If any man had told the same he would be beaten or slapped at no time unless he were a gay.
Why you think that the regular consequences that follows your existence will follow the existence of other men aswell?
Yes it is.
No it isnt.
Men often don't understand women and women don't often understand men
I think the first step should be to understand yourself ... only then try and understand someone else.
You know my marriage had faced "social, cultural, distance, language, racial, religious" barriers. She is a Korean and I am a Pole! But we gave each other a chance. Talked "openly" without "hiding and playing tricks or testing each other".
Just being who we are ... and eventually trying to adjust! Having patience, and not saying "I cannot wait" ... for anything to make possible, even between two Poles, you need patience.
The matter of keeping things for the right time arises. You need to realize that you need to be in love, but have intimacy after you marry. This makes alot of difference.
At the end of the day ... you must not scare the other person with your silence and doubts. If you think the other person is not right, discuss it with him. If you think he is too party but you also want him to be the perfectly honest man in your life ... you are the one who don't understand yourself, not him!