Anna81
27 Apr 2015
Life / Going to Poland in a hijab - Polish people and Islam [154]
Who knows why people act the way they do. It's almost a waste of your time to wonder what people are thinking, as we will never know for sure. Use the rule of " Never take anything personally" as in the Four Agreements book by Don Miguel Ruiz. Have you read that book?
If you wonder why people are not sitting next to you on the bus, why not try turning it into a positive reason, such as "they are trying to be courteous and respect my personal space" this way you have switched the apprehension you might have of being a foreigner on the bus into a good experience.
Or how about making fun of the situation and speaking up whenever you see somebody not sitting down by saying "Prosze Pani/Pan możesz usiąść kolo mnie, ja objecam ze cie nie ugryze." That means..."please Lady/Sir you may sit next to me, I promise I won't bite you." That should make people laugh, because it pokes fun of the situation, and you say it in a formal tactful way.
And what about wearing a Hijab? Women wear it in the apartment complex I live in, I really don't see anyone looking at them in a bad way. Maybe children out of plain curiosity would look, as anywhere in the world.
A fun thing to do would be to wear a button that says "Hug me I'm wearing a Hijab" that would make people smile, and evoke conversation between you and a stranger.
Who knows why people act the way they do. It's almost a waste of your time to wonder what people are thinking, as we will never know for sure. Use the rule of " Never take anything personally" as in the Four Agreements book by Don Miguel Ruiz. Have you read that book?
If you wonder why people are not sitting next to you on the bus, why not try turning it into a positive reason, such as "they are trying to be courteous and respect my personal space" this way you have switched the apprehension you might have of being a foreigner on the bus into a good experience.
Or how about making fun of the situation and speaking up whenever you see somebody not sitting down by saying "Prosze Pani/Pan możesz usiąść kolo mnie, ja objecam ze cie nie ugryze." That means..."please Lady/Sir you may sit next to me, I promise I won't bite you." That should make people laugh, because it pokes fun of the situation, and you say it in a formal tactful way.
And what about wearing a Hijab? Women wear it in the apartment complex I live in, I really don't see anyone looking at them in a bad way. Maybe children out of plain curiosity would look, as anywhere in the world.
A fun thing to do would be to wear a button that says "Hug me I'm wearing a Hijab" that would make people smile, and evoke conversation between you and a stranger.