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INTERACIAL DATING WITH POLISH.... ( my dilema) [8]
Ive dated whatever type of man treated me well, thought my more serious relationships have been with my own race ( latino).
I have a good amount of polish friends- married couples doing well/ very successful, ive also been hit on many times by young single pollacks in clubs but they just seemed too into the night life ( excessive vodka & drugs).These type of young urban styled pollacks are into a bit of hip hop culture & seem horny for a brown ass. Im not going out with them because they look very stupid and curious and IM NOT AN EXPERIMENT. Even things they say in thier aproach sometimes is racially things based like " I been wanting to try a latina" + speak ghetto... um what about saying " hi". meet out socially are cute but a hot drunken/drugged up mess.I also work in a busy office & have had polish male co workers, very handsome, smart and respectable.
Some races dont date others and I respect that. Or some try but hold the new race that they are " experimenting" with in a lower less serious category, and this frightens me. Ive NEVER seen a polish marry any one outside thier race. With this being bought to my attention I was skeptical to emotionally invest in one. I have seen my friends be involved in semi serious relationships with gorgeous polish men who treat them extremely well and then break up with them somewhere right around a year.
Now like a few of my other caribean girlfriends I finally found a pollock with wonderful qualities and we have been together 8 months. He has spent holidays welcomed by my friends/family here in vancouver b.c. He wants to go to my country with me for my birthday, but doesnt seem so interested in me going to poland & meeting his mother. But he knows my mother! And this bothers me. We do alot of different things together, go to all types of places, some of his favorite things music and food are latin * good for me -but he acts " different" when he gets around his polish circle.
His friends have made negative comments about me not being polish. His friends have made racist comments about me, and my culture/stupid jokes that arent funny just really made me look differently as if.. Whoa?!! Are polish people really like this? Friends is 1 thing, but dating is another. The issue is that my man is serious with me, and his polish friends dont like it. They have said he should break up with me & go with other women. Ive heard alot of slutty latina stereo type cracks & other bad things. When he didnt stand up for me - the relationship kind of died. Because I am dominican, I got the same questions and comments from jealous men in my family or other latinos.But I told them to shut up, and I defended my man and my relationship. My boyfriend looks like a tremendous coward to me, because he acts very meek when he gets around other pollacks. I dont know what to think. I am very frustrated! I want to respect him as a man, but he isnt acting like 1 in my eyes.
When I try to tell my guy how this emotionally devastes me, he gets so stubborn, he wants me to drop it, he accuses me of trying to pick a fight, I love him alot but I sadly think Im going to drop him.
Apart from the immature and stubborn behavior, he is one of the best boyfriends ive had. But from this racism and immaturity and im afraid to even date another pollack if there is a negative attitude about marrying non polish women.
