Polish girlfriend told me we cant have sex because I'm not religious

I'm Asian guy in Poland, I met a Polish girl and we've been going out together quite a time, we did kiss many times and she let me touch her also and I know she likes it. but she said we can't have sex (despite I'm willing to use all kinds of protection). the reason: I'm not religious! ??? is this a real reason or she just simply doesn't want it? (she comes from a village, goes to the church every Sunday morning etc...)

Actually, buddy, she isn't interested in you at all sexually, not a single bit, and there is nothing you can do about it. Get a clue, stop wasting your time and hers, and look for someone else.

My guess is that you have been spending money on her and buying her expensive gifts, which explains the kisses and also why you are frustrated. But you can't buy your way into the Tunnel of Love with this girl, so give it up and move on. Plenty of other fish in the sea.

Maybe she's just that religious? I mean I am Catholic and as far as I know the religion doesn't suggest sex before marriage. Give it a time?

@DominicB nah man, I haven't buy her anything expensive, and that's maybe the reason. lol just kidding, I have nothing for her to exploit and still she wants to be around me. we did hand stuffs and she was passionate about it and she was crazily wet... that's why I said I know she likes it. still I dont understand why cant we make love.

@wiolletta18 maybe that's the case. but the reason she gave me is that I'm not religious, stupid reason.

You can, of course. Just not with each other.

There is plenty more fish in the sea.
Stop wasting your time with her; she is either not interested with you sexually, or she is a religious nut.

How do you know?

Presumably because they


She's probably just waiting until she gets married or settles down with someone at least. Some girls still do that. Or she just doesn't feel ready.

The OP doesn't mention their ages, however I suspect neither of them are very old or very experienced.

Try asking her Polish Catholic father.
I am sure he would give you some sound advise and point you in the right direction.

Dollars to doughnuts he has at least ten years on her, and probably double that.

I was wondering about the age gap too. I'd guess he's 25 and ganting for it and she's 15 and sensible.

Can't be that much younger since he's come among way to get here and she doesn't sound that much older. Could be students of course.


- ahhh, romance

you guys suck, I'm younger than 25, and than her.

Just a question, have you considered doing it the proper way and putting a ring on her finger first or
are you just looking for some recreational sex for sport and exercise leaving her feeling like a slut ?
Do you really love and respect her ?
She obviously is aware of sexually transmitted desceases and after six times of using a rain coat
you are going to want to do it JUST that one time in the heat of passion and they call that being a father.
Are you ready for that ?
Don't let your little head do the thinking for you, use your big head for that.
There are many ways to relieve your sexual frustrations with out doing the actual deed.
This girl is very smart and you should respect that if you really love her and quit thinking just about yourself.

Maybe she is beleives in islam and likes it other way around to be virgin for her legal husband?

With the easy which a guy can get laid in asia, usa, here I am not surprised this is confusing for you. Nobody even uses the word slut here anymore there are so many it's a joke. Mtv music on Saturdays is just sluts with barely any clothes. Some of the most popular female artists just look like overpaid sex workers and judging by their music it's all they are. Asia is full of sex tourism and so on so forth.

Now you hit a snag, you met someone from the old ways and old world who rejects automatic promiscuity. Didn't think there was any left did you? And it's not like it's banned she can do what she wants it's just she doesn't want to, there is no law against it. Plenty of the other types there too maybe you should fish for one of those. It would be different if it was somewhere backward like indonesia where they are thinking of banning unmarried boys and girls from riding a bike together, lol what retards But its not, she chooses her belifs over you.

I dont understand... if you are an asian guy, why would you expect a polish woman to have sex so easily with you?

Yeah, Poland is a religious country. And hopefully will stay that way. In Asia there are many places were pick a girl and go to bed is extremelly easy (Indonesia, Malaysia, etc). But Poland is not like that.

So deal with it or look for another one. She is not obligated to have sex with you. In Poland woman are free.

Why would his/her nationality be relevant. After all, they're dating. If a woman wants to date a guy from a developing country like India, Brazil or Nigeria, why shouldn't she.

I suspect in this case she's torn in two. There's obviously attraction (the "hand stuffs") but she's just not the type of woman to go all the way, and he is after all a younger guy.

To all ppl going on about her being religious and pure...you do realise she was talking about him not being religious and not about her being a Catholic, saving herself for marriage...

For all you know she may be Buddist/Jewish/ Muslims ets who... or saint. What she's saying is ridiculous and she should tell the truth (I don't like you/ I'm waiting for the wedding/ simply don't want to have sex just yet) Saying I don't want to have sex because you are not religious sounds to me like a 16 yo not ready for sex but trying to find excuses instead of sauing what she's thinking/feeling. If she's more than 20 she is immature.

Ok. another explanation is that their communication is flawed due to speaking different languages and he misunderstood what she said.

Yes! The language thing is very significant! Maybe in fact she's waiting for a sign of commitment.

Sorry, I didn't mean 'for all you know', what I meant is that it doesn't matter in the explanation she gave

difficult girls stay difficult. stop talking to her. if she comes back begging you are golden. if not find another one who likes sex

The whole world is "like that", or at least part of every society is. Poland is no different. I don't know why you insist on portraying Poland as some kind of chaste, olde-worlde idyll. It's a modern European country in most respects, and it's changing in those that aren't.


That's right. Free to have a sex life or not, as they choose.

" It's a modern European country in most respects, and it's changing in those that aren't."

Depends of what is a modern European country for you. If by modern Europe you mean places like Marseille or Birmingham were immigrants from north Africa burn cars, rape native woman and burn catholic churches and no one can do nothing because they are a minority and the atheist left-wing politicians count with their votes to keep in power...

Them Poland is not modern Europe.

But if by modern Europe you mean an educated population and a well established democracy, then it is.

Please stick to the topic.

levi could you link us to those news stories about Catholic churches in Birmingham being torched by North African immigrants please?
Also gosc makes a good point - is a society 'modern' when women are forced to back street abortionists or to do the job themselves? I think not/

I repeat to everybody - check the topic title, off-topic posts will be removed

OP she probably doesnt want to have sex with you as she would not be able to marry you if she got pregnant. Abortion not being an option.

Is the problem definitely that the OP isn't religious, or that his girlfriend is? It could be that she doesn't want to lose her virginity until marriage. If that's the case, his options are to ask her to marry him, if she agrees, or go without. If she enjoys him touching her then maybe she's happy for them to do things sexually that don't involve penetration. In particular, if she'd let him go down on her, he could potentially get more physical pleasure than is possible from penetration, but she could still think of herself as a virgin.

man you cannot get an 'Arab' to lick a stamp

@ rozumiemnic, I guess they're not widely associated with equal rights for women, or celebrating female sexuality. So probably just a case of sticking it in and pumping away, no though for the idea that men enjoy sex more when they share their partners' pleasure rather than focusing on their own.

for me nothing's wrong with having sex while dating, but if it's not ok in your culture then I respect that opinion.

but if I just break up with her, I'll feel very bad of myself. for us marriage is not an option right from the 1st place, and she knew it.

Then play the white man and walk the walk. She's village Poland, and you are a very naughty boy.

Seriously though mate, you are on a sticky wicket, batting on the last day, the wrist sinners are giving you a tester, and you are clearly 7 wickets down by lunch.

You are done, because she knows there is no chance of a return series in Asia, so it's a case of a maiden over.

Not meant to be racist - just one cricket lover to another, assuming you like the game. Go and find a flatter batting wicket.

Please use standard English

So you wanna make sex even if SHE CLEARLY DOESNT WANT, to make you feel good and make HER feel bad?

The words that i would use to describe you and this attitude unfortunately cannot be written here on Polish Forum.

As just remind you: Poland is a free country. You cannot force a woman to have sex. If you try to do that, you are gonna go to jail, and beaten by the other prisoners. And you will deserve that.