I WANT HER BACK EVEN IF I HAVE TO CROSS THE OCEAN WITH A BOAT AND GO WALKING TO LÓDZ

Hi,i won't ask the stupid and repetitive questions do polish girls fall for....
I (saddly)"had a relationship"(saddly 'cause it ended)with a polish girl.

Im an Argentinian/Italian boy that met a girl on Facebook from Poland, i fall inmediately for her, and yes KOWING THAT WE HAD A LOT OF REASONS FOR THIS RELATIONSHIP TO FAIL.

I'll be short, cuz this is a very looooooooooong story and i dont want you people to fall asleep for reading another relationship story.

The thing is that i was about to go there and visit her, and finally meet her in real life but only for two weeks, cuz i had to get back to university,(not because i didn't want to stay there with her for the rest of my life) the thing is that i took to long to make my decision and go there.

I wanted stay for more than two weeks(i was thinking about going there 24hs the 7 days of the week),but i had a lot of doubts not because of her, just becuse it's soo diferent to my world that i was trully scared.

Now she left me, and i want soo badly to go there anyways to the other side of the world and make her fall for me one more time.

Do i have a chance a second chance with her if i go there??

I was hard on her sometimes cuz i thought she was a cold person, and i didnt understand how could it be that polish people at least in their intimacy they would be cold(I was wrong), maybe outside from my country they see us like people that is always horny(maybe thats the thypical thought of South Americans in general,which is wrong people are not the same in anywere),but here in Argentina we are very close people between each other,and with out any hidden intentions,just the way we are. ok back to what i was saying i THOUGHT she was cold and she was and is terribly sweet and now that she left me i can see it.

Any help about this??? ill do ANYTHING IT TAKES TO GET HER BACK,WHEN I SAY ANYTHING I MEAN THAT,
(go and live there in Poland,learn polish,get a job continue my studies there
A N Y T H I N G to be with here)
AM I CRAZY MAYBE YES, I DONT CARE, LOVES MAKES US STRANGE THINGS AND I WONT WASTE MY TIME TRYING TO UNDERSTAND LOVE'S REACTIONS

There is no maybe about it


There is your problem


Not a chance. See a shrink, fast.

how did you meet her on Facebook?

Another nut job trying for an EU passport.

Latino crying as usual.

Time will help you. It's the best doctor.
I think that she is too reasonable to rush into relationship with somebody who she hardly knows.

Sorry to say man, I know it too, friend or girlfriend, some of them, not all, haha, shhh .. say bye, or just actually disappear, like you are sh*t. That's what I saw too. 'Maybe' you can say it's their mentality, but careful what you say here, people get very touchy over this subject.

im sorry but you are mistaken i already have a EU passport i dont need a visa to go there,the only reason i would go,its because if her.


thanks,and yes i've been thinking about that i have to wait even if its hard,but thanks for your advice


I add her cuz of her name,even if it sounds weird,and after that we start chating and calling each other and knowing more the other one

noreenb


we've been in contact almost every day of the week for about 1 year and a half,i think i know her in many aspects, but im missing the most important, i dont know her in real life.

But i understad what you mean

You don't know her. You were in a virtual world for about one year.

People on facebook want to be somebody better, more interesting, more successfull than in normal, everyday life. If you were looking for a great girlfriend, you found the one. She was probably acting ideal.

You liked the situation, so did she.
A finish in reality?
Sometimes these relations work, people find there the one who they care, many of them end with a huge disappointment in reality.
It depends.


So take a deep breath an live!

read my words man and believe it. I saw it more than once

You mean that you saw this situation a lot of times??? i mean polish girls are shallow people i dont get it

twice, changing quickly and disappearing, like the other person is forgotten shiit

This whole story doesn't make sense. If she's a cold person and shallow, why would you want her back? It doesn't sound like love.

it's still possible to like or feel love for someone who is acting not so nice. That is the problem right there.

oo now i get it,yep i feel like ****, and it was all soo quickly that i didnt have time to understand why such reaction?!!?

ill have to move on with my life, i don't know what to think about the whole situation and how it ended,cuz now it seems to be usless...

Maybe it was because you were "hard on her sometimes" and called her a cold person and then you had doubts about visiting her. Who wants to be loved like that?


That's a good idea.

i meant that i thought she was cold and shallow, and i was wrong she wasnt, and of course i had doubts about visiting her im in Argentina, is not an easy decision to make,and she also criticize some stuff about my personality but it wasnt important cuz i know that we all have diferences between each other, even if its from the same culture.

I am still mystified why people publish these kind of stories on forums... Do they not have real-life friends who can advise them?

Strangers give more objective advises. Others, especially family, often judge. It's not even a matter of trust.

Telling a friend about real problems can be risky.
Imagine a situation:
You have flu for the third time in the same year. You meet a person with whom you used to spend a lot of time.

A small talk between you and the friend:
"- Hey, how are you? Do you still have a flu? If I had a flu so often I would go to do some blood tests. Maybe you are infected with HIV? You have to check it.

-? Oh, I feel better...
- Or, maybe, eat garlic 4 times a day. My grandma used to do this. It didn't help her actually. She died after a month. She had a very, very bad flu bugs. But I hope you will be fine soon. Your bugs are so dreadful. You look pale and so tired."

I understand his reasons for writing the post.

How so? They are the closest to you (apart from family) who will give your sound advise based on their knowledge of you personally.


Strangely enough we have a friend with cancer and we all went out for her birthday at weekend and we were all very open about the situation..nothing small about those chats...

I wouldnt dream of going on a forum asking for advice, it would be like ordering underwear on line...Just wrong!

Lust, not love.

Grow the **** up.

They want to blame everything on the other person being Polish so they look for the Polish forum so that others can agree with them that it's all because the other person was Polish.

There is no mystery in this kind of stories,is more common than you think,and yes i do have real-life friends but they are not polish soo they cannot help me trying to understand their personality.


no one has the completly truth about anything,to think you are right thats when you start being wrong,to think that someone is wrong make you to be wrong to,cuz no one has right to judge if you are not in his/her shoes,be more flexible about things in general


???? you are telling me to grow haha you should try to do that first before telling others to grow up.

Very true. But they also have no investment so they often don't give it the necessary thought effort which is needed for the best advice.

yep thats true, but i ask for and advice here on this forum (and its the first time i do this)because i'm not polish and i dont have polish mentality or behaviour to understand some reactions, i wouldn't ask here if i would have a polish person around. But i get your point.

You've come to the right place. Be patient, sooner or later you'll likely get some good Polish insight here.

Anonymity.

uhhhhh no.

I thought it was for the entertainment value. Mine obviously not theirs.

Wrong, if you want truthful answers, you must be 100 truthful to friends..As brutal as it is.


How do you work that out? Okay maybe not wrong, rather stupid instead.

Top and bottom of this is, you met a girl on line, chatted, she dropped you because she found someone in the real world...GET OVER IT!!