Love / Australian woman connecting with a Polish man - a bit overwhelmed! [14]

G'day, All.

I'm an Australian woman who has just connected with a Polish man through a reputable online dating site. We are both in our early 60's and widowed. We are both well-educated, intelligent, have a good sense of humour, and are looking for a permanent, intimate relationship. I am a very independent woman who has a senior executive management background, is retired, and now living very actively and happily caring for my five acres of land in a close-knit rural community. All good so far!

The thing I need hzelp with is to understand this lovely man a bit better. The thing I find most challenging - overwhelming - is the degree of his intensity about me and the relationship we want to develop. Before we could meet in person, he flew out to Asia to continue an engineering project he is managing. It will finish in a month at which point, he'll retire. We have have had many email and Skype conversations, and he is clearly a lovely, intelligent man, but he is now expressing great love for me and has the expectation that we will have a permanent relationship - marriage! - on his return.

To compound things (for me, anyway), he tells me I am the only woman he has made contact with since his wife died 4 years ago. He tells me it was his son's suggestion to join an online dating site to find a partner.

I have an excellent ******** detector, and I am as comfortable as I can be that this man is genuine. He's just SO intense. Part of that is probably because he's an engineer. I've worked with engineers a few times in my career, and they are certainly a breed of their own! I hope I don't offend anyone saying that. I came to love the engineers I worked with - once I 'got them' and they 'got me'! But engineers are intense Little Vegemites and are like runaway bulldozers once they get an idea in their heads - there's no stopping them! So, there's that factor going on here, and then there's what I'm wondering might be the cultural factor - the Polish factor. Without generalising and stereotyping, can Polish men be intense - VERY intense?

I really would appreciate some help here. I have a great sense of humour, so if you want to tell me to just get over myself and just get on with it with this bloke, feel free. I'm 62 and he's 65 - it's not like we're going to be married for 40 years. We might have 5 to 10 good years if we're lucky. What could go wrong? 😃😅😃

Anyway, over to you, my forum comrades, for any wisdom you may have to share with me.

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