JonWynkoop
16 Jan 2014
Love / I'm getting married to a Polish guy and need advice before visit his family; gifts, topics, customs [82]
Merged: Going to Poland to visit a Polish woman and need advice regarding her family
Okay so this is going to be quite long and I will most probably get some interesting replies. :p Bring the Thunder! haha...So I have always had penpals all my life I love communicating with others around the world because....I mean come on man there is so much more out there than just America -_- ....and Texas at that! I was contacted by a girl two years younger than I and she was unusually shy but for some reason was very attracted to me. We instantly hit it off and began talking, exchanging stories and skyping literally on a daily basis for months. Talking about our deepest thoughts in life and sharing everything, EVERYTHING. We fit together like a puzzle piece it was just that simple and we fell in love. Even me being at the lowest point in my life she was there no matter what and never left my side. Her family loved me because they had never seen her so happy, they welcomed me to come and stay hell even live there! Her mother always took pictures of her family for me and would come drink wino with us on our skype dates....and her dad and brother even came to say hello quite a bit on webcam. We got to a point where she was literally ready to leave her family and studies to come live with me here.( btw she lives in a small village located in Cegłow.) AT that moment I took a look at my life and said oh CRAP....I was smoking pot everyday and was just surrounded by problems, so I did something very stupid/smart which I kinda regret....I took a leave of absence and quit talking to her( don't judge a man...I wanted to get my sh*t together for this woman and give her the love she deserved, just should have chosen a better way) She was devastated by this(obviously -_-)....anyways My mother got a new home and got away from a horrible relationship so her and my siblings and I were finally able to live in peace, I quit my dirty pot habit, saved up much money working for a good company (Dr.Pepper), got into college studying Engineering and when I was ready I approached her again.(Us knowing each other for over a year and a half now) Well I came back to a surprise when I left she was depressed and pretty much literally wanted to die, another man was there for her in these id say...two months to comfort her and give her advice about us(obviously dude loves her as well)... WELL now I am caught in a love triangle. She loves me and this man has also became important to her...she tells me the only thing she wants from me is to come stay and visit her and everything will finally be perfect. But she is still terrified I will leave again and will not trust a lot of things or give up talking to this boy until I come.(women)...Im not her families favorite person anymore but I am still welcome to come and possibly get hit in the jaw by her father XD Moral of the story I am going to Poland to prove to her and her family that I love her and am capable of making her happy and being a good man. I am going to be going there March 8th-March 16th. Im nervous as sh*t!! Im not worried about me and Amelia, we are fully compatible and once we are finally able to embrace I have no doubt old scars will heal and a grater love will blossum. Im worried about her family and would like advice on how I should approach the situation. Things have been hard knowing that another dude is competing with me and he lives in Poland, but when the love is right, its right and I know without a doubt her heart lies with me as I offered to let her be with this man and she said no, she just needs to physically see things not hear them over skype. Im in a crazy situation and people tell me im stupid but f*ck it man Im in love and im confident, just really hoping I can get some advice from Polish men/women. Her parents don't speak English but she is excellent and is studying translations and can translate everything perfect.l have learned Polish alphabet and basic phrases, words, and greetings for her and even am looking into getting a CELTA to teach there and stay a bit longer in future. Really hope I can get some decent advice and maybe some secret Polish remedies for p*ssed off parents :p hahaha. Also Im nervous being in a new culture and area, farthest ive traveled is NYC... If you read all this thank you and I much appreciate your time.
Merged: Going to Poland to visit a Polish woman and need advice regarding her family
Okay so this is going to be quite long and I will most probably get some interesting replies. :p Bring the Thunder! haha...So I have always had penpals all my life I love communicating with others around the world because....I mean come on man there is so much more out there than just America -_- ....and Texas at that! I was contacted by a girl two years younger than I and she was unusually shy but for some reason was very attracted to me. We instantly hit it off and began talking, exchanging stories and skyping literally on a daily basis for months. Talking about our deepest thoughts in life and sharing everything, EVERYTHING. We fit together like a puzzle piece it was just that simple and we fell in love. Even me being at the lowest point in my life she was there no matter what and never left my side. Her family loved me because they had never seen her so happy, they welcomed me to come and stay hell even live there! Her mother always took pictures of her family for me and would come drink wino with us on our skype dates....and her dad and brother even came to say hello quite a bit on webcam. We got to a point where she was literally ready to leave her family and studies to come live with me here.( btw she lives in a small village located in Cegłow.) AT that moment I took a look at my life and said oh CRAP....I was smoking pot everyday and was just surrounded by problems, so I did something very stupid/smart which I kinda regret....I took a leave of absence and quit talking to her( don't judge a man...I wanted to get my sh*t together for this woman and give her the love she deserved, just should have chosen a better way) She was devastated by this(obviously -_-)....anyways My mother got a new home and got away from a horrible relationship so her and my siblings and I were finally able to live in peace, I quit my dirty pot habit, saved up much money working for a good company (Dr.Pepper), got into college studying Engineering and when I was ready I approached her again.(Us knowing each other for over a year and a half now) Well I came back to a surprise when I left she was depressed and pretty much literally wanted to die, another man was there for her in these id say...two months to comfort her and give her advice about us(obviously dude loves her as well)... WELL now I am caught in a love triangle. She loves me and this man has also became important to her...she tells me the only thing she wants from me is to come stay and visit her and everything will finally be perfect. But she is still terrified I will leave again and will not trust a lot of things or give up talking to this boy until I come.(women)...Im not her families favorite person anymore but I am still welcome to come and possibly get hit in the jaw by her father XD Moral of the story I am going to Poland to prove to her and her family that I love her and am capable of making her happy and being a good man. I am going to be going there March 8th-March 16th. Im nervous as sh*t!! Im not worried about me and Amelia, we are fully compatible and once we are finally able to embrace I have no doubt old scars will heal and a grater love will blossum. Im worried about her family and would like advice on how I should approach the situation. Things have been hard knowing that another dude is competing with me and he lives in Poland, but when the love is right, its right and I know without a doubt her heart lies with me as I offered to let her be with this man and she said no, she just needs to physically see things not hear them over skype. Im in a crazy situation and people tell me im stupid but f*ck it man Im in love and im confident, just really hoping I can get some advice from Polish men/women. Her parents don't speak English but she is excellent and is studying translations and can translate everything perfect.l have learned Polish alphabet and basic phrases, words, and greetings for her and even am looking into getting a CELTA to teach there and stay a bit longer in future. Really hope I can get some decent advice and maybe some secret Polish remedies for p*ssed off parents :p hahaha. Also Im nervous being in a new culture and area, farthest ive traveled is NYC... If you read all this thank you and I much appreciate your time.