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Expecting a baby with Polish partner - "multi-cultural pregnancy/parenting"?


poland_  
29 Aug 2011 /  #31
My husband speaks only Polish to the girls and I speak only English.

We have done exactly the same in our home from day 1, both of our girls are very comfortable in English or Polish as well as other languages.
sleeping_beauty  1 | 25  
11 Oct 2011 /  #32
Im an expectant Mom as well and not Polish. I can speak 3 languages and working on my 4th, Polish.
My husband is Polish and we communicate in English.
We have this agreement that he will only speak Polish to our child and I will only speak my native language as well.

I have worked before as a child caregiver and I had this 3 years old kid and she absolutely dont know English at all, but after a year living with her, she spoked fluent English like the native English speaking children.

So, I can tell it really works if you will stick in one idea and follow same method, 'coz if won't, that the time the child will get confuse.
Brit-Pol  
12 Oct 2011 /  #33
sleeping_beauty

"I have worked before as a child caregiver and I had this 3 years old kid and she absolutely dont know English at all, but after a year living with her, she spoked fluent English like the native English speaking children."

I'm sorry sleeping_beauty and I really don't mean to offend but I have to be honest. Going by what you have written there you most certainly did not teach that child tp speak English like a native speaker.
sleeping_beauty  1 | 25  
12 Oct 2011 /  #34
So how do you think she learned how to speak English?
pip  10 | 1658  
12 Oct 2011 /  #35
give her a break. Her English is better than many native speakers that use terrible slang and bad grammar.
EdWilczynski  3 | 98  
12 Oct 2011 /  #36
So how do you think she learned how to speak English?

The previous poster is right. It's kind of ridiculous to claim to have taught someone to speak native English when your own English is of such a poor standard.

Her English is better than many native speakers that use terrible slang and bad grammar.

Like starting a sentence with a lowercase 'g' for example?
tigger76  - | 4  
29 Sep 2012 /  #37
I have friends who have 2 kids. The father is Irish, mother is Polish. So their dad talks to them in English and mother talks to them in Polish. Also the oldest child who is 5 goes to a Gaelscoil which is a school where they teach all the subjects only through the Irish language. He is in Senior infants at the moment. And the kid has no problems at all. His English is perfectly fine for a child of his age...and his mum tells me his Polish is fine too. And trust me his Irish is very good. He can hold a simple conversation in Irish quite well. He sometimes has to pause a little when he is talking and tries to remember a word because he has 3 different words in 3 different languages to describe a single thing but it is happening much more rarely now. The funniest bit is his change of accent...he speaks Polish with a Polish accent...but has a strong Cork accent with English and Irish. I find that hilarious. ;o)
Levi  11 | 433  
22 Dec 2015 /  #38
Nah, Multiculturalism doesn't work and just brings misery and conflict, be it on a country level or personal level.

I am Latin American and my partner is Polish. If we have a baby, we will create it according to the culture of the place where we stablish.

That meaning, if we stablish ourselves in Poland, the baby will be raised as a normal Slavic children, speaking polish and having polish friends and traditions. At most he will be a much better football player than his friends, but all the rest will be slavic.
Roger5  1 | 1432  
22 Dec 2015 /  #39
Levi, don't forget to teach him (maybe her) tolerance towards different people. we don't have to pass on our failings in Larkinesque inevitability.
Wroclaw1010  3 | 90  
22 Dec 2015 /  #40
I am Latin American and my partner is Polish

Multiculturalism doesn't work and just brings misery and conflict

We didn't know you've been cheesed off in your relationship :(. Please take it lightly and stop venting your anger and frustration on innocent people.
Levi  11 | 433  
22 Dec 2015 /  #41
We didn't know you've been cheesed off in your relationship

I was not. It is everything ok between us (differently than your life).

You can have a foreigner partner without have a multicultural kid.

As i said, multiculturalism just brings misery and conflict. So i have my culture, but i accept the culture of my partner (polish) as dominant if we choose to live in Poland. And our kid will not be raised as multicultural but as Polish, single and dominant culture.

And all immigrants should do the same as i do, instead of, like you, try to impose your culture in Poland like you, Wroclaw1010, try to do imposing yours.
Wroclaw1010  3 | 90  
22 Dec 2015 /  #42
And our kid will not be raised as multicultural but as Polish, single and dominant culture.

Don't get it twisted. No matter how you blend, there are still some elements you can't get ride of and it 'll automatically have significant or slight influence on the child, unless you're planning to let the woman raise the child alone.

differently than your life

With all indications, you sound like someone who always has a chip on his shoulder. Remember, not everyone is in your own kind of shoes. Some of us are better off........
Levi  11 | 433  
22 Dec 2015 /  #43
No matter how you blend, there are still some elements you can't get ride of and it 'll automatically have significant or slight influence on the child, unless you're planning to let the woman raise the child alone.

There is a difference in conserve few aspects of one's own culture (like myself still loving to eat some Acai after gym like i done in Brazil).

And Impose your own religion and Sharia law like you do.
Chemikiem  
22 Dec 2015 /  #44
You can have a foreigner partner without have a multicultural kid.

What if your half Brazilian child wants to embrace Brazilian culture? Your child is bound to ask questions as most people would if they had parents from two different countries. It might not be as simple as you think.

And our kid will not be raised as multicultural but as Polish, single and dominant culture.

So you'll tell your child that he/she must only embrace Polish culture because that's where you all live?

don't forget to teach him (maybe her) tolerance towards different people

Not much chance of that.
The fact that he's dragged up this three year old thread speaks volumes.
Wroclaw1010  3 | 90  
22 Dec 2015 /  #45
And Impose your own religion and Sharia law like you do

You're just an empty drum rolling on a rocky path. There are difference between traditions or cultures and religion. I have my African tradition which I still hold very dear to my heart and my religion.

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