Do Polish guys tend to take things slow with regards to sex?

I live in London, UK. I recently started dating a Polish guy and he is so loving and caring, a true gentleman compared to any other guy I have dated in England. I like him very much :) One thing though is that he doesn't seem too keen on kissing on the lips- I'm normally the one to initiate this and he only wants to do it slowly, not 'passionately'. Also we still haven't had sex. This is much better than guys who just want sex and nothing else ofcourse. But I want to know, is it normal for Polish guys to want to wait before getting passionate?

Depends if he's a Catholic practicant. Some people still believe in the 'no sex before marriage' rule.
I don't think Polish guys are really different from other Europeans, I think it's more about personal/religious beliefs. Or he could also be waiting for the good moment.

Not especially.

Many polish guys are shy. It has many reasons, polish women offen don't help them with dating. Maybe you are too atractive;) And maybe he hadn't a woman before... It's not very rare as many people think.

I think its more about character rather than belief! If someone is a shy person, then religion does not come into it.


I can say that new generation guys, those who are keen on having a decent life and live a very straightfoward life, they tend to be shy, more than todays Polish girls, I agree with you.

I hope he does not turn out to be gay! All the best! :)

That too, or religion could be a good excuse ;)

You present yourself on a silver platter and he is not interested??
You should read this book ;) :broken link
Good luck, girl ;)

if this could prove to be right then no wonder that Poles need Serbs. Listen, we have sexual education in Serbian schools. Poland can call for some teachers

/just to inform you/

Go Poles!

Im a scottish woman who has there eye on a polish guy..it was like an instant attraction and i see him giving me the eye :-)

But if wot your saying is true then im doomed as im also quite shy...whats your suggestions??
ive not had much contact with polish people but ive been researching the culture and his native town trying to understand abit more, i have to say the country is beautiful and theres something about polish men, scottish men dont have any of the olden day morals/values/respect...where i get the impression polish guys still do which raises the bar for me definetly..

but how do polish guys see scottish woman?

Polish guys have a reputation for not being able to "get it up", so it might take a bit of work on your part.

What?

If my (limited, but still) experience is anything to go by, no, Polish guys do not tend to take things too slow ;-)

Ladies who asked about Polish men:
let me give you a piece of good advice: if a man behaves like he's shy or doesn't care, to the point that he actively avoids any show of affection, he probably is either very strongly religious (not a good thing, as he's overdoing it), or there is something wrong with him - either mentally or physically.

Shy, I can understand. But even the shyest guy will happily succumb if his date takes the initiative and he's interested. If, on the other hand, he moves away or God forbid runs away ;-) - you're wasting your time. There is a tiny minority of men who really and truly think that any sort of physical relationship is EVIL and should be avoided at all costs unless it's for having babies. These are the men you should not be trying to be with.

He must be gay
or a virgin
or both
or he believes god will come and spank him

Or more realistic option:
He must be married.

Very much so, I for one like to enjoy life's pleasures but if she's attractive and late for date with her boyfriend I wouldn't rule out a quickie. ;)

The only way for you to know what the problem is, is to ask him directly. Sexier outfit might also do the trick if you don't want to take a direct route, nothing slutty mind you, stimulating but classy, works on me.

I do NOT think so. I think they are ready to dive in (no pun intended) at the slightest signal - although, to be fair to them, they will absolutely wait for the signal (they are proud that way).

[quote=Meathead]Polish guys have a reputation for not being able to "get it up"[/quote
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I have certainly never heard that one, nor encountered such a problem ... I think Polish guys are highly sexed, and very out there with it. They do not need encouragement. And they don't, I am sure, have a problem getting it up. !

I thought my comment would get a "rise" from a few of you.


Yeah a signal like you can ask him, "what do Scottish men wear under their kilts?"

Funny. This is the second thread in the last several days where you would expect mostly women to answer, but in fact the majority of posters are men. ;-)

Do they?

Link? Source? Or your own imagination?

just his imaginary ego booster :-)

Religion got nothing to do with being more passionate in sex. This is such a stereotype I was experiencing as a Pole in UK. Most of polish normal guys are true old type gentlemen and that is it. Many people think that somebody from so called religious country will not go to bed on first date. Are Italians shy? Not really

Merged: shamed because of sex

I have been dating a polish man for over 3 years. In this time we have had great times however one massive issue is intimacy. I have finally got him to open up and he now confirms his lack of interest is due to feeling ashamed. He can only perform if totally dark and only for his enjoyment not fot pleasuring me. He says touching or being with me physically with foreplay doesnt do anything for him so he doesnt bother. Basic intimacy is all that can happen. I never been in this situation before and feels like it will be a deal breaker as i need to feel wanted by him. He claims he does but he is not that into sex as it brings shame to him. He cant explain why and when discussed he gets angry. His first wife left him for others and i can see that she was lacking the attention from him. Not that i could or would do this to him. I do love him and want to resolve this but afraid to confront him anymore. He has a strong catholic faith. He said when he was younger in his teens he scored often but its not what he is able to do or wants to do now. He is late 30's. Is this a general issue that many men feel or women came across before? I am not saying its because he is polish...maybe his faith ?? I would welcome genuine compassionate replies as this is not an easy discussion and taken me 3 years to try and address it. thank you

This forum is perhaps not the best place to seek advice on this delicate matter. Relationship counselling would be one option if you could persuade your partner to go with you.


This seems to be contradicted by



I'm afraid that is exactly what you're going to have to do if you want to make progress.

@Dimples: sure a lot of (male and female) Poles don't feel very comfortable with sex as per their conservative upbringing in a very religious society but in case of severe "problems", professional help can be necessary... You won't find an answer to your problems in a random forum such as PF.

Good luck!

Inpolska " Poles don't feel very comfortable with sex as per their conservative upbringing" You gotta be kidding, ok some Catholics might wait until they are married before they have sex, whatever gave you that idea?

@Dolno: I did NOT say ALL "Poles" ;). It is normal that when people are raised in very religious, very conservative societies, don't receive sex education, sompe people are not comfortable with sex. I have for instance met quite a few teenage girls in Poland (nowadays not in the 17th century) who knew nothing re contraception or re pregnancy.. At the same age, in France (and similar countries), they have had years of sex education in school, parents and media talking about sex normally.

As to myself, although raised in France, I'm of Spanish origin; I was a teenager during Franco (I'm sure you know how Spanish society was at the time) and I can assure you that Spanish girls were (in those days) very ignorant and not as "brave" as French girls raised in a liberal society (although of course less open minded then than it is now).

In conclusion: when people are brought up in non opened societies where they are taught that "sex is dirty", that "sex is only to have babies...", it is to be expected that some people from said societies will have problems with sex ;)

You have-to read this book broken link
ed??

Good luck, girl ;)

" where they are taught that "sex is dirty", that "sex is only to have babies." Yeah got to agree on that one, I have herd many a priest come out with that little gem, mum used to tell me don't worry the priest isn't allowed to have sex and its his way of dealing with it.

I was in the UK Polish girls would ask me why English men would usually want sex after a nights drinking, in Poland they would be sent off with a flea in their ear. the other complaint was they were not attentive to female needs (Sorry stuck for words here) in the bedroom.

@Dolno: isn't it what ultra religious people claim? In countries like Poland, very few people use contraception (the most common "method" is that of ... temperatures ;) - what they used in Western Europe before 1950), girls are scarred to get pregnant and "decent" guys are scarred to make them pregnant and it is normal that quite a few people raised this way don't feel comfortable with sex.

It is very frequent that you read in PF or we year hear Polish men are not very comfortable with sex.

Of course, I am NOT saying ALL but problems of the kind are not exceptional among Poles and more so than in more liberal societies where people have generally a healhier attitude to sex.

Sorry, if you take it personally ;). It was not my idea ...

Inposka "Sorry, if you take it personally

No not taken personally at all you are one of the people who talks some sense and I can have a good debate with here ,

I guess many other catholic countries would potentially have the same problems as u say , I am lucky although my parents were devout Catholics they we also realistic about sex education my dad gave it a go once, what a laugh it was so awkward for him, but I let him finish then told him that mom had already explained. I also learned so many new Polish words that day.

i meant to say the deal breaker is whether to stay and suffer or leave. i wouldnt cheat on him like his ex wife did. i have self respect and integrity... nothing is resolved by going to get ut elsewhere. which i know his wife did do often. I know sex shouldnt be a deal breaker but for me personally it creates a deeper connection that you keep yourself loyal to just one...otherwise you are just mates. struggling...he refuses to see anyone about and is disgusted with me for talking to him about it. Says i just make him angry to mention it. big sigh here sadly.