Polish girls, how are they when they are in love?

I'm having a bit of an issue here...And I'm not saying this should be typically Polish or something, but Polish girls, how are they when they are in love? I mean this in a cultural way...Not a feminine way... Do they like to play games or do they just not react when you tell them something that is more than just surfacial or laugh about it?

M-G (will be more specific in due time, just want some opinions here)

some do, some don't. ;) :)

Yeah, I know, that's why I said it's not specifically a Polish issue, wise guy :) But to be more specific: I've been dating this lady for a few times now, but to every date we have there are multiple cancellations for various reasons. She seems to be genuine, but I've got a gut feeling that she's bs'ing me.

M-G

It's a possibility. Or she could be genuinely nervous about dating you, for a number of reasons. You are both away from home.

Could be true, I'm 4 years here and she is 3 years here and although she claims to be a tough chick (and I've seen her give out to an unpolite deskclerk, so I guess there's some truth in that), but I made her blush a few times :), so my best bet would be that she's a bit of both: big mouth (big city grl) and shy at the same time...My gut feeling basically is inspired by all the golddiggers I encounter, and I have encountered quite a few...Comes with the job, I know, but how about when you want somebody who likes you for who you are, not what you are?

M-G

When I'm truly in love with a guy practically all I think about is him.

Hi M-G

I dont think nationality has anything to do with it. My GF don't play games at all. Her honesty is one of the things I like best about her.

Maybe she has been hurt before or doesn't know how she feels.

No, but that's what I said. I was just wondering if it was a cultural thing, not specifically Polish. I added this because she is from Poland and I am not really familiar with Polish culture as such - could be that this behaviour is normal accepted within Polish society. That's why I added it.

M-G

Maybe she likes you maybe she doesnt, why ask a forum full of randoms, ask her ffs! And btw, if I cancel on a guy its because Im not that interested (something better came up), because if I was interested I'd be dying to spend time in his company and I think that goes for all women...

There is a top about relationships and behavours...take a peek..

sometimes a girl may like a guy but is afraid-because mostly when you really like a guy and give all and fall in love-you become vulnerable and want to be with that guy as much as possible and then when this happens sometimes a guy backs off because they think the gir lhas become too clingy-as most guys once they have their chick the chase is over. this is why a girl behaves strangly sometimes

Hm not all women are the same - I've made up my mind anyway, just wanted to see if my assumptions (which I am not going to state here) were shared with, as you call it, randoms. I know she likes me, you don't date somebody a few times if you don't like him/her.

And by the way: it's just a question.

M-G

How long did it take you to work that little gem out?


You can date someone more than once to determine that you dont actually have a connection - some people its take longer some it takes just one date! But what the hell would I know Im only a woman!

Hey, cut the attitude, lady! If she didn't like me, she would not contact me at all and let me do all the work. But she does. I'm man enough to see when a girl does not like me. I just move on, I was just wondering if it was a cultural thing, well apparently it is not. I did or said nothing to diminish you being a female, right?

M-G

Hello

Angel thats exactly what happened with my lady.

M-G, maybe she is seeing if you will chase her, some women are like that. They want to be sure how you feel before they commit them selfs.

THe only thing I can suggest is patience.

Looks like something is hard work ;-)


I'll make you a deal, you stop talking sh*te and I'll think about curbing my "attitude" probably never going to happen, as you know we women are all different!

Ah yeah, I just ask a question and you come barging in being all defensive and stuff - see if I care, just cut the attitude. Didn't get a good night sleep last night? Well if you didn't, pls don't take it out on me, will ya?

Lowfunk: thanks -

M-G

have you actually talked to her about this?

I'm planning to do that, but at this moment in time, I have not. Basically it's just exploring for now.

M-G

It would seem like you have spent the last year pondering this question, M-G. LOL

Good luck

Not quite. Had quite some interaction with the subject. However, she turned into a party whore, once drunk and that kinda turned me off. What even turned me off more was the fact that she seems to be proud of it as well. So I told her to go to hell. Unfortunately she did not accept this and now she is on the phone every other day, sending me texts and mails, whereas she has never done that before the entire year. Some Polish girls are strange, like any other girls, this one is VERY strange. But I always seem to come across girls like that anyway.

Thanks, Seanus :)

M-G (maybe something from a past life?)

Yeah, they have their idiosyncracies and weird quirks. Something from a past life? I'll let you comment on that :)

Hm, maybe I was a womanizer in a previous life? Who knows :))

But it just doesn't make sense at all. Once I tried to approach her she was all like: "you're just a friend and I do what I want, so if I kiss a guy at a party then that is my own business" (on other occasions she would tell me, either drunk or not drunk that I was her best boyfriend ever:) ) At the meantime though, she kept telling me not to kiss other girls :S

Now I am not that desperate that I need a drunk sl*t at some party in order to get my kisses or more. And I just don't respect drunk sl*ts, no matter how decent they may be when not drunk. That just seems like they are not being themselves when they are sober and I don't like fake ppl. Besides that, I think those party whores don't respect themselves as well.

And now that I don't approach her anymore, she keeps coming back to me like I said. And she's coming back hard. I think she's a bit of a controlfreak, I can tell you stories of the experiences of friends with Polish girls which would make you shiver.

I will give you a nice example in the next posting. Just not putting it in here as it would become a very long posting, which it was not intended to be.

M-G (Aquarian-blues: Aquarians love freedom above all and does not want to be controlled by others, but at the same time love to control the partner or friend and restricting their freedom)

Yeah, well done for staying on topic. I'm sure some will stray and mention other countries but this is about Polish girls.

Before I met my fiancee, I had one here who tried the playing hard to get tack. I'm really not into that and was pretty cool, just getting on with my daily life. She didn't like that and starting asking me why I wasn't contacting her. Well, she just didn't mean that much to me and I never even gave her a sign that she did. There is a certain vanity here (yes yes, I've seen it elsewhere too, LOL) that needs to be overcome. The old phrase, 'get over yourself' is very relevant here.

Quite right M-G, give her the brush off.

Oh I am brushing her off, not answering calls, not replying to txts or emails. But then I get angry txts like "pick up faking phone" (she literally writes like that) or things like that. And she just laughs at me when I say that I don't want to see her anymore. But when I send her a text to ask her how she is doing, she doesn't reply. And I text her 1 time per week to 10 days on average. And when, for heaven's sake, I call her she is all bitchy to me and is actually proud of being a party whore when I ask her about it and also telling me to bogger off as she doesn't love me. And when I stop communicating, there are loads of text from her asking me if I am still alive and why I don't text her, starting from the first day...She is weird. I'm just wondering if anybody else besides you, Seanus has the same experience with Polish chicks like me.

M-G (prayer without end - sigh)

Geez, M-G, it's inevitable. They love complications. Any other opinions other than ours?

She must be fit, for you to put up with all that.
Is she any good in the sack?.

sean and you being a man of the cloth as well :-)

I need to change my profession on here, I was thinking a brain surgeon doctor, just chop off my head and stick it on a doctor's body.

Well, she is fit. Not super-attractive, but good enough for me.
Hm, good question: when she is sober she nearly gets a stroke when you just as much give a hint of her wearing sexy underwear and I am being fired upon by a machinegun of words. But when she's drunk she is kinda good, though :) But when she's drunk she kisses other guys. Even in the same house, like what happened not too long ago. She thought I had gone to sleep in her bed (we don't live together) to sleep off my alcoholic haze. But I woke up and came into the lounge again, she was sitting on some loser's lap and kissing him. I made a fuss about it and tore her away from the guy. Unfortunately I was too drunk to defend myself, so the guy beat me up. And what you know? The week after it happened she was soooooooooooooooooooooooooo nice to me... It nearly made me sick. But thank god, that's over again and I am ignoring her, as I've done for the past month.

M-G (and that guy? one of my best friends beat him into the hospital. I didn't tell him to, he just did it, unfortunately)

Edit: well she is in PL now until Saturday, so I have a little rest now :) But then she texted me today that she wants to see me this Saturday as she wants to make it up with me. She probably needs money or sth.

Not worth the grief.

lose her.