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My Gf Cheated Me - a classic Polish girl move?


I hate Pierogi  
4 Sep 2018 /  #1
Im gonna keep it short but If you want details I will say.

She cheated me when Im at army. She was crying, begging etc. I didnt forgive her but we were still talking. 5-6 months past and we are still talking but Now she is like "I did somehting. It just happened. What can I do. Go away from me. I dont want you anymore" etc etc. She changed so weird. She was keeping saying lie since beginning of our relationship. She is professional liar but I didnt know that she can cheat me.

She is acting like She is proud of it. She is laughing, acting like Im noone for her etc etc. Im asking "Why did you change now. Did you do something again" She is saying "Im not hiding nothing. I just dont want you anymore" İts so so weird for me. Like she is hiding but she is saying No(I dont believe actually)

Two little details(I will say better If you want) She is working with two Ex at the same place and she cheated me with one of them. She is saying 'I hate them. I just did mistake' but She is still working.

Ok, she cheated me and Im stupid because I couldnt go away. Now she is acting like she is so happy and dont give a fck nothing. Is this classic Polish girl?

Im really feeling so bad because She dont care nothing and she is soooo happy and laughing, cursing to me, being rude etc. Ok, she cheated and Im still feeling bad about this but this behaviours killing me more than she cheated me.

Im feeling like sh!t. I did too many too things for her but now she is being evil to me. Her behaviours are killing me.

İdk how to feel when she is saying "I dont want you. I dont give a fck nothing how you will feel. Bye" like I said, this behaviours are killing me worse than she cheated me.
mafketis  38 | 10990  
4 Sep 2018 /  #2
"I did somehting. It just happened.

Walk off the lot, if she can't take responsibility she's not long term relationship material and will cheat again if she has the chance. She's chosen the road to vvhoreville, so just wave her on her way.

It's classic vvhore behavior not classic Polish girl behavior.

She is acting like She is proud of it.

She is, she bagged someone she values over you. It's over. Move on.
OP I hate Pierogi  
5 Sep 2018 /  #3
Of course I dont want her to cry like crazy but this weird behaviours are so so awful. Im thinking months ago and Im thinking now. Huge difference! Drinking, party, drinking, party.... The only thing that she care.. She is saying ''Im in depress thats why Im acting like this'' but she is having fun like crazy :D I dont get her at all. Idk what she is thinking or trying to do.
mafketis  38 | 10990  
5 Sep 2018 /  #4
I dont want her to cry like crazy

crying like crazy is a negotiating tactic not real emotion

Idk what she is thinking or trying to do.

look up "alpha fvcks beta bucks" .... hint: you're not her alpha
OP I hate Pierogi  
5 Sep 2018 /  #5
I guess you are right. I didnt say many details but I Just dont get her. Im the most normal person in her life as a man. Her other bfs were a.sholes. Beating, cheating, trying to kill her etc etc. I guess she bored with me because We have long distance relationship. She is saying "You are not changing. Im doing things for myself, not for our relationship" She suddenly started being selfish after 3 years.

I would tell everything but İdk how to start. So thats enough I guess. She care drinking, going to party and just f.ck whenever she want. And now after everything, like Im the guilty for everything for her :)

Anyway. I guess I will feel awful when Im thinking that she is enjoying her life like she didnt do nothing. I know I know, this is life. Hard one.
mafketis  38 | 10990  
6 Sep 2018 /  #6
Just dont get her

She's counting on that.

Im the most normal person in her life as a man. Her other bfs were a.sholes. Beating, cheating, trying to kill her etc etc.

Which is what she wants (but maybe with you as a safe emotional cushion).

I guess she bored with me because

you don't beat her, cheat on her, try to kill her etc that's what she wants, just accept that you can't fix her and move on. And I really, really, really doubt that this started only after three years.

You're not the first guy to fall into the Captain Save-a-ho trap and you won't be the last. But she doesn't see you as anything but as fallback and is incapable of devotion to any man who doesn't treat her like sh1t.

Walk. Away. Remember the warning signs so you don't get played again.

Stay frosty, as they say. Stay. Frosty.
OP I hate Pierogi  
6 Sep 2018 /  #7
And I really, really, really doubt that this started only after three years.

I mean Ok we were arguing all the time but this is normal for every relationships. I just dont get, even after she cheated, even when İm not soooooo bad after I learned this, how can she change now!

Like something happened Booom and she changed. Like she is some öther person. She only care drinking and partying now. This things are normal of course but like İ said I was not even acting bad like her now after I learned stuffs.
cms neuf  1 | 1786  
6 Sep 2018 /  #8
Move on dude - she is not worth this heartache and as Maf says its nothing to do with her being Polish.
mafketis  38 | 10990  
6 Sep 2018 /  #9
even after she cheated, even when İm not soooooo bad after I learned this, how can she change now!

You're only hope after you found out she cheated was a display of cold fury as you ordered her out of your life and were unmoved by tears or dramatic scenes.

There's a small chance then she would try to win you back (which you would let her do very, very slowly) but.... you blew it and now the relationship is over.

You signalled to her that you're weak and won't stand up for yourself (which means you wouldn't stand up for her). Not all women think like that by any means, but a certain percentage of women want a man who does not put up with anything (that reassures her that you're capable of protecting her should the need arise). If they don't get that they go on a self-destructive tear. Not your problem.

Move on and don't be such a pathetic weakling in the future.
Crow  154 | 9312  
6 Sep 2018 /  #10
Cheated, cheated. Wtf? Her vagina isn`t made of soap and won`t be consumed in entirety don`t worry. Instead to cry like old woman, you go now and cheat her.
OP I hate Pierogi  
6 Sep 2018 /  #11
Ok then. If someone will cheat you someday after 3-4 years(or more) we will talk about this later :)

Then we can talk about your Gf-wife's soap vagina. If you are lady, we can talk about his magic penis.

And Wow! What a suggestion. Cheat her too? How old are you? Are you teenager? This isnt the right way. I came here and just writing how Im feeling. And I just feel little better because of that. You dont have to be aggressive.
Crow  154 | 9312  
6 Sep 2018 /  #12
When man have few female partners it actually isn`t cheating. Its spreading of responsibility.

Ok then. If someone will cheat you someday after 3-4 years(or more) we will talk about this later :)

we all got our share of horns, I am sure. I don`t delude myself. This is how things function. Humans are promiscuous species.
Sylvio  19 | 154  
7 Sep 2018 /  #13
This place goes for having hot birds in it..


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Crow  154 | 9312  
7 Sep 2018 /  #14
By the God. In Serbian `Mokre` means `wet` what is as we all know precondition for `hot`.

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