Which would certainly tell the doctor something. And I'd imagine that it wouldn't be the first time that that had happened to a psychiatrist.
Well a while ago my wife pre-briefed the doctor at her situation and her doctor said she was more than happy for her mum to visit the surgery and have a chat. Of course my wife told my mother-in-law this and this didn't go down well "why are you trying to make me out to be crazy". This is the other problem, she's old school and believes anything like this makes you a nut job.
The reason I'm asking about going around it like this is if I have an answer on how to do so it will push my wife to do it if I have it in black and white, this is how you start the process. As my wife still (for the lack of a word "can't be bothered"). So maybe if I go to her with the answer that bypasses this optional doctor visit, we will start to get somewhere
For her own good her GP should be told. If anything bad happened, you might be accused of neglect.
The whole family knows, so I'm not worried about that. I mean I know she's not gonna kill herself, and although she claims she wants to die she won't do anything to actually purposely make this happen. But this doesn't change her state of mind or how intolerable this situation is becoming.