Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her

he could be any one though and what if you decided you didn,t like him. i only give my number to people i trust.

sorry, having some probs. with my log-in. Well I am not advocating giving to anyone who asks.. ideally you would have more than a 5-10 min chat before giving him your number, so you should have some idea if he is OK or not and if you like him.. then he calls and if you decide you are not interested you either tell him then or make an excuse. If he calls again you will recognise his number and dont answer.. after a few tries he will get the message and stop calling.

its best for the female to give their number, cos i know for the fact that they dont like calling first, may be im wrong but that i how i see it

true. It take a brave girl to call a random guy who came up and gave her his number.. most would be flattered but wouldnt call

It has happened to me that a girl called me two months after.I had forgotten her and she waited a call for two months.However this is the only case that giving a phone number worked.

No point giving your phone number to a girl. I never got a call from a girl I gave my phone number too. It is just a cop out to make you feel better but the outcome is assured.

You need to use the trident method that I explained before. Talk to her, find her interests, spot the opening in the conversation and invite her to go with you to do something that she likes. Then ask for the phone number so that if something goes wrong you have a contact... that is the drill.

They probably never called you because they didn't like you. I don't know. All women are different. I've gone up and given my number to a man and he called me.

I like Lobo's advice, to spend more time talking to her. If you hardly know her at this point, there's always a chance she'll say no because women are not all alike. Some will say yes. Some will say no. But if she knows you better, chances are higher that she'll give it to you. That's just my opinion.

Shewolf, you stood up and gave your number to a man. That is totally different from a man standing up and giving you his number!

you standing up and giving a number to a man is equivalent to grabing a man by the balls. I don't know many who would not have called you. (no offence in fact I wish more women did it).

I thought it was because he really like me. We went out and the relationship lasted for a long time. Are you saying women don't call you back even if they really like you and want a lasting relationship with you?

No, I am saying that women tend to be more shy about calling a man they do not know. Many times before I understood this and was trying to give girls my number they would refuse it and instead give me theirs and ask me to call them.

You're a big playboy, Lobo. :)

Giving a woman your number is just like junk mail and ends up in the same place. To be able to close a "sale" like that you need the personal interaction, a good reason and some action (an arranged meeting to go to later for an agreed purpose). Otherwise it is not impossible that the woman will call you but the odds are not favorable and you are wasting your time. There are however exceptions to this rule.

For example if you are in a night club and the woman you fancy is looking at you protected from a bunch of male friends. Then if you walk to her and give her the number she will think you have balls and it is all a bit illicit (make sure you do it when nobody else is watching).


Well, I suppose I slowly got better with age, it is the mileage I guess. I am quite particular with the girls I go for and thus have to increase my hit rate otherwise I would still be a virgin…

Also I like to observe how things work, girls being just a more complex "machine".

Well playboys & girls I got her number, but on friendly basis cause she says she is seeing someone. I know she likes me cause she was blushing.

Now What is next
1 should i wait a day or two for a call
2 What should I say on my first call, so she find me irresistible and agrees on a date

Note: I really like her and I know she will make a lovely wife as well as a loving mother of my children

You're going to try and take this girl away from another man? You're a bad boy. :)

If they both truly love each other then i be just her guardian angel and a Godfather of a child.

Well done.
Well if you had used my method you would alrady have the reason... anyway now you have to take her out somewhere / do something nice. Go sailing in lake? You know the geography of your place and the opportunities.

The fact that she has someone is neither here nor there. I haven't yet met a gorgeous girl who does not have "someone". I believe the proper name for the other poor bloke, if you are good enough is ROAD KILL.

You're a bad boy, too, Lobo.

Some say that it apparently a sport amongst good lookers in their twenties to go from one man to the next. The hope is that the next one is "better" than the previous and thus takes you on an ever rising escalator...

I suppose one of the main functions of the short "trial period", when they can keep the duality secret, is to find out if the new man is indeed better... and then decide to take of ditch... some say...

k so whats a best way to avoid conflict and handle a situation nicely when i confront the bloke who just found out that i been seeing her girl.

How about something short and to the point like: "Hi there, i'm the <insert descriptive noun of your choice here> that is trying to break you two up, lovely to meet you. No hard feelings eh?"

edit: as this forum is called polish singles and this girl clearly isn't aren't we heading off into Off Topic territory. Wouldn't want any moderating double standards now would we?

Its..... THE ARC H I T E C T S K E T C H

<looking for knotted handkerchief to place on head>

You mean he needs a strengthened central pillar vicar? That'll be costly, just ask Galileo's secretary. He was awful once his balls dropped. Testosterone's got a lot to answer for. :)

Yep, it's a pig to spell for starters.

Hope you are well Hueg.. Usual Austrian party-fest happening I suppose?

Yep. All's well thanks muchly. It's bbq time so there is currently a haze of charcoal smoke hanging over the city. Either there are a lot of sausages being blackened or we've got another new pope. Could go either way to be honest.

Hope you've managed to shake off the air kissing I was fired by Sir Alan Nothing to do with Amstrad Sugar types for a quiet weekend. I really do love understatement. :)

listen i am a lover not a fighter mate. Don't want to be an animal either beside in bed with her

Operative and in some sense exclusive.

Almost opposites. That's what's doing the confusing I bet.

Keep this up and i'll need to see your apiary licence. :)

Congrats on the number, just make sure it doesn't get you any trouble.

My situation has got a little strange. I know the Polish woman I was interested in likes me, her body language and eye contact has been very intense and she has always gone out of her way to greet me whenever she sees me.

Sadly when I said I wanted to meet with her and asked for her number today despite blushing she said that she was married. (talk about bad luck there)

A shame I guess.

It is better to wait a little bit before calling her,to give her some time to justify her action to give you her phone number by chick logic.If you call her next day,maybe she will respond negatively thinking she will betray her boyfriend.But after some days she will start to think that maybe you are a better case and will agree to a date.That is because she will have analysed all her soul condition that made her give you her phone number and will have overpassed the remorse stage of the second date.You should call her before one week because otherwise she might think you are seeing sb else and you do not have time.So best is to call after 3 days.In one day she will start waiting fo your call.

You do not need to say anything special to persuade her to go on a date with you.She will have already decided.By trying to impress her you will cause her doubts and make the situation worse.Be natural,that is enough for beginning.

The boyfriend question is very difficult.It is important nevr to refer to him or talk about hm with her.If she says sth about her boyfriend,you may answer he is a very lucky man.

If you happen to meet him,try to befriend him and give him more attention than to the girl.
That's what I would do.

That's what got me too. I got this incredible vibe from her, loads of eye contact and smiling. Scrambled my brain completely. It's an edge women have over men. They never need to be alone, they have this switch they can flick and no matter what they look like, some man will be taken in by it.


I call it the penis fly trap

Do you realise you ran 7 stop signs whilst your overactive imagination was running out of control sir?

But she smiled at me and she kept looking at me. What else was I supposed to do I even asked her out and everything but she's married. She still wants me though.

Of course she does sir.

Can you just blow into this please.

<one long continuous blow>

I'm going to have to confiscate that imagination of yours if you keep on. :)