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Advice on child support (Irish with my Polish husband) [106]
Look, I have never said we wanted to stop paying child support, I wanted advice on what is reasonable. Swimming plus 39 other demands she is putting on this list, not just swimming as a few of ye like to keep mentioning..and she wants him to pay 100% she even mentioned popcorn, tea and calculated fuel costs to take him to these all these different places..a few different theme parks, zoos..etc. the child is going to go to all these places every month? Yearly I would take my kids to the zoo, the cinema every few months, I will pick the weekend morning deals and buy refreshments in supermarket and I use coupons for our mealsout afterwards.And we will more than likely walk home or I would ring my father for a lift. I have a friend in work who was recently in the Polish family court with her ex and her solicitor advised her to make a list of all activities and she told me that she made them all up and has no intentions of sending her child, it looks like the norm for polish advokats..his wife is looking for more because she is money mad..when they were together she told him her father stopped her wages because of till discrepencies and all along she had been saving the money and going on shopping sprees for herself, he bought alot of baby equipment when she was pregnant yet in the divorce court she said he bought nothing until my husband showed the judge all the receipts and the judge made bits of her..she was happy with the court ruling of 350zl, when they separated she kept everything and sold them, his bike, his mothers engagement ring, lots of other things. he always had access when he went to poland, just when she heard that he was in a serious relationship then the access stopped..it went to court 2 years ago and even though my husband had seen his son only 2 months before this court, she produced a doctors letter saying that the child doesnt recognise his father anymore! A friend of her family was that doctor. My husband has always paid child support to her, he always gave him gifts,always rang him regularly, just last year for his birthday, christmas and then the communion is when he has refused to accept them. His ex has brainwashed the child into rejecting his father. Its me who he cries to when he gets upset. His ex knows how to play the game. It is not possible to get extra jobs, they dont fall out of the sky, businesses close frequently where we live, like most other places. I didnt start this thread to be called a c**t, referring to my children as 'breeding', castration and all the other hurtful comments. Our daughter has a brother who we would love for her to meet, I havent also and will probably have to wait until he's an adult. We are people not animals, we just want what is fair for everyone. My husband loves his son, we just want to give what is fair. I will probably get alot of ye giving me nasty comments, there is an 'epidemic' I think I would call it on cyber bullying here in Ireland where teenagers are killing themselves, my god, I only hope ye think before ye type and to whom next time ye see a thread and want to make comments on peoples lives..and thank you Bill and your missus, its better not to answer to these people but ye are wise and I think its true what u said in the PM
also my husbands family live in this same village, my mother in law can only watch her grandson from a distance in church or shops, my sister in law showed me his school and she told me sometimes she walks past in hope that she might spot him playing in the playground..he doesnt know any of them because of this woman..when the child was a baby my mother in law knitted a cardigan and booties and she went to the house to give them to the ex, she was told, at the gate. to leave or the ex would call the police..I know this is irrelevant for court but instead of sympathy some are ye are showing for this woman, she doesnt deserve it..
