A friend I met while I was studying spent almost 3 years with her boyfriend.
The key for her was to give him freedom
They didn't control eachother. He spent his time the way he wanted. So was she.
My friend even didn't notice when they became almost strangers for each other.
It's too long story to describe but as a result, he started to have had his own life (she had no idea about his new companionship), lied, flirted with many girls, was visiting his girlfriends parents, going for weekends with new friends.
As a student of psychology that girl knew that if man feels free he will always come back to her. He did in fact.
Breaking up wasn't nice for my friend. She heard something like :"Well, I am not sure if you will not want to be with me again", "you aren't resposible, you don't know what you want, you don't want to grow up or similar b**** like "you wanted to be on a lonely island and I even wanted to be with you there".
My question is: where are borders of freedom in relationship?
The key for her was to give him freedom
They didn't control eachother. He spent his time the way he wanted. So was she.
My friend even didn't notice when they became almost strangers for each other.
It's too long story to describe but as a result, he started to have had his own life (she had no idea about his new companionship), lied, flirted with many girls, was visiting his girlfriends parents, going for weekends with new friends.
As a student of psychology that girl knew that if man feels free he will always come back to her. He did in fact.
Breaking up wasn't nice for my friend. She heard something like :"Well, I am not sure if you will not want to be with me again", "you aren't resposible, you don't know what you want, you don't want to grow up or similar b**** like "you wanted to be on a lonely island and I even wanted to be with you there".
My question is: where are borders of freedom in relationship?