Need language help - Asking permission from Polish parents in law

Hi all!

It has come to the point that I will ask my girlfriend to "marry" me. I say it in this way because we both know and feel that marriage wouldn't be the best for us right now. And therefore we will get engaged. I still want to do it the right way and asking my "future" parents in law for permission. The question for sure isn't coming out of the blue for anyone, so that's not the problem.

The problem is, my polish is very limited to say the least, and my parents in law doesn't speak english. So... I need help to carry on conversation. Both with the question of their daughters hand, and maybe it would be a nice gesture to be able to tell my intentions (which they basicly know but...), that I want to have their daughter as my fiancé and that there will be a marriage in the future. For me it will be mostly formal, my parents in law loves me and I am pretty sure that nothing would make them happier than for me marrying their daughter. They basicly even told us so.

So I need help with the language, specificly how to ask for their daughters hand in a formal way, and also this a little more carrying on conversation maybe about my intentions about marriage (which they are pretty much prepered for) so that it just doesn't end with the one question.

Thanks in advance, and hopefully someone can help.

/ Mvh Nojas

Grataluję i powodzenia. Congratulations and good luck.

I am very sorry but unless you have a good level of Polish it won't be possible to carry out a two conversation expressing your intentions, hopes for the future etc., but you could say things that they will understand which I am sure that you already know.

Instead of kocham cię say kocham ją etc. I love her instead of I love you. Someone else more know more things that you would like to say, maybe your girlfriend will help you? I am sure she won't mind hearing how much you love her etc.

And just to use all the polite forms, Pani, Pan, don't use ty or any of the 2nd person endings etc when addressing her parents. I am sure that you know this also.

Well... No thanks to this forum I today managed to get my permission/blessing from what now will be my father in law. My excellent polenglish and his excellent polgerman combined with a bottle of "Pan Tadeusz" sealed the deal. :-)

He knew exactly what was going on with my "During dlugo czas mam pytanie" (^^), I could see it in his eyes and his smile.

Maybe I will ask my girlfriend tomorrow if I find Ojcow or Pustynia Bledowska beautiful enough. Which I am sure I will.

good to hear :) congratulations!