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Wearing "strange" things for poles and consequences, is it true?


tourist112  1 | 8  
7 Apr 2010 /  #1
Hello i am a 17 year old italian boy and ill come to warsaw for one week as a tourist. I have 2 earrings (which were i live is normal) and usually wear sunglasses, and my skin is quite dark (god i feel like a stereotype) and now i'll tell you why i am concerned. I asked a polish friend of mine how poland is and he said very nice and i really should visit it but that people there will assume i am a homosexual just because i got earrings, and that because of that way of dressing (sunglasses etc.) i will likely be beaten up on the street by angry homophobic polish teenagers or something. is this true and something i should be worried about? or just something stupid he said?

thank you
RubasznyRumcajs  5 | 495  
7 Apr 2010 /  #2
lol.
good you didn't asked about polar bears ;)

but, ad rem- being attacked by a homophobic gang of teenagers (or something) is highly unlikely.
convex  20 | 3928  
7 Apr 2010 /  #3
try not to attend any football matches.

Keep the big poofy jacket at home, and try to speak at a whisper...don't worry, it's loud enough for non Italians to understand :)
Exiled  2 | 424  
7 Apr 2010 /  #4
If you wear Adidas as well you will have no problem.
RevokeNice  15 | 1854  
7 Apr 2010 /  #5
Find yourself a nice polish chick for the week. Problem solved.

Ask the greek adonis for some tips.
Exiled  2 | 424  
7 Apr 2010 /  #6
Ask the greek adonis for some tips.

My advice is to bring some pizzas and stockings.People are hungry in Poland.
OP tourist112  1 | 8  
7 Apr 2010 /  #7
damnit i love my big poofy jacket. well i am not very loud. i just find the fact that people consider a boy wearing one or two earrings "gay" absurd in 2010, and i personally think you wont get beaten up for it or something, but its always better to ask :p

also, can you tell me something in polish to say to my friend? would prefer if very funny and not expect a foreigner to know it :o
Mr Grunwald  33 | 2132  
7 Apr 2010 /  #8
They would probably think your gey: YES
But their most likely only to give you looks and comment it, although don't do street corners at dark or late at night (ESPECIALLY NEAR A FOOTBALL STADIUM LOL)

Other then that it's fine
Hey I wore my Polonia Warszawa T-shirt in Warsaw in open daylight and being through Praga, if I survive that you should be fine :)
OP tourist112  1 | 8  
7 Apr 2010 /  #9
They would probably think your gey: YES

why's that?

don't do street corners at dark or late at night (ESPECIALLY NEAR A FOOTBALL STADIUM LOL)

ok, i dont think i am that stupid :d
convex  20 | 3928  
7 Apr 2010 /  #10
damnit i live my big poofy jacket. well i am not very loud. i just find the fact that people consider a boy wearing one or two earrings "gay" absurd in 2010, and i personally think you wont get beaten up for it or something, but its always better to ask :p

I used to wear two earrings a while back and didn't have any problems, that was back in 2004.
OP tourist112  1 | 8  
7 Apr 2010 /  #11
ah well i thought it probably was bull**** but i always wanted to ask people living there as i dont know polish culture and the only person i asked is one 16 year old boy who goes to my school. i will bring pizza for everyone
Mr Grunwald  33 | 2132  
7 Apr 2010 /  #12
Well ear rings are more common now a days I presume, but don't wear a lady bag or having too much geleé in your hair nor use pink clothes (that would for sure make ppl think = GEY)

But really if your not insane you should do just fine even with that stuff on yourself.
OP tourist112  1 | 8  
7 Apr 2010 /  #13
Well ear rings are more common now a days I presume, but don't wear a lady bag or having too much geleé in your hair nor use pink clothes

ah well i just see earrings as an accessory just like a watch or a bracelet could be. it really irritates me that people would judge me on that. anyway no, i am not gonna wear pink t shirts with unicorns singing YMCA songs jumping around.
convex  20 | 3928  
7 Apr 2010 /  #14
i am not gonna wear pink t shirts with unicorns singing YMCA songs jumping around.

because people would judge you on that?
OP tourist112  1 | 8  
7 Apr 2010 /  #15
because i wouldn't like doing it.i jsut dont feel the need. if i did i'd do it. i like earrings and i am not gonna take them out because people will think i am gay, i was just asking about a "safety" factor because to me it was described as a MAJOR DANGER ALARM ALARM, but now i just understand some people might think that but what can happen is just some comments or people looking at me.
Mr Grunwald  33 | 2132  
7 Apr 2010 /  #16
but now i just understand some people might think that but what can happen is just some comments or people looking at me.

Depends also what kind of ear rings your using, using ear rings with a headskull or something isn't very gey LOL
plk123  8 | 4119  
7 Apr 2010 /  #17
i'd recommend you pull the earing out for your visit.. why risk it..
OP tourist112  1 | 8  
7 Apr 2010 /  #18
Depends also what kind of ear rings your using

Like this, just a little bit bigger.

yfrog.com/1gnaziorecchinop

i'd recommend you pull the earing out for your visit.. why risk it.

What exactly am I risking? some facts not just what people heard from friends.

i just don't understand the big deal about earrings anyway.
Mr Grunwald  33 | 2132  
7 Apr 2010 /  #19
Like this, just a little bit bigger.

That one was so small I wouldn't have noticed it probably but your saying it's bigger. How much bigger? Like 2 times bigger or 10 times?
rychlik  41 | 372  
7 Apr 2010 /  #20
You shouldn't have any big problems if you don't act like an obnoxious wop who thinks he's better. When in Rome.....
But more importantly don't dress like this.
OP tourist112  1 | 8  
7 Apr 2010 /  #21
That one was so small I wouldn't have noticed it probably but your saying it's bigger. How much bigger? Like 2 times bigger or 10 times?

2-3 times :p
plk123  8 | 4119  
7 Apr 2010 /  #22
What exactly am I risking? some facts not just what people heard from friends.

i just don't understand the big deal about earrings anyway.

you're possibley risking all the things mentioned or more.. who knows.. all i'm saying is play it safe if you are concerned..

personally, i don't give a sh.t but many poles are very homophobic.. so just be aware, eh?

good luck dude.
mafketis  38 | 10963  
7 Apr 2010 /  #23
What beet truck have most of the commenters here fallen off of?

Earrrings on guys are no big deal anymore in Poland (at least among late-teens, young adults and in big cities). They're not as common as in some western countries, but they're common enough among university students (judging by where I work).

Things would be different in the countryside in villages, but no matter what they think the likelihood of them giving you any trouble is very, very small.

In cities, even if people think you're gay (doubtful in the cities) the chances of getting attacked are probably no higher than in Italy.

The thing to remember is that every country (sometimes city) has its own dangers, Poland is basically very safe (almost certainly safer than Italy) but the warning signs of things to stay away from aren't necessarily the same as in Italy.

in Poland:

- stay away from soccer fans, especially on game days

- keep a respectfu distance between you and guys wearing track suits with shaved heads, don't show fear, just .... don't get any closer than you have to

- don't go wandering around by yourself after 11 at night in neighborhoods you don't know well

- don't interact with groups of young drunk guys

that's about it.

what to say in Polish:

when you're upset:

kurwa mać!

(curva macci - stress the final word, pronounce ć like Italian -ci but without the -i warning, very, very bad. don't use when older Polish people are around.)

when you're kind of impressed by something:

ale jaja! (pronounce this as if it were Italian with the j like i )

when you like something or want to agree:

zajebiście! (z like in English, everything else like in Italian except ś = English sh)
Cardno85  31 | 971  
7 Apr 2010 /  #24
zajebiście!

However this is another one I wouldn't use around older folks. Not incredibly rude, just seems that it's not nice conversation.
Ksysia  25 | 428  
7 Apr 2010 /  #25
One more observation I and my friends made in my country: one guy is all right, a group of guys is regarded as potential trouble, but if the group is with girls, or it's a couple, then there is no trouble expected. People will just stop noticing you.

so after dark - wear a girlfriend.
OP tourist112  1 | 8  
7 Apr 2010 /  #26
thank you for the explanation mafketis :) and for the quick polish course!
dnz  17 | 710  
7 Apr 2010 /  #27
I used to wear two earrings a while back and didn't have any problems, that was back in 2004.

Who didn't :)
marek66773  - | 3  
2 May 2010 /  #28
well in poland there are normal teenagers but some groups of teenagers (like some guys i know) really dont like epecially people who stand out. in poland someone with dark skin, earrings and that stuff would really stand out in the crowd and is not usual, so i would think that if you meet the wrong people they would beat u up and probably steal your things. i think around the day its ok but at night it would be very probable that u get beaten. oland is like this. angry teenagers and skinheads hate everything that doesnt look ordinary and will beat it.
Seanus  15 | 19666  
2 May 2010 /  #29
It's just about being in the wrong place at the wrong time. I'd be far more worried about wearing the wrong colours than wearing earrings. I've never worn them in Poland but I did in Scotland and nobody batted an eyelid (they were in my left ear :)). You are dark-skinned and that's how you are, Poles usually don't react too much. They are quite indifferent unless given a cause.
marek66773  - | 3  
2 May 2010 /  #30
i think colours are ok, but a buy with 2 earring will get beaten up. at lease some people i know if they saw a guy with earrings would just wait until he is alone and beat him calling him pedal.

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