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OP Chrysalis  5 | 30  
31 Jul 2011 /  #31
Ah, nice! I hope you have some cold beer nearby. I've done kayaking myself, it's pretty hard actually. I wasn't very good at the rescue techniques where you flip over and wave your arms above water looking for your buddy's oar... I usually have to eject and start over. Haha.

OK... so regarding the global economy, what I was trying to say there was that in the old days the man made the money and the woman ran the home. I was trying to say that these are modern times and I have no expectation of living the way families did way back then. Today, modern families are dual-earner households and men do stuff like cook, clean, and change diapers. I have no problem doing this and really I'm more organized and cleaner than she is. I don't expect her to be my maid or servant. So I do care about being manly, and meanwhile she is very feminine. We are complementary. I wouldn't say I'm fearless and never worry about things either. I just try to be balanced. I hope this makes sense and doesn't sound threatening (bcs it sure isn't intended to be)!

And ask yourself this, if it was the father (imaginary, concerned father), instead of her mother giving you the runaround, would you do anything differently?

Good question. I'd stipulate here that he'd have to be doing/saying the same exact things that the mother is. In that case, no, I wouldn't do anything different. Which would mean my earlier statement about not taking orders from women is redundant and did not need to be said.

Which boils down to the fact that I must take your point. I was posturing to some degree and it wasn't necessary.
f stop  24 | 2493  
31 Jul 2011 /  #32
You'll do ok. Get drunk with the b!tches, make 'em eat out of the palm of your hand.
;)
rybnik  18 | 1444  
31 Jul 2011 /  #33
Good. Listen kolego, I know this is unsolicited advice but you're gonna get it anyway. You sound smart and savvy - use it to your advantage. I'm sure you've made allies within her family(or at least you've scoped-out the situation and determined who you could make an ally- right?) So, as you yourself said, use your charm throughout the entire family and win them over on by one. This will make dilute Mama's power, win you much-needed "friends" within the family and hopefully reduce the overall tension. You look good; Teściowa(mother-in-law) looks good, GF feels good and all is well.......just sayin ;)..Good Luck and break a leg.
OP Chrysalis  5 | 30  
31 Jul 2011 /  #34
Thanks, everyone....! I will be following your advice.
southern  73 | 7059  
31 Jul 2011 /  #35
In your position I would do the sister and the mother as well and keep everyone happy.You also need to bribe your way Slavs like presents.Bribe everyone even the dog of the family.
f stop  24 | 2493  
31 Jul 2011 /  #36
LOL southern!
rybnik  18 | 1444  
31 Jul 2011 /  #37
In your position I would do the sister and the mother as well and keep everyone happy

Why didn't I think of that?
southern  73 | 7059  
31 Jul 2011 /  #38
It is unfair to exclude the mother from your advances.Do you have any idea how insulting and humiliating can this be for a Polka?Spare her of all benefits and center on her creation?So you have to give equal opportunities and make everyone a beneficiary of your grace.
ZIMMY  6 | 1601  
31 Jul 2011 /  #39
I nominate southern as "Philosopher of the Month".

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