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Prevention of child abduction by Polish mother. [232]
Hi Patrycja
ok, I just want to ask, because you said that she cant leave now, who is helping her if she is not able to leave and you
were advised to not help/give any money at this time * that is what I read right?
A court order is enforce that prevents the mother from removing the child to Poland until all legal issues are resolved. She wants money, then doesn't, then wants money, then doesn't, all on her terms at the moment. Confused, well so am I.
I think you * as a good father* should at least go get some diapers or baby food to help out, its hard to pay for all these
things on your own.
Who say's I haven't done that. I don't want to go into too much detail, but I have tried various means. I don't want to go into too much detail about my situation as if she came to this form she maybe very hurt that I am discussing it in public if she could identify herself. I don't want to hurt her sensibilities, so have kept everything deliberately vague. I am in a situation that I don't understand, and my friends don't understand, so have come to this forum for general advice. I understand a bit about postnatal depression from other people's experiences, but other people suffer from depression and I have known some of these people. So as contentious as this may sound that does not excuse peoples actions, although I agree people may suffer from extreme cases which should be pitied more than they are vilified.
and if you helped her *ALOT* then she
I agree, but if that help is refused there is nothing that you can do. Sometimes I am worried that this maybe a lifestyle decision for some, not necessarily my ex though. Also it could be second thoughts about me as a partner, or it could be the maternal time bomb exploding and I was there.
[quote=Patrycja19]you two need to talk, I mean really sit and just tell each other what/and why
should be understanding to your side.[/quote]
Some people just don't want to talk, they just think they know best. I would sit down and discuss things for the sake of my child, but I can't force the other party to if their mind is made up.
you are very reserved.
Sorry British, that's why it has been difficult to post here. I just want to understand, but initially protect my child, then attempt to make things 'workable' between my ex and myself so that the child can have a happy childhood knowing both parents love them.
I hope you understand my motivations for posting on this forum a little better, and that I am trying to do the best for my child. However, I don't want to discuss anything further on this forum as everything I say seems to be treated with cynicism, attempts to criticise me, or just plain slander. Please do not take this as a reflection upon you that I don't want to discuss things here, but some of the posters here should really look within themselves and question what their motives are.