Love / My Polish wife doesn't want to move to the UK with me - what to do? [96]

Britguyabroad, I feel your pain. I am married to a Pole and live in the UK. I could never live in Poland for various reasons including racism, career prospects, language and family interference. I come from a background where men are strongly encouraged to stay as far away from the wife's family on marriage to prevent them getting their muddy hands in all your private business... So you can imagine the problems I already face..

I am lucky though. My wife has been willing to move to the UK and live there. In return I hope to try to buy a place in Saska Kempa in Warsaw so we can spend bits of time there. But if my wife was insistant on staying in Poland full time, I would not be able to handle it. As my children as multiracial, there is a serious risk of racist insults and attacks if they live in Poland so for this primary reason, my wife will not pressure me to live in Poland. Whew!

We do visit Poland at least once a year and my wife goes to visit her family on her own at least thrice. Her family are welcome to visit us in UK and several of them show up during the course of the year and we take them on tours to London etc.. But I must admit I find the frequent visits by her parents irritating as we rarely have time to be alone as a family.

Maybe you can compromise with your wife and offer her frequent visits in both directions from UK?