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Joined: 18 Mar 2011 / Male ♂ 		Last Post: 18 Mar 2011
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zahi   
20 Mar 2011
Love / 12 years of marriage my Polish wife still doubts me [74]

Go on a vacation

to do

Zahi and wife alone

yes heh, true

Not that family isnt nice to visit

not in maldive, they live in my country which is no maldive, but yes maybe on return stop for one day.
Vacation for month or more, i can go to my country or no depend on her mood. this one for her

You are obviously from an arabic country, treat her like a princess instead of an object and all will be ok.

NOT ARAB NOT PAK NOT TURK! why this question came again? east not confined with this. more country in south asia just look.
not princess, queen since i met , heh, love her to bits

is your wife a housewife?

hmm yes

very dependent on you

same like me

cared to death of loosing you

same, bt now after all the stage wth life thinking is stupid

but it almost never helps the woman to feel sexy or confident

heheh , fr me she is same whn i met

Maybe a part time job would help? It could give an area are where she would not be defined as your wife and the mother of your children.

i have gud financial capacity, why work extra out? no need fr it. i did already all so she cannot be in problem latr too. I am careful.

Never i stop anyone but she now wht i prefer, her choice i never stop.
MONEY i never let be a problem, when it was less she still no problem. i work like mad for her, now can leave demandin job and still live gud.

All money hers all the life hers , simple.

A man that does not respect the job of a mother/house wife has no knowledge of family values.

i bow to it

she is most likely well educated

yes

that the world passes you by

why?????????
home is not simple, purchase, maintain, children i share responsibility but she is mom.
she never complain, i never let a reason come. careful of it since i kissed first time , heh, she can be careless on finance problem is my headache.

And what if you loose your husband? Who are you without him?

again, she is all. i love and she is IMPORTANT.
i listen to her all, she is all fr me. smtime man get little sad-tired but not that mean i don luv.
she help in my business i bring cloth from my country to poland, not bad less hassle nice money. will keep it but let go of stupid job, whch supportd big once though.

I USE TOUCH SCREN SMTM SO FORGIVE SP MISTAKEs. can annoy i know.
zahi   
19 Mar 2011
Love / 12 years of marriage my Polish wife still doubts me [74]

help her with the housework

do

help with parenting

sure

hug her often

pleasure heh

kiss her everyday

pleasure

don't talk back! :) just listen

hmmmm , i know i know, do

say she's beautiful without being asked

will do more , 12 yr after still required to say? but yes u have the right, love her she is beautiful

try to surprise her from time to time (bring flowers, invite her to dinner/or cinema/or to dance/choose something nice)

smtime yes, but now a drive to be done i see

show that you really care , be attentive

tricky, attention smtime is tricky on issue but right, DOING

tell her you love her and mean it!

sweet :) do

she did smth now which make thngs more sweet.
thanks for tips.
VACATION
DISCUSS SISTER
MORE LOVE EXPRESSION, good, pleasure
GIFT

smtimes wth children we get not moving. But children can stay few month with the grandmother.
Restart romance after 14 yrs, heh.
finished the exceldoc.
Starting new project wth the start sweet gave me today now =).
Thnks frnds

don't do any this crap..

stupid
zahi   
19 Mar 2011
Love / 12 years of marriage my Polish wife still doubts me [74]

(pakis Arabs

neither cuntry but close heh

spending his spare time talking to strangers

2 yr relation 12 yr marriage never neglected.
Financial spreadsheet excel job is what i brought home as to spend more time. talking to get idea, VACATION IS GOOD, talking abt the sister not bad as it effects. very true

Will leave demandin job later and live on sum investment i have, got own home n saving enough also a small biz
I like to spend time wth growin children.
she is happy now but the few week later she get smthing n i am put on test. u know stress in it?

overcontrolling

crazy u are, heh overcontrolling husband hahah.
make me laugh i may die

Muslim

children enjoy catholic islam buddhist spiritual all news. god live in heart frnd. children r cultured values respect is tht matter
zahi   
19 Mar 2011
Love / 12 years of marriage my Polish wife still doubts me [74]

that you might do the same

crazy

but possible, ask her.

i know but gets tense touchy. She love the younger sister much frm begining but now need this talk. yes. the moment to talk on it need to be found

listen to her.

i know i know but like to say smtime too, but listen and rephrase my task always if it keep her smiling

go found another one

no. stupid
zahi   
19 Mar 2011
Love / 12 years of marriage my Polish wife still doubts me [74]

Try a new method.

yes

what's the problem again???

DOUBTSSSSSSSSSSS aah
few week later on a thing she can doubt be angry and for tired husband the thing get tense as year pass by.
CONTROL. I need to listen she cannot be wrong ever ever ever. Usually dont take long for smile but the hours try to console is difficult.

If a wife ask the husband of weigh the husband praise and she exclaims 'you just lie to me', later husband try look deep and find problem then she get angry and dont talk??? where to husband go?

Maybe her doubting is good...?

little things i know. Was ok but since her sister got cheating husband she turn too nervous.
I love her. my culture just not of the listening habit the woman dont say so much in east but still liberated now. all was ok but last 2 year she is nervous. she love the younger sister, the girl now live depressed. How i take care of whole family if start effectin mine???????? i sympathise but i need good nerve in my home.

That way she'll keep whinging at you???

now thinking that it must be younger sister effect, complicatd my wife.

conquest

heh, donot know but she is my sweet will be too

VACATION 100%. she remain busy with her mom sister frnd also get divorce 6th year reckless life they get
zahi   
19 Mar 2011
Love / 12 years of marriage my Polish wife still doubts me [74]

romantic vacation

yes thinking maldives also can take trip my country in the way

Just talk with an open mind, share your concerns.

doing

Sometimes you can squeeze the life out of an idea until its suffocated...

explain

Laughter.

we do.
Not like so miserable all time.

a little out of the ordinary? Where you both leave your comfort zone and say at the end of it... ''that was really awesome!''

as? say

wilder sides a little?

i know her simple pretty warm polish friend > girlfrnd > wife. WILD SIDE? :s
Plz be clear say all, i can read have time in break
zahi   
19 Mar 2011
Love / 12 years of marriage my Polish wife still doubts me [74]

pathologically insecure

thinking similar now
Can be her dear younger sister wth the husband cheated, or friend with mess divorce in 6th year BUT not me i am family man she can know already.

She is the girl. toooo sensitive frm before marriage now recent it spike. PAINFUL intervals, few week later again DOUBTTTTTTTT :( time take hour or max 3 days once with legs weight honest answer as said earlier.

or you are not fulfilling her needs

naaaaa still feel best loving not the case as we enjoy it all smiles

He is strange and I am wonderful LOL !!

i know i know
zahi   
19 Mar 2011
Love / 12 years of marriage my Polish wife still doubts me [74]

Zahi are you from outside of europe originally?

yes

I Take it u need a passport for Europe

old story make new one stupid

If you didn't understand the nature of Polish (especially Polish women) in 12 years of your marriage - you wouldn't understand it now.

i did i did but just the forum i found make it easier to unload now.

Be like ice.

i know i know she is normal now

have you ever given her reason to doubt you in any way?

not that i know

were out with some friends, maybe some other girl was giving you the eye and she
seen how you reacted ?

which girl? which friend? no such friend my nature not loose, all friends know the family and i dont party anyway. Family man.
RIGHT NOW can see happy face when i kiss hug and spend hour sweet explanation. Called CONTROL this. Need to listen accept 24.7 all she say and often nod to rephrase to make it look my decision. Clever.

So many year after one can get tired like this but polish women regardless continue to use same thing. Trait i say. Must remain on toes difficult thing.
zahi   
18 Mar 2011
Love / 12 years of marriage my Polish wife still doubts me [74]

Its always better that you talk with her on this matter.

I did its over she is cool now, she enjoy my work to win her, difficult job this :(

you can`t imagine what is she capable to do after 12 years of marriage

what do u mean????

but she is not Polish

from where?
Im not polish.

Get rid off her..

never :)
love her.
Need to give time, talk AND VACATION.
Talk more tonight.
zahi   
18 Mar 2011
Love / 12 years of marriage my Polish wife still doubts me [74]

I am not saying she does, but she might.

I have 2 kids, I LOVE HER :(
We love each other i can leave the job find new if she need more time.
I got my home wth enough money to live.
We must talk but it is not true she love me only i know it. We came from struggle to be here, deep deep love.

She is sensitive. When she went wth me to my country she was sensitive there too.
I know her whom i love and married.
I just need to hug and talk more open and all will be clear. thanks

***
i know one reason though , called CONTROL ON HUSBAND. Polish trait. She love when i listen, agree, then rephrase to make it sound as my idea , her wish is my idea, she is the happiest woman then.

EMOtional or you got Parkinson's.

former.
zahi   
18 Mar 2011
Love / 12 years of marriage my Polish wife still doubts me [74]

if not

I LOVE HER :(

without spending a dollar

it is not abt money arrgh, not MONEY!
student time is different, first love, first girl, different look, flowers, struggle!
I love her much :( always.
Todays situation is tht i cannot get straight message of her reason, but only angry face, "zahi it is OK" mode :(, worst mode ! aahh! will not talk straight :( , whole hours of struggle, not days if lucky :(. WHYYYYYYYY :(

Sometimes work makes most deep lovers forget perfect timing.
You think i dont do special things? still give flowers, still go out but not as frequently. make love but then she is ok, just a few days or week of tough work and she will DOUBTTTTTTTT , doubt ME! i never LOOK AT ANY GIRL BUT HER :( ahhhhahhhhhh.

I came home thinkin to sit, drink coffee wth her, talk with son and daughter, typical relaxation. Cud plan a date wth her YES I STILL TAKE HER OUT!

she keep doubting on and off, now "ZAHI IT IS OKKKKKK" aaaahhhhh :( ya sure your attitude tells me how OK it is. I dont forget, only first time since more than 1 year now. CAN HAPPEN, FEW HOUR LATE CAN HAPPEN!

Later on other topics, i need to listen, accept accusation, be better husband, BUT EVEN NOW WHAT IS WRONG IN ME? I LOVE HER I WILL ALWAYS, SO WHY DOUBTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT WHY WHY WHY? EVENING GONE.

HOW MEN MARRIED TO POLISH HANDLE THIS? ANYONEEEEEEEE , ANYONE WHO WON ??? I NEVER WIN :(
zahi   
18 Mar 2011
Love / 12 years of marriage my Polish wife still doubts me [74]

this is how you appreciate her

i said still is :( was and is, will always. how to deal with so much doubt, how to cure this gods sake aahh, i can sense my time doomed today :(
zahi   
18 Mar 2011
Love / 12 years of marriage my Polish wife still doubts me [74]

This is weird, its 14 relationship and 12 years now tht we got married with 2 children now and she still doubts me. WHY?? I'm tired, but i love her too.

Anyone faced such a thing with a polish wife? she was beautiful, still if for me the only girl but hey every few weeks later there is an issue for doubt!!!

She come frm a religious home so our marriage went through many tough times specially wth her parents. Neither converted, had no problem, love still there, doubt along with it. I'm a gud, never went loose as she is my first girl anyway as my culture is just like that. Not too religious myself, believe in god, gave her freedom to practice, no complains there.

The greatest doubt "you don't love me, i know it" and then the hour pass in explanation. Unless i listen to all she says, i dont love her! what about my own mind? children are great, i tried to pass some of my values in them, my daughter will be sweeter.

My wife is sweet, love her more, but how to handle her doubt? WHY SHE DOUBT ME? excessive since last 2 years. we make love often, but when we dont, she will doubt.

Recently she asked about her figure and kept asking, i said she got weight on legs for first time. If i just praise she says i am a lier and never honest! but this truth costed me 3 days of miserable begging to talk again, as she said i hurt her, or i dont love.

Today after coming frm work i forgot to kiss, now she dont allow me. i got home early expecting a nice time, but there we go.

HELP ... SOME ONE ... ANY ONE ... HOW TO CURE THIS? BIG PROBLEM IN MY WIFE (POLISH). Married her as a student in krakow, since then staying in poland. nothing wrong but DOUBTS