Polish Girl Doesn't Want To Touch.

you love her after 4 months? really? hmmm scary


hold your horses, kid


seems you may be sincere here then.. take what you are getting (the knee, lol, sry dude but that's just funny) and enjoy it.. i'm guessing both of you are way young.. just be patient.. polkas are that way, for the most part.. if you are cool then eventually she'll open up but you can't rush it or you'll push her away..

there is also a chance she's not that much into you.. so be prepared for that..

good luck otherwise.


gold digger


maybe that 50euro is the way to break the ice.. lol


actually it does


consider the advice the gold digger gave you.. it's very possible she only wants to be friends and/or is using you as a meal ticket


that's probably so..


she doesn't let you touch her.. get it?


see, you know better.


haha, great observation my man.


yup, you do know.. go with your inner feeling.. it's never ever wrong


no, do not do that.. it's highly likely she'll be pissed..


yup.. and i think you already know that you probably should just move on.. life's too short to play games.. find another and be happy.


lol.. no, it'll never happen, i feel


ok,this is one of the v. few things i will agree with tz on.


why is that? not all women play games and i agree with him, just the stupid ones do.. the ones worth anything don't are up front from the get-go..


exactly


he already has the answer but doesn't seem to believe it.


lol.. this thread is beginning to be "rich"


agreed


and then you wonder why people here hate your stupid arse.. seriously man, that was inappropriate as it gets.


and she has had plenty of space and seems to want more.. move one popcorn.


dude, she's not into you.. you're wasting your efforts here


that is a confirmation..


yup, stand up for yourself


again, this is a lost cause.. move along and dump this leech


no, that's dishonest, really


he said tease out.. that doesn't mean to tease.. that means work out gently..


this is playing a game.. kind of waste of time as from what i read, she just isn't all that into him


and stick with that.. but you have to be selective with information.. not everything is meant to be shared.. just remember that


lmao


the answer is in those she freezes on.. and that answer is the negative


:D


that's the bottom line..nicely said


but why not just say that from the start.. keeping the guy in the dark isn't ok.


big mistake man.. mark my words


jeez.. after all the other advice you give him now you say that.. WTF?


yup and exactly... it's a bad move, imho


probably shot his chances not that he had any anyway.. she'll give him an answer in 2 days? wtf? that doesn't sound right either..

when she has found another place to stay.

Popcorn, you did not answer the question so I will ask again. How old are you?
The first thing that came to my mind when I read your initial post, is age difference, I would guess you are 40+ and she in her early 20's.

Only one way works in these cases.You bring another Polka in the room and you start undressing and caressing her in front of the other.The other gets hot and you have two Polki in the sack.

Great things happen.... on fantasy island...

It is true.Many polish girls have bi tendencies or want to experiment.

The world doesn't revolve around you and your sexual fantasies. Please keep to the original topic.

Well, she gave you most of the nonverbal signals one can think of... And she didn't claim that she had any romantic feelings for you? But I agree that when asked directly she should give a direct answer.


It's possible ;)


I was wondering about that too...

guess you should know better then anyone else (except her) if she's into you or not.

but if the situation is really like you described it, sorry, guess you have no chance.
it's true that women can change their mind so quickly, but acting like the way you did, the best you can expect from her now, is friendship.

but do you really want this ?
be careful, because there is a risk that you're gonna end up really hurt. friendships between different sexes hardly works for long, and especially when you start this with an interest on her already, it's a real bombshell.

good luck mate

My opinion is, get away from her, cut her off right now. She seems not interested, cut her off as she will do it to you. If she did want you, she will make a move. DON'T pay for her drinks or do ANYTHING for her, it's just not worth it and not advantageous to you. She will use you and run, I've seen it myself, first Polish girl I met was interested and was with her for some time, but second one showed minimal interest at first but changed. Don't profess love or anything, keep her guessing. If she shows you little or it goes to nothing, keep distance totally, or get away. Let her come to you with some signals. I try to learn this lesson. Take it from a guy with experience of that.

Thats a good idea, take her to a restaurant and at the end demand that she should pay, observe her response.

Popcorn, did you have a deal with her that she could move in with you on the condition that it would become romantic? If not, then I think you deceived her. You made her think that she could move in with you as a friend and then you started touching her, pushing yourself on her. And now you want to throw her out because she's not giving in. How is she taking advantage of you? I think it's the other way around. Ask her to start paying rent if you've changed your mind and feel entitled to money but stop groping her.

I would love to hear her side of the story.
When I was in college and struggling, I rented a room in this guy's big house, in exchange for keeping the whole place clean. He turned out to be a pig in more than one sense. He said it was my fault he could not stop thinking about sex, looking the way I did. I was trying to be polite and considerate of his feelings, thought we could be friends, but he "had his needs", he said. I scraped his whole pig-sty of the house clean while he oogled me, before I realized that I had look for a new place to live, all within one week.

Lol. funny stuff, can one be any more clueless? this guy is totally getting used and he thinks he "loves" her? dude, get a life and good luck man.

Trust me on this one, kick her out right now this very second. Block her email her phone everything run from this woman like your life depends on it.

Go find a woman that is interested in you, these issues make you sound pathetic and no woman could find this attractive.

I apologise if this sounds hard but trust me, I know about similar things.

I must admit I agree with shewolf... If you didn't say that a romantic relationship was a condition of her living in your spare room she could think that it was a friend's favour. If you feel used then tell her to give you some money to pay for the rent or at least for the food. If she can't cook then tell her to do the dishwashing. Although this whole thing probably won't work as you clearly want a relationship, not friendship.


Me too, it's always good to hear it to get the full picture.


Eewww, that's grose ;O

Well pay halves at least. I agree there, seems like being used so ask her for rent, or tell her she needs to go very soon

Popcorn, I think she made her feelings very clear with her body language but you can't take a hint. You've chosen to force yourself on her, which is wrong. You could end up in jail eventually, because of her or someone else, if that's how you behave.

Even your title "Polish Girl Doesn't Want to Touch" is clear and then you go on and on about still trying to touch her. Isn't that some kind of crime even? It gives me the creeps.

Interesting angle I did not think of (leave it to you, N. :) ) Indeed it would be interesting to hear more about his past romantic life to see if he has a history of seeking girls who are physically and emotionally unavailable to him. But, as you say, this is probably a bit deeper than the expressed problem at hand.

It is interesting getting this take from the girls here. This is something not many men have had to deal with. But she is still taking advantage of him and the situation and it is up to her how much of this she wants to put up with for her free ride.



Yep. Yep.


I wonder about their ages too. But I don't think he is that old. OP seems younger. Maybe they're both about 20.

I still can't believe that he showed her this thread. Lol. After reading OP's whining here she'd either run to his arms or run away from him once and for all.

Run, run like the wind.

Well, it looks like his attitude is like this: "I give you my spare room, I give you food, you give me sex." LOL

I know I'm simplifying but it's pretty obvious that she's not attracted to him and has no romantic feelings for him. So what did he expect? He wrote that she knew about his feelings from the start. So how was she behaving back then, before moving in? Did he even ask about her feelings before she moved in? Did he ask her to move in or did she ask him?

We only know his side of the story so I guess we girls try to think about what's her side of the story too ;)


Yeah, it's a weird situation...


I guess we'll find out in two days, if Popcorn is willing to share her decision with us ;)


As far as I understand he didn't, he showed her this forum, but didn't confirm that this is the thread he had in mind.

I think she may well read this one.

I dont see it that way, I see it as "I know this poor sap fancies me so I'll string him along and get a good free ride whilst it lasts"

Well, it doesn't look like this to me:



Sure, it's possible.
But it also seems he isn't that much interested in her feelings towards him. It looks like he's only interested in touching and this is the only problem he sees - that there's no touching ;)

Don't you find it weird that he didn't ask about her feelings before she moved in? That they didn't kiss even once? She lives in a spare room - it's not like she's sleeping with him in one bed.

So why did he think there's going to be a romantic relationship? It's just weird, I'm confused by this story...

Paulina, u seem 2 be fixated on the sex thing, he mentiones wanting to know her feelings more times in his first couple posts (those long 1s) then he talked about touching or sex. ot tirned more into that once all the responces started to flow in.

Either way, this seems rather complicated like most things involving chicas tends to b.
Move along if u want 2 retain your sanity Mr. Popcorn.

Yeah but he's a young boy all gaga over this girl, he's not thinking clearly. Typical. :s And to this point he hasn't done anything too awful creepy ...that we know of.


This is how I still see it.


Maybe she'll stop by and talk to us! :D


Good advice!

agree :)

I think this girl is feeling like she was put in a situation she doesnt want to be in.

I mean ,they are friends, but hes letting her stay in the other * ROOM* she is thinking
ok, I can do this, he seems like hes going to be a gentleman, but of course, putting
your hand on someones knee is a direct advance, and I am sure she felt like he is
trying to take advantage of her.. when your not attracted to someone, you dont give them
the ok to touch you, so she is saying, hey get your dirty paws off me. or else.

but she is laughing cause she feels awkward so she is putting up with it till there is a way
out, you wait and see.. if you want to keep her as a friend popcorn, I would back off
and leave well enough alone. cause it sounds like a one sided relationship all in your
mind.

and your pushing her away in your own home. if your friends, then stay that, relationships
grow over time. its only been 4 months people dont marry in 4 months or become exclusive
( unless that is what they are looking for) right away..

she is there because you are friends and that is what you told her.. right? its ok to stay
in your spare room? I think theres more to this story and you are pushing it.

because every time someone tried to help you, you found a excuse and a reason
why it cant be done. I am only being honest, and you need that.. come back down
to reality.. take the gentleman approach with the open the car door, dont expect and
leave her some space. keep your hands in your pockets.

Popcorn hasnt been on for a while, perhaps all this worked and hes getting some well overdue sack time.

Here is his quote: "We talked for hours, I've drew portraits of her, went to movies, out to eat, and she's now even living in an extra room in my apartment "

I just see some artist 40+ type, so based on his info, he set up the rules and he should know these conditions are set in stone doe a Polish woman, if he is trying to change the goal posts,it requires a fresh set of rules.

With Polki first you bang them then you pay them.It is not the other way around.

If all else fails, wear nothing but body paint with your best blackface and see what gives.