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From: Australia
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Interests: Music, singing, dancing, poetry, reading, photography

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markw   
14 Oct 2012
Love / TRAVELLING to Poland - Girl Advice! [29]

Very interesting thank you. Is asking her to get a drink right after meeting her for the first time appropriate or will it send the wrong message?

What you've described sounds like it will work in a perfect case scenario, life isn't a Hollywood movie! Maybe I'm over-thinking it and what you've suggested really is the best approach.

Merged: MEETING POLISH GIRL sooner than expected. I have entered panic mode!

Hi

Ok I had a thread about travelling to Poland to do some work with a few photographers late next year and there is one girl photographer there who I'd like to make a good impression on and date, if possible. Either way I'm still doing my Europe trip (old thread linked below for anyone that wants background) as soon as possible.

I've been talking with a few photographers I'm supposed to be meeting with in Poland next year to do some concept photography (fashion) and they have been telling me that there is a good possibility that they will all come down to Australia for about two weeks early to mid next year to start some concept work. There is three of them, two guys and the girl I like. The two guys know I like the girl and they are fine with it (they haven't told her, they are pretty mature and professional lads thank goodness). Assuming they do all make the trip over before I actually get to Poland I just wanted to hear anybody's advice on how to make a good impression on her and eventually ask her out. I've asked out girls before, this is a new situation for me and I'm completely lost. I don't want to mess anything up or make myself look like a fool. Her mindset will be on work so I don't know how to take it further from this starting point.

Background/Extra:
*I've never met her before, only followed her work online.
*She is 18 turning 19 next year.
*This is her first time to Australia
*I'm 22.
*The other two Polish lads are in their late 20s and disinterested in anything but getting on with the job and doing their own thing.

*I've only just started to learn basic Polish phrases (hello, goodbye, the name of a cake I'm learning to cook - that's another story!)

*I've had an interest in Polish history for a while now (I don't want to talk to her about Polish history....I don't want to look like a librarian!)

*We are developing some concepts for photography...I won't bore you with the details, its basically concept fashion photography. Nothing pivotal to this issue.

*I know we have a few of the same basic interests (photography of course, cooking, musical taste)
*I don't want to use the other two guys to 'get me in' or anything like that, that isn't right
*I don't want to give the wrong impression

I don't know how to approach this situation. I'm nervous just thinking about how I can position myself into a good stance to actually get her attention. I don't know how to build up to actually asking her out from this point. I wouldn't blame anyone for thinking my idea was crazy, but I don't like wasting opportunities or taking things for granted; I really would like any advice anyone could give me.
markw   
13 Oct 2012
Love / TRAVELLING to Poland - Girl Advice! [29]

Thank you for this, I will be sure to contact you if I need some assistance with anything related to Poland and the Silesia region closer to when I leave. Dziekuje!
markw   
13 Oct 2012
Love / TRAVELLING to Poland - Girl Advice! [29]

Thanks for this Rybnik, I think my shyness will come from the fact that I'm in a new country exploring and talking to someone I want to know better who isn't of my background. Normally I do fine with general people, but this is new for me. Since I'm planning on going mid to late next year I'm doing much reading on Poland and the culture (which is very fascinating) to try and prepare myself for the country (and so I have some questions to ask her and others whilst I'm there). I'm also trying to learn some key words and phrases, getting the accent correct is somewhat difficult on longer phrases I must admit! Practice makes perfect.

Thank you!
markw   
13 Oct 2012
Love / TRAVELLING to Poland - Girl Advice! [29]

polish people think australia is this magical faraway place, .

haha what is the point of telling fake wildlife stories?
markw   
11 Oct 2012
Love / TRAVELLING to Poland - Girl Advice! [29]

Thank you for this message. My main concern was that I could be perceived in not a good light based on where I'm from/ancestry background. I'm definitely not self centred or arrogant, if anything I'm probably a little bit shy around new people. It will be an amazing experience for me to travel there in the first place, I have an interest in Polish culture and history as it is (another reason for my travels, but not a huge one).

Thank you.
markw   
11 Oct 2012
Love / TRAVELLING to Poland - Girl Advice! [29]

Wrong. I'm heading that way either way. It isn't my only stop in Poland or in Europe. It is one of the places I am visiting and I want to make the most of my trip when I'm there. If someone wanted to get laid there are much easier and cheaper options available than travelling all the way out to a small city in Poland.

Just because someone travels to a location you think is useless doesn't mean that their reasons for going are negative in any way. I've been to poor cities before (I'm not saying Tychy or any surrounding city is poor) but some of the cities I've been to, the locals probably thought I was made for visiting. I loved the experience. Yes I'm planning on meeting up with a few different people in Poland, some are near Tychy. Yes there is a girl there who I'd like to know better. No, it isn't my main reason for travelling and no I didn't meet her on some seedy dating or other similar website.

Thanks for your answers.

I meant to say 'mad' not made - just a correction. I couldn't edit my original post.
markw   
10 Oct 2012
Love / TRAVELLING to Poland - Girl Advice! [29]

Well seeing as I'm going to be meeting with a photographer from that area I'm heading that way anyway, I wanted to make the most of the opportunity.
markw   
10 Oct 2012
Love / TRAVELLING to Poland - Girl Advice! [29]

I am actually coming to work with and travel I just wanted to make a good attempt with her.
I have one shot to make it right while I'm there and I wanted to make sure I do it right, as I'm new in the country and with the people (especially the young people like myself) I want to be the best I can be without coming across as a typical foreigner jerk. I don't know how people in Poland react to outsiders, especially in smaller communities such as Tychy I want to make a good attempt. You only live once!
markw   
10 Oct 2012
Love / TRAVELLING to Poland - Girl Advice! [29]

I just have no idea how to approach the situation. I can't speak Polish, she can speak English at the same level as your average Polish person - so her English isn't that bad. Being in Tychy (which I know isn't a large city) I think it might be even harder to establish a relationship and ask her out when I arrive seeing as I'm a foreigner.

If you wouldn't mind sharing some of your story that would be really helpful! :)
markw   
10 Oct 2012
Love / TRAVELLING to Poland - Girl Advice! [29]

haha, that's not what I do. I can't do that, I'm not aboriginal....

Thanks for the message!

Bumping this for answers.
markw   
10 Oct 2012
Love / TRAVELLING to Poland - Girl Advice! [29]

Most of my photography work was planned to be done in Tychy and some of the surrounding areas like Katowice and Bytom. At the last minute I found out about this girl and she happens to live in Tychy so I assumed it was a good idea to go straight there and arrange to meet with her.

post your pic

My pic of myself? Why?

Do you have any answers to my questions?
markw   
9 Oct 2012
Love / TRAVELLING to Poland - Girl Advice! [29]

Hi

I'm a 22 year old male from Australia with mixed ancestry background (half Greek, quarter Serbian and quarter American). I'm planning on travelling to Poland for about 2 months, maybe longer, next year (depending on how things go when I'm there). I can't speak much Polish, English is my main language.

I'm going to meet with a young photographer girl (she is 18 going on 19) to check out her portfolio of work. I was connected to her through my contacts in photography and we have yet to meet and talk. Over the last few months I've been following what she has been doing with her photography on her personal blog and I'm really liking this girl's personality and talents.

My questions are these: How easy will it be for me to fit into Poland based on my background - will I be negatively viewed in any way? Also how easy will it be to make a good impression on this girl, based on my background and where I'm from? I want to make a good impression on her, but I have no idea how Polish girls act (I've never met one before) and I have no idea how to get her attention. Her main interests are photography (obviously), poetry, fashion, cooking/food.

Extra info:
- I'm going to spend the 2 months in Tychy, that is where the girl is from.
- I'm going to Poland around September 2013.
- I'm heavily involved in music (as a contract singer and dancer - it is my main profession) and I want to learn photography.

Thanks!