I am in love with a Polish man but he is trouble

I am in love with a Polish man. I am a Norwegian girl. He is 10 years older than me and he is not interested in girlfriend. He says he is a bad man. I think he has dangerous business.

But everytime we meet and hang out, he is very comforting and shows affection to me. This is what I don't understand. It feels like he likes me but he feels like a bad person and wants to protect me from his bad side. So maybe he is just scared that I will get in his business trouble.

I think he is good inside and he would never hurt me.

Should I just forget about this Polish man? Should I move on and forget about him? I miss him all the time when we are not together.

I actually admire the guy. He's straight (not sick) and telling you that he isn't good for you from the start. He just doesn't want to hurt u. I say: Believe you him.

@NoToForeigners

I admire him too. He is a very strong-willed person and intelligent. But he keeps saying that he is a bad man and he will go to Hell. He always try to convince me that he is evil. But I don't feel that he is evil, I feel like he is good inside and scared of appearing weak. I think in the bad business he is involved with he has to appear strong and powerful and fearless.

He keeps saying he is bad but he never do bad things to me, only good.

He is being honest with you. He doesn't have to be bad to do bad things but doing them makes him bad, he is catholic. Ask him to be good then you might succeed.

It is better that he is being honest with you rather than lying and it seems even though he warns you, you are in love with him and ignore the warnings.

I would advise asking him the following question. Do you think the way you live is okay and do you want to stop being a 'bad' man?

If he doesn't think it is okay and wants to change, then you have something to work with. If he says he will always be bad, that's just who he is, then it would be an idea not to stay with him, you will only be hurt in the long run, no matter how much you think you love him.

Man I feel like an agony aunt.

Do you know any Polish, shyluna? It might help in forging a meaningful relationship, either romantic or platonic:-)

He's either

A) a criminal

B) pretending to be a criminal to play the bad boy card

C) could have some very strange perversions he is embarrassed of

D) a young emo/goth dude. Does he wear all black and have a brooding disposition? (He's not evil, he's just read too much Bram stoker and listened to too much Cannibal Corpse)

Personally if a girl told me straight up I'm crazy, I'm evil, I'm a $lut, etc it would def put me on guard. Then again the crazies tend to be the best in bed.

Maybe ask him where he works or what he does for a living? Maybe ask him what kind of girls or fantasies he's into? That could help narrow down his 'evil' side or why he believes he's such... Maybe he's just a drug dealer or something. In that case its a personal preference on how you view such activities.

Either way is be very careful... Its like the story of the old woman who brought a frozen snake into her house and was surprised when the snake bit her... The guys telling you he's evil - that's a big warning sign. Its one thing to say on a date things like I'm shy, I'm from a poor family, I'm unemployed, I'm horny, hell I've had a girl tell me straight up she's diagnosed bipolar before. But evil??

WB?

Its the perfect intro....for him Lol


If he were really that bad, he wouldn't tell you anything at all:)

Does this guy wear a kilt and lift weights a lot?

Be very careful indeed. Many warning signs here and you would do well to take onboard what he has said.

What exactly is the bad business?

Sounded a wee bit dodgy right from the start:-) Spot on, jon!

so don't dig it

Women likes bad guys. Old story.

Bad guys love is stronger hyhy. Even criminals have girlfrends happy to use dirty money. Love to read this wants to protect me, I don't feel that he is evil, he is good inside, he never do bad things to me, I miss him all the time hehe

I don't know why I or anybody else bothers replying to these.

What normally happens is someone joins the board to ask a question, usually about work in Poland or a relationship with a Polish person. A bunch of people reply. The person who asked the question is then never heard from again, or they might interact once or twice after their first post and then they are never heard from again. Meanwhile for the next few days a bunch of us on here debate this person's personal issue, even though they have long gone and lost interest.

Yes, interesting. Pakistanis, Afgans, Albanians and Chechens also asked something and one never heard again most of them. Hopefully, they got their answers.