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Polish husband threatens divorce and wants to send me back to Asia


pochim888  
21 Oct 2012 /  #1
Hi everyone! I just want to ask about divorce!

I was married just 3 mos ago in a civil court. 2 mos after my husband and I found out that i was pregnant and he wanted me to have an abortion. I did not agree to it. It is an unplanned pregnancy. Now he threatens me divorce and to DEPORT me back to Asia. I really dont know what I did wrong. He let me out of his house with a very small support. He is a known lawyer and I am not even working. What can I do? Now he is back with his X-gf in his house. help pls........

Mish
ryoh  - | 19  
25 Oct 2012 /  #2
I think you should contact a lawyer. That's sad your husband is a lawyer himself...

Anyway, you're officially married to your him so if he's messing up the marriage then you can sue him somehow. Here's a forum site regarding different laws, but it's in Polish so you can get someone who writes in Polish and ask questions there.

forumprawne.org

good luck
sa11y  5 | 331  
25 Oct 2012 /  #3
he wanted me to have an abortion

Abortion is illegal in Poland (except in case of rape and health issues of mother or baby). He is still the father and will have obligation to the child. In fact you might even be able to stay in Poland because of the baby. I don't think he would allow this to be brought up as a reason for divorce in Poland.
natasia  3 | 368  
25 Oct 2012 /  #4
He can't make you have an abortion, and he can't divorce you after two months and have you deported.
You need to go straight to a lawyer and find out your situation. I am pretty sure he also can't just leave you abandoned with nowhere to live and no money, and pregnant with his child, as well.
pgtx  29 | 3094  
25 Oct 2012 /  #5
Can a pregnant woman get a divorce in Poland? In the US she cannot, that's why I'm wondering.
sa11y  5 | 331  
25 Oct 2012 /  #6
I would imagine anyone can get divorced anytime they like, but they both have to sign papers. What you might be referring to is that he can't be the one requesting divorce due to her being to blame (even if he wanted to claim that he is not the father) .This would make sense as you can't determine who the father is (in a non invasive way) until the child is born.
Ant63  13 | 410  
25 Oct 2012 /  #7
but they both have to sign papers

Incorrect. If one party is not contactable or fails to respond then the other gets a result.
MoOli  9 | 479  
26 Oct 2012 /  #8
In the US she cannot, that's why I'm wondering.

Wrong,You can apply for one and can get it easily with mutual consent or can drag along for years fighting atleast in NJ
Meathead  5 | 467  
26 Oct 2012 /  #9
Can a pregnant woman get a divorce in Poland? In the US she cannot, that's why I'm wondering.

In the US, state law controls divorce laws. Each state is different.
JimmyH  1 | 21  
26 Oct 2012 /  #10
*sigh* That's up to the state. That is not something controlled by the federal government.
Nickidewbear  23 | 609  
26 Oct 2012 /  #11
Wrong,You can apply for one and can get it easily with mutual consent or can drag along for years fighting atleast in NJ

In fact, the former Ginny Cha Barber got a divorce from adulterous ex Giants player Tiki Barber.
pgtx  29 | 3094  
26 Oct 2012 /  #12
Jeez...OK, fine! You won't get a divorce in Texas while you're pregnant!!
Nickidewbear  23 | 609  
26 Oct 2012 /  #13
Yet, that was the state that "Roe" came from. Irony.
peterweg  37 | 2305  
26 Oct 2012 /  #14
My dealings with lawyers has taught me that they make up the law to suit themselves and will outright lie (part of their job) to suit themselves.

You need to get a lawyer who will put this bastard in his place right away, his ******** will stop immediately.

He can have his wife and child deported? ********.
sa11y  5 | 331  
26 Oct 2012 /  #15
Incorrect. If one party is not contactable or fails to respond then the other gets a result.

Technically you are right, but you have to wait for a while (and I think its measured in years, not in months, but correct me if I'm wrong).

But since my comment was related to PGTX who wrote that woman can't get divorce in USA and was wondering if it isn't the same in Poland, it is actually irrelevant that they can get divorced if one of the partners disappears and cannot be contacted - since this is obviously not the case here.

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