Polish boyfriend coming to visit

OP marek1024 2 | 12

4 Jan 2010 / #31

I gather it's been an internet/phone relationship up to now.
Do what you are comfortable doing.
And remember, you might be convinced that you are in love, but the
final test is the physical attraction when you meet in person - it's important to be yourself

that is exactly what i am afraid of...loving him here but then the physical attraction when we meet wont be there. it always run through my mind all the time. although he always tell me that we should take things slow, i tried but my feelings doesnt obey it.

nomaderol 5 | 726

4 Jan 2010 / #32

final test is the physical attraction when you meet in person - it's important to be yourself

that is exactly what i am afraid of...loving him here but then the physical attraction when we meet wont be there.

indeed so. even if i were physically spastic, i could make you beautifuls £ov€ me easily on the net. you still need to see my physical appearence? for final test, lol.

OP marek1024 2 | 12

5 Jan 2010 / #33

sorry im not sure I got it right;
you know eachtoher for 2yrs
he's in a relationship since 6months
but not with u?
u ave a polish bf, it's not him/its with him?
sorry if i didn't get it clear
thx

hi kasia...we have known each other for 2 years already and we've been on a relationship with each other for 6months.

dhennie_jo 4 | 31

8 Jan 2010 / #34

Hi Marek1024... I suggest you to cook adobo hehehe... My husbands parents are very tradional in terms of food excepts his 2 sisters... so since i dont know what to cook for them... I let them to try adobo and sinigang... But they more like adobo... I found out also that they have same dish like "nilaga" but the difference is they boil it with leek and it really taste good. You can also serve bbq and fish ^^. Polish people also like vegies so maybe you can also serve some vegetables salad. I also cooked pancit and kare-kare and other philippine foods to my husband and he likes it. My husband loves philippine food but he dont want to try balut and exotic foods hahaha. Good luck to your BF as he see balut ^^

OP marek1024 2 | 12

11 Jan 2010 / #35

maybe you can also serve some vegetables salad. I also cooked pancit and kare-kare and other philippine foods to my husband and he likes it. My husband loves philippine food but he dont want to try balut and exotic foods hahaha. Good luck to your BF as he see balut ^^

thanks again for your suggestions. i think i will cook adobo since i have mentioned it to him before.

skysoulmate 13 | 1250

11 Jan 2010 / #36

They got married a few years later, and last year I went to visit them in Ireland after seven years had passed! I was nervous, but it was a wonderful reunion and I feel that they are happy and right for each other. The love I had is still there, but with no trace of romance.

Softsong - quite an incredible story... It shows you're a top notch person...

Marek1024 - I fly into Manila very often and love your country. It's the Hawaii of Asia in my view and I live in Hawaii so I can compare...

I know nothing about your boyfriend but I think what you should focus on is the local culture and traditions. I believe that Poland and the Philippines both share a love for the family life - it is an integral part of both cultures. You should show him how friendly and kind the locals are to each other and to people they don't know and I think that'll make him feel at home.

Good luck to you both or Palarin ka sana... :)

OP marek1024 2 | 12

11 Jan 2010 / #37

I believe that Poland and the Philippines both share a love for the family life - it is an integral part of both cultures. You should show him how friendly and kind the locals are to each other and to people they don't know and I think that'll make him feel at home.

hi skysoulmate-i also think the same that polish and filipino share the same love for family life. what part of our country have you visted so far?

skysoulmate 13 | 1250

11 Jan 2010 / #38

what part of our country have you visted so far?

I've visited Manila and Cabanatuan the most but I've also been to Quezon City (sp?), Batangas, Angeles and some other smaller cities but I can't remember the names. Subic Bay and the beach area is very nice.

I've met quite a few Philipinos, some poor and some rich, some older and some younger. They all seemed happy and always tried to keep a positive outlook on life which I like. Often I also witnessed how relatively poor people would try to help other, even less fortunate folks. The kindness of the locals is probably what I like the most about PI.

Paalam ;)

keyvan - | 10

11 Jan 2010 / #39

Hi friends, I'm new in this forum and I'm not from Poland, but I have a doubt and I would like help on solving it by polish girls preferably, but anyone with a lot of experience with polish girls might help me.

can you say me that
how can i find girl that realy looking for relation!
i think polish girl only like have polish guy to be friend

thanks in advance

BrutalButcher - | 386

11 Jan 2010 / #40

If you think Polish girls only like Polish men, you don't know any Polish girl :P

keyvan - | 10

11 Jan 2010 / #41

i see alot of polish girl in this 3 month that im here
maybe problem is that here in this city most of girl cant speak english
and i cant speak polish
what do you think!
i should know polish :-(
oh my god nooooo

BrutalButcher - | 386

11 Jan 2010 / #42

What are you doing in Poland? After 3 months you should be able to speak some Polish. And why do you want a girl? What about getting a job or studying?

keyvan - | 10

11 Jan 2010 / #43

yes i know some word in polish but i cant speak polish
come on you know that its very hard language for foreigner
you realy think that i can find job here in poland ,most of polish people here looking for job here :-)
girl !
why do you want girl !
feeling relax and have nice time with my girlf freind
have you any idea to find here for me :-)

kith 1 | 69

11 Jan 2010 / #44

That was very unselfish of you. Bravo.

keyvan - | 10

11 Jan 2010 / #45

hey kith
what do you think !
have you any idea about it !
you think i should know polish language to find girl freind here
come on
plz say no :-)

skysoulmate 13 | 1250

12 Jan 2010 / #46

...My grand daughter's other grandmother told her, "Marry a rich man so you can have a house like that."

So, yes....many times girls are given this type of advice. :-(

That's so passé! I thought the advice young girls were getting nowadays was "marry a rich guy so you get to keep the house and half of his savings when you divorce him."

Am I wrong here? ;)

I'm afraid you will have to face your girl's parents, friends, uncles, aunts and employers. My husband doesn't seem to mind but I go crazy every time I hear "you're in Poland, you must learn Polish now" with this cheeky smile on their faces... It's really annoying. Especially that so may Poles do speak Englisg and so few of them are ready to use it.

To play the devil's advocate here - wouldn't you say that part of being an immigrant is to absorb the host country's culture and traditions, including the language? Of course that doesn't preclude keeping your old customs and traditions as well...

sleeping_beauty 1 | 25

31 Jan 2010 / #47

hi i am a filipina and i have a polish bf. he will be coming here in manila (first time to see each other personally)

may i asked when did he said that he like you as gf? how long takes?
Im having the same situation and we're talking now for almost 7 months.

dhennie_jo 4 | 31

2 Feb 2010 / #48

sleeping_beauty

hi sleeping beauty are u also a filipina?

OP marek1024 2 | 12

5 Feb 2010 / #49

may i asked when did he said that he like you as gf? how long takes?
Im having the same situation and we're talking now for almost 7 months.

hi sleeping beauty well we knew each other for 2 years and we are just in a relationship for 7months now. he told me he liked me when we turned a year of knowing each other. quite a long time, really hehehe because he said he wants to take things slowly in which i agree. he is coming on the 17th and i hope it will turn out the best. Are you Filipina? just like me and dhennie_jho.

:)

sleeping_beauty 1 | 25

5 Feb 2010 / #50

Are you Filipina? just like me and dhennie_jho.

Yes, I am.

123z 2 | 29

12 May 2011 / #51

Softsong - your story is very nice, make me emotional and i can feel a goosebumps reading it. :-)

Softsong 5 | 492

13 May 2011 / #52

Thank you 123z. Glad you were moved. It was a beautiful time. It was sad for awhile, but it ended well. We are all happy now. :-)