superjay
14 Jul 2008
Love / My boyfriend is on a Polish dating site [158]
zabko, there is nothing normal about a guy who is in a relationship subscribing to a dating service to look for love, romance and sex. Unless there is a satisfactory explanation for it (not sure if that is possible, but us humans have been known to try) then it is simply outrageous, you should be outraged. You are not outraged though are you?
I think you are probably scared, confused and hurt - which is normal. None of us on this forum know the guy in question, granted, and you are in love with him. He has however, done something I wouldn't dream of doing, most guys wouldn't do, without excuse or apology.
If he sat down with you and said "I am so sorry. I did it because I've been craving the excitement that's been lacking in our relationship, it just got a bit out of hand & I forgot about your feelings, I forgot about us! I realise I want to be with you and I want to bring that excitement back...blah, blah" then you might be hearing the first words from him about saving your relationship (which has descended into spying, mistrust etc).
If you told him it was over, would he be distraught? Or would it just scupper some plans he has for the near future? Instead of bemoaning the intentions of PF users (who are a good bunch IMHO) maybe start with being absolutely honest with yourself
zabko, there is nothing normal about a guy who is in a relationship subscribing to a dating service to look for love, romance and sex. Unless there is a satisfactory explanation for it (not sure if that is possible, but us humans have been known to try) then it is simply outrageous, you should be outraged. You are not outraged though are you?
I think you are probably scared, confused and hurt - which is normal. None of us on this forum know the guy in question, granted, and you are in love with him. He has however, done something I wouldn't dream of doing, most guys wouldn't do, without excuse or apology.
If he sat down with you and said "I am so sorry. I did it because I've been craving the excitement that's been lacking in our relationship, it just got a bit out of hand & I forgot about your feelings, I forgot about us! I realise I want to be with you and I want to bring that excitement back...blah, blah" then you might be hearing the first words from him about saving your relationship (which has descended into spying, mistrust etc).
If you told him it was over, would he be distraught? Or would it just scupper some plans he has for the near future? Instead of bemoaning the intentions of PF users (who are a good bunch IMHO) maybe start with being absolutely honest with yourself