I'm sorry to hear about your troubles and I hope that the next year is a better one for you. I don't know if this will help but I saw a really interesting talk about phantom pain a while ago - maybe it could help you too...
ted.com/talks/vilayanur_ramachandran_on_your_mind.html
blog.ted.com/2008/03/21/phantom_limb_pa
ted.com/talks/vilayanur_ramachandran_on_your_mind.html
blog.ted.com/2008/03/21/phantom_limb_pa