What am i to do knowing i can't get to see my Polish daughter

I am a British squaddie serving here in Afghanistan soon leaving in mid May but my ex wife who has our daughter aged 6 is restricting my visitations.I haven't seen my daughter since Jan during my R&R and i love her to bits.The situation is complicated as the ex is Polish and they live in Poland while i am based in Germany.She is saying that i will be interfering with her school exams/work and because of my obvious lack of Polish i should not even bother coming during my leave to see her.I always take care of my daughter's well being,the mum gets £600/mth on top of the many things i spoil her with, every spare weekend or on leave when i go see her and i do understand that the mum means well but it hurts that i can't get to see her knowing that i do the best i can as a father.

Please give me some advice on rights i might be missing out on and help me.

Id speak to the Padre mate.
All you will get on here is half arsed judgemental comments .
Good luck and keep safe till May.

21st century feminism at work.

My advice: try talking her into letting you see YOUR daughter, if this fails then get a lawyer and fight.

BBman is right , try reasoning with her and see what happens. If all fails like BBman says go lawyer up and fight. Nothing i hate more than parents restricting their ex's from seeing their kids. I can't imagine how you must feel not being able to see your daughter for such a long time, i know it drives me nuts if i don't see my little one when am out of town.

Good luck

Eggy

that is bullshyt.

she has lack of compassion, WHAT the hell is wrong with some of these chicks?

I would get you a good lawyer and get visitations set up, maybe the military has some type of help for that?
usually there are services for service men and women, I am not certain.

you are a good man so dont let her bring you down, you are taking care of your daughter and your country
and both deserve Medals, the Medal you will get from your little girl will be wrapped around your heart :)

I'm afraid he's right.

Everyone will just say how awful your ex is, and how it is not fair. But also, they will be right. It isn't fair. And you are being so fair - 600 quid a month in Poland is like £2K in the UK.

You are giving your all totally selflessly at the moment, and risking your life every second. I'd agree that your daughter has the absolute right to know and love her daddy, who is an amazing person. Nobody can deny you or her that.

I think you have to just ignore the ex trying to get you out of the picture, and try not to be hurt by it. You must keep visiting - just take no notice of her saying you don't need to, or you don't speak Polish, etc. And as for interrupting exams - 6 year olds don't have exams.

But also, when you get back to Germany, I think you need maybe to get sorted with some kind of permanent arrangement.

Looks like the only way you will get to see your baby is if you spend time often in Poland.

I know someone who goes every other weekend to see his kid in another country. He has a small flat in that country, and he always goes. And sometimes his kid comes over here to stay with him. You need an arrangement like that.

She hasn't actually tried to stop you yet - she's trying to put you off. But don't be put off.

I don't know what else to say really, because I just feel so much for you out there. You deserve all the support anyone can give you - not someone putting you off. But I guess if you can face Afghanistan, you can face this. Good luck.

bullshit what 'work and exams' do 6 year olds have?
Stand your ground, even rent or buy a flat around the corner from her, as suggested by Natasia.

Thanks everyone for the comments in some way or another you have been helpful
My main problem is that i am not too familiar with the Polish school system and the ex says because of my little girl's British upbringing she struggles at school and to some extent lags behind the other students.As we know kids can be mean and i can't bear the thought of my princess being ridiculed for something that is no fault of hers.

Its been 3yrs now since they moved to Warsaw so my daughter is fluent in both Polish, and English she speaks to me.From baby she spoke Polish anyway because the ex in laws don't speak a word of English so i don't see what all the drama is about.

From day one i have been doing everything her way for the sake of my little girl but i am getting fed up.
At the moment i have been using a hotel in Warsaw for the past 3yrs which is close to the school and their flat when i visit but a flat in Warsaw seems like a very good idea because the master plan is to permanently move to Warsaw.

If anyone out there knows of any flats going for cheap please help.
To Patrycja19 firstly thanks and the reason i don't want to involve the military is because it is my problem.
To Natasia also thanks,nothing's ever going to stop me from seeing me daughter.

it seems that you do everything to be a father to your daughter and yet, i does not work out with your ex wife..
i think you need to seek for professional help..
talk to a lawyer, get help..
hope everything will be alryt..

If I were you, I'd contact a lawyer and settle this matter in court. There are some law firms in Warsaw that provide service in english (as well as german), so you may want to contact one of those firms and seek legal advice on this matter.

It is against the law to prevent the parent from seeing their child, as parental rights may only be restricted by a court ruling. Even so, it would be good to contact your ex wife first and ask her to allow you to see your daughter. If she refuses, it would be wise to seek professional help.

Best regards.
M