Polish Girls negative or positive personality trait?

my dear torny, I was not talking about you only either.

so dont take my post personal. it wasnt meant or directed at you :)
I find you the most agreeable.. wonder where I get that from? lol


nope.. actually, you bring discussion to the table,. I realize there are negatives in both
genders, so its not like this isnt truth, but as justy says, and you agreed on certain
quotes, that a person is negative when something happens, perhaps the guy spent
all night out.. or perhaps he didnt buy her flowers and she thought valentines day
meant something to him just as much as her, perhaps the games he watches with the
guys are more important then her at the moment and hes oblivious to it!!

so she might feel like shes ignored, but when its time to roll around in the sheets,
she has to give him pleasure when hes spending time with others?

lots of things cause negative.

anyway, will add to this later, off to work I go!!

hugs to yas.. :)

funnily enough the longest lasting relationships i had were those with people i met socialising, not through work or school etc. the initial attraction and instinct had proven to be more reliable in my case rather than getting to know the person through days/weeks/months of interaction wherever it is you know them from and eventually starting to date. often people turn out to be different to what they appear in the usual environment you get to see them in and that often can be disappointing or even a shock. you think you know someone and then you start dating them lol... at least with people you meet on nights out there is no history, no gossip, no second hand advice. you slowly get to know them and build a relationship from scratch without assuming what they're like just because you knew them for a such and such period of time. you don't really know them at all, you only know what they let on in places and situations you get to interact with them. this is just my personal opinion, not saying it's a rule!


of course it's not, some people just have issues. or as someone i know harshly puts it, they are damaged goods. some are worth exploring and getting to know, some are better off with a shrink rather than a partner...


ok you got me there, i can be a serious case of road rage sometimes ha ha...


not really, but i'm not impressed cos i usually get a few spots on my face around that time ha ha... it's all about controlling your moods and not letting things (and men!) get to you ;)


you missed out!!


i used to ask my ex why he didn't buy me flowers and his answer was always 'because they die'. boyfriends die too, it just takes them longer than flowers.

They don't die...women kill them. Suck the life right out of you (somebody can run with that one)

Dobre JustysiaS, this bit really made ma laugh!!!!!!!

yeah, that's why we live longer. are you one of those damaged goods cases, m'dear? sounding a bit bitter there.

Anyone who hasnt been hurt hasnt lived. Dont be coy...

yeah but after some time you move on and stop being a moaning bitter sod. there's so much more to life than re-living your failed relationships over and over again each day and taking it out on all members of the opposite sex. that is where NEGATIVITY starts.

No he doesn't. And there's the problem!

i guess its different for different people, without saying you depend a lot on looks, obviously this is by far the most important factor for you as the way you meet & develop a relationship fundamentally surrounds the aesthetics, looks, dress, hair, how somebody carries themselves etc.


i know, its cool i'm just happy to discuss something with somebody for once instead of having a pointless argument :)


surely this can be the same no matter where you meet somebody, you don't need to go through the life history if you meet somebody anywhere else?? as for gossip, that will get around where ever you are or whoever you are with, thats just my opinion :)


so while it was not my fault when we were together, it was a fcuk up getting with her in the first place :) i suppose i can accept that one. Maybe thats part of my problem, i see an issue and think i can fix it, when sometimes its not possible to be fixed, or the other person dosen't want to fix it.


lol, female road rage, what does that consist of?? taking of your high heels and stabbing people with them, or is it handbags and ten paces :):):):) hahaha. Mind you having just joked about it girl fights can be more dirty than blokes fighting, when they go at it they leave nothing in reserve, everything is on the line.


well that is something i'm never going to have to deal with on a personal level (phew)


well i guess i've plenty of time to go :)


that is so true though, they do die, flowers are meant to represent the relationship. How can you give somebody flowers that die, does not bode well for the future of the relationship does it?? So for me flowers were off the list, there are plenty of other things you can buy as gifts for your girlfriend though, so its not that bad.


you find me 'agreeable' i'll take that as a compliment, lol, from not ever getting any here ever i suddenly get two in a day.


thats an issue of trust and arrangment, for example if i knew i was going to spend all night out away from my partner, i would always give her as much advanced notice as possible. It is then down to her to trust me, the fact that i won't be getting upto anythng that would bring that trust under threat. It is the same if the partner wants to stay out all night, nobody should have an issue if they know about it, the rest is down to trust, if they break that trust then its goodnight vienna!!!


I've always found Valentine's day a bit of a non-event, i mean, if you like somebody that much (love them). Surely you should be showing this emotion more than one time a year on February whatever it is!!! Love is an all year round thing, trips to Paris, nice dinners, gifts, presents should be an all year round thing when you feel like showing your love, not when your told to (as i see Valentine's day as being told to)


hang on a minute, 'she has to give him pleasure' i thought sex was a two way thing, your both meant to give each other enjoyment?? I mean if somebody is a selfish lover then that is apart from the rest of the stuff you mentioned above. Any girl who thinks that its a one way street when it comes to sex needs educating!!!!


Yeah and half the time you cannot see them coming, that is what makes it so dangerous, i can see signs for a lot of things when it comes to relationships but sometimes i just can't figure it out 100%.

Oh I am fine now on that front...I just acknowledge experience. And if the mods are fair they will remove Harry's insult as they did everything I said agaisnt him...we will see IF they are.

looks are not and never have been the most important factor to me when it comes to choosing guys i date!! stop trying to stick that label on me, none of the guys i've been out with would make other girls heads turn. i've got a weird taste in men, usually the guys i fancy other women i know and chat to would never look at twice lol. of course i like for my man to take care of himself and look and smell good, but that's within the limits of common sense and hygiene. i take pride in my appearance and make an effort, not gonna walk down the street with some filthy slob in a tracksuit! lol i don't think i expect much looks wise, but a warm personality and a sense of humour are a must. a hobby other than getting p*ssed or football is always an advantage too :P


as in agreeing with everyone? lol i can agree with that ;D


by history i mean the stuff you know about them already, what they told you, what you've been through together so far. what people told you about them. if you don't know them at all and never met, there is none of that and i find that is an advantage. if you don't know someone, you can't judge them or assume you know how they will react. spontaneity and never knowing what might happen are one of the best and most exciting parts of a relationship. not saying it can't happen with someone you're already acquainted with but at least then you won't have those expectations or images of what it 'should' be like with them cos they seemed like such and such person. just go with the flow.


no violence, maybe cursing a little and and doing that Mutley impression under your nose ha ha... i never participated in a cat fight, well we fought with my sisters when we were younger and it would get nasty sometimes but there was no blood or pulling hair out lol.


buy a potted feckin plant, Einstein!

My exs all killed my plants. I guess watering occasionally was too much if I wasn't there to do it. Can you imagine the horror to come home to brown shriveled up former life? I have a tear welling up now just thinking about it....

lol! :)

I bought my ex flowers; not that she was ever grateful tho - she once even said to me

"never mind buying me presents, that means nothing, what I want is you here with me, every evening".

So that she could keep an eye on me, of course - nothing else.

I soon got bored, and she soon got dumped after that. :D

what is wrong with some women??

tbh I think she was planning on dumping me eventually to go back to PL anyway, I just beat her to it ;)

I wish someone would buy me flowers - or at least a houseplant lol - only one gf ever bought me them, lol

tuneeee

oooooooooooooooo!!!!

Is that the same Sunship who did "Friendly Pressure", "Cheque One-Two" and all those big tunes back in the day?

pull up dat! :)

I'm not trying to stick a label on you or you to a label :) really i'm not.


you won't find me questioning anybodies taste, i'm not even a person to comment on somebdoy elses boyfriend/girlfriend, for me everybody has their own individual taste.


lol, i don't think anybody wants to walk down the street with somebody like that, well unless you yourself are a filthy slob and swan around in tracksuits and trainers!!.


see i think thats a sensible point of view, i'm a little gutted though i'll never make the 'JustysiaS' grade as i do enjoy football!!!!!!!!! hahaha


Justy Justy Justy, tut tut tut, know look who is sticking labels on who :):) You of all people on this forum should know that i don't just agree with everybody, the amount of times on here (let alone in real life) i've stood alone in a me VS the world battle. I was only last week fighting my corner on my own while tacking attacks from all sides. I hardly call that agreeing with everybody. I've always said i say what it think, no matter who agrees with me or who disagrees with me. You've found yourself somethings i agree with you on and others were in the Blue/Red corner.


its a very good point you make but surely all of that is inevitable at some stage of the relationship, history always rears its head, gossip will go on and people's tounges will wag, whether it is before anything happens, as its just about too, or four months in.


i agree with you but because of what you said before i'm going to say your totally wrong, lol. hehehe


you don't strike me as a '*****' fighter anyway, you have to go down to the local estate to find great fights like that :) well that or Plymouth on a friday and saturday night, i love watching those ******* go at it!!!! Its so funny but worrying at the same time.


mmmmmmmmmmeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeoooooooooooowwwwwwwwwwwwww :)


OMG sssccchhhhoooollll days!!!!!!!!

LMAO... I think they kill anything thats left for them if they dont show some type
of caring.


Well , its supposed to be, but its not always that way, I speak from talks with other
females and males alike and also from past experience, I think everyone can say
they have had a selfish lover, thats kinda of what ruins the relationship.

The funny part is, the next person that comes along and takes that person away
you dont know if you want to shake their hand for taking them off your hands or
give them pity because you know what they are in for :)

negative: compulsive lying. I think they learn it from environment. Her so-called male "friends" may not be friends. Perhaps something to do with general national attitute, or Jesus messes up with their minds.

whatever you think its true. Because i have got the experience of a polish girl who claimed to be a hetrosexual but she proved to be a lesbian. you can go to kochamanete.com and see the story

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The question shouldn't be if they lie or not. It should be if they lie more than girls from other countries. I've lived in Poland for some time now. And I can say that some of the Polish girls I know are the most honest people I have met. So summa summarum, I don't think it has so much to do with nationality. And IF it has something to do with nationality I'd say that the average Pole I have met have been more honest than the average person from other countries.

It all depends on what type of girl you're going for. If you have little respect for your d@ck and go for an average village girl with an inferiority complex, who has dated 10 losers before you, then obviously she may have confidence issues and therefore negativity.

I've been living in Poland over 7 years and I've recently been going only for hot, stylish, confident, intelligent-looking women. It's not because my standards are high. It's because it's a win-win situation - when you end up going out with such a woman, you feel great. When you get rejected, you also feel good because you had the balls for trying. With more 'average' girls (I'm talking about the whole package here, not the looks), it's lose-lose. If you get rejected, it's a temporary blow to the ego. If you go out with them, you have to put up with the complexes, negativity, the 'do you like me?' questions, etc. and also the 'pain' of seeing more desirable girls with guys you feel have less to offer than you. Most foreigners seem to go for the more 'average', less confident type of Polish girl (and yes, I can recognise the type very quickly - it's something about the way they speak, dress, etc.) Physically, I am also attracted to them too but I have to remind myself that it's pointless. What a battle we guys have going on between our heads and our d@cks! LOL

I say you're lying.


Question is were they going for you?


The only non-average girl on these boards is Shelly who's from some barbaric hellhole in UK, she's downright awesome as far as personality goes (no idea about her ass tho), everything else on these boards is common as muck, especially the Polish ones.

well thats a sweeping statement as i bet you've never even spoken to many of the girls on the forum!!! Surely you cannot judge who is average and who is not unless you have talked to them over the forums on a regular basis or by PM.

Your making 'BIG' assumptions here

I stand corrected, the girls i've read multiple times are common as muck, that means Justysia and Wyspianska, the first is a classical Polish "village girl" and the other is the classical stuck up who thinks she's hot.


But i can read their posts and judge them by that, who we are shows by how we express, both of them fit certain negative and common stereotypes.


Ever occurred to you that certain kinds of girls would not be amused by this forum while others might come here for specific reasons?:)

yes of course but i nyour previous post you didn't make anything like that clear, it was like you were tarnishing all the females/ladies/girls here with the same brush.


i was not questioning your opinions of individuals, i was just pointing out the fact you labeled a lot of people at the same time.


while i see your point, you have forgotten that people can be different over a forum from what they are in real life, not everybdy who posts here probably tells the truth. I'm not pointing fingers at anybody but surely it happens. Due to this you may not be able to judge a particular character, i've often found that people are different when it comes to PM's than on the main forum.

we all do that... often, we just don't say it out loud...

your probably right :)

I don't mind if people label me, i'll just prove them wrong, makes no difference to me.

Working on one at the moment, but the point I was making is that is better to go for the non-average ones on principle, if you are living in Poland.

Another thing that no one has mentioned is that for some reason, many Polish girls (especially the villagy types) seem to think that if they are a little pretty, they don't need a personality, so when you start chatting to them you get with the same boring questions and predictable responses all the time. I think it may be 'cause the local guys kiss their a@@s too much. Anyway, I really don't know why you guys in England are obssessed with Polish girls. Living in Poland, you don't have a choice, but elsewhere there are so many more interesting girls.