.
By the way, it's really nice to have you keep giving me good advices and suggestions. Thankyou so much! If there's a chance, hope that I can meet you in Poland :)
Youre so sweet, he is a lucky guy! A psychologist would say; how would you bring this up? Be creative! Talk about your daily life, ask about his, if he sums up the negative sides, you could ask him if theres anyone he likes that cheers him up or whatever, test the water a little bit. He might be hesitant to tell you cause my bets are on you, you both seem rather shy. Bring up dating in Poland and China, his opinion and observations cannot be free from his own experiences and outlook on the matter. And slowly ask a little more specific questions, that what I would do although my questions would be very much depending on his anwsers and openness about the topic.
There is this Polish guy here in Holland i really like, if it works out, I give you a call at Christmas time ;)
