Don't know whether she loves me or not ?

I met a polish girl online and now I lover her. We are chatting for few months and she responds me very well. She told me that she likes me and want to be in contact with me.

We send texts to each other from time to time and I have told her that I am in love with her ... She asked me for time to think as this is too early for her , after her break up.

Now my confusion is whether she loves me or not ... Should I wait for her or not?
I am not getting her actually because sometimes she chats with me so frankly and send me kisses and hugs n sometimes we hardly chat.

We haven't talk on phone yet, she is hesitant in doing so and I never forced her for this even but Now its killing me .

I am feeling like a fool . Please tell me what to do?
I really love this girl ....

She already gave a more sensible answer than you will get here - she has not met or talked to you and so needs some time to think about it.

It is because she is chatting with five other guys and needs time to decide. In the meantime, new ones are popping up, so she is getting tired of the old ones.

So tell me what should I do ? Should I move on or just keep on trying .... Because I am unable to think about any other girl ?

Trust your feelings.

Assume she is lying and you will be fine. Later, you can even marry her, but always remember that their relationship with the truth is complicated.

Polish women typically can come on quite strong and often aren't the least bit shy about expressing exactly how they feel at any given moment.

Go easy, tread lightly....and come prepared with plenty of armor:-)

I speak from experience.

Dammy, you sound very young. You are in love in a way, but it's an internet romance which is not the same thing as a real life relationship. You don't love this girl in the true sense of what it means to love somebody. You have to live with a person and experience the many ups and downs and challenges of life with them before you can say you truly love them. Just move on from this and put your energy into enjoying your life and making friends whom you can go out and socialize with and you'll find that in time you'll meet a girl who likes you and maybe love will follow.

I would tend to agree with Atch on this point.

Is this thread a joke? Falling in love with the letters on the PC monitor? Is somebody insane here?

Thank you sooo much for your replies but guys believe me the way I feel for her I haven't feel for anyone for last 4 years after my break up.

Atch I do understand and I am not taking you in wrong way :)) but It's all about heart , I can't help falling in love with her.

Recently she went to trip and sent me texts to tell about the sites she visited bought some Indian things which made me feel some positivity. Rest I don't know, I just know that I am in love with her and may be I will wait for a clear indication from her side that she is not into me.

How do you know "she" is not a Nigerian crook?

Is this mandatory to see a person physically before falling in Love ?

Yes. Plus living together to have a chance to observe that person under all circumstances, including how they handle disagreement, intoxication, personal hygiene, sex, and everything else.

Texting is the favorite tool liars use to play games, at best, or to rip off the naive suckers, at the worst. There is no substitute for a live, face-to-face meeting. Crooks avoid even phone conversations. The second the other person asks for money for any reason it's a ripoff.

I think you are right Rich Mazur. So tell me what should I do ?

Unless you want to take the chance of her being a transvestite

Truth is sometimes stranger than fiction, Rich.

Go easy in small steps just in case she is for real. You don't want to start showing that you don't trust her. Keep in mind that she is "the love of your life".

1: Ask for her phone number.
2. Ask her for a short video of her saying something in context of your relationship. Like, tell her that tomorrow is your mom's birthday and ask her to wish her "happy birthday, Ms XXX." Your "mom will be so deeply touched". Remember to ask for something specific to be part of that video that applies only to you so "she" will not pick it up from the internet.

Get back here after that and tell us how it went. If it's a crook, you will not get past Step 1. If you get that phone number, call her. It could still be a fake even if you hear a female voice, so Step 2 is a must.

Just one more thing for now...
Never pay any attention to the advice that tells you to "trust your feelings".
Being in love is a form of mental disorder with "feelings" replacing common sense. There are thousands of people in the US who parted literally with all they had and some only because they "trusted their feelings" after they met "the love of my life" on the internet. I researched this subject thoroughly for my book on this and other subjects like that.

"Don't know whether she loves me or not ?"

No, she doesn't. She is a cold hearted ***** :-P


If you're feeling that way there's a good chance that you are one

My advice is, forget about her. Get drunk and then get involved in a bar fight

No need to thank me.

Rich don't forget that I love her and I want her in my life . She doesn't need me, I need her . And she has given me her contact number and she sends me her pics from time to time. So there is no doubt that she is fake.

Dude I don't drink .... So bar is not a right option for me. But yes I will leave the things as they are... Because I don't want to regret later on .... so I will keep expressing my feelings to her.

Because I know this girl is only the "one" which makes me feel so different.... :))

Rest I don't know.

Did you call her AND actually speak to her?


You mean there is no doubt that she is not fake? Right?
Did she ask you for money?
Did she give you any sob stories about herself or her "loved ones"?

And you never met this girl? You really do sound like a fool or a 12 year old, is this a joke thread?

Yes She has sent her pic with her parents... She never asked me for money. She hardly cares about my financial status as I am working. She has sent me voice note... And now sending me things she has bought from market.

Come on Rich why are you so doubtful man ....
Perhaps, you haven't fell in love.

I take it, Dammy, this young woman speaks at least some English, yes?

Yes she is very good in speaking english...

Because I have seen so many cases of con artists ripping off the naive.
In your case, once you are absolutely sure she is real, my final advice is this: make sure it's mutual. Show interest and back off. Do not call or email for a week and see what happens. Women love attention and, normally, she would be upset being ignored if she wants to be pursued. If she does not come back with "where have you been last week", it's over and you should move on. The last thing you want to do is be a pest.

Yes ... This thing seems useful as well as meaningful. Let's go for it... :))

Yes, I fell in love many times. I know the feeling and what comes with it. Before the internet and those "smartphones", life was simpler. Today, you have to be a lot more careful, if not cynical. You are too young to be cynical. That's my job.

BTW, if you don't succeed, come back and I will tell you what to do next.
I wish you the best.

Thanks Rich :))

In that case, I'm certain you'll be able to iron out all cultural differences.
Try learning a little Polish though, it'll knock her bloomin' socks off!

Give it a whack with a casual "Jak leci!" (How's it going?) next time and watch her jaw drop:-)
Follow up then with "No, co robisz dzis wieczor?" (Whacha doin' tonight?), and she'll be practically eating out of your handLOL