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Danka100   
4 Nov 2010
Love / Fell in love; I need to go back to Poland for 2 months - what to say at work (UK) [50]

I just want to say thank you to those who've been trying to help with what i'm going through. For a game i haven't tried yet but i'm going to

get yourself a bottle of vodka or whatever is your poison, prepare a glass, take a deep breath, and ask yourself a few questions

... :)
for comforting words and beautiful quotes. I don't see any point to continue this thread coz lately i'm not getting any advises just the criticism instead.

So once again THANK YOU guys for giving me opportunity to ask myself few important questions.

THE END
Danka100   
4 Nov 2010
Love / Fell in love; I need to go back to Poland for 2 months - what to say at work (UK) [50]

Brits have every right to judge you, get pissed off, or even inform authorities if you are out there trying to scam your employer ( as was pointed out - plenty of locals without jobs at the moment ), live off the benefits or have sham marriages for a few bob so more of these nice Nigerian gentlemen can stay in the country.

look i would not be taking sick leave nor would i expect any payment from my employer i would simply want 2 months off work unpaid with giving them plenty of notice. it was very late when i originally started this simply brainstorming ideas i was never intending to do anything illegal. i have never claimed ONE benefit since living in the UK, i have worked hard and built a career for myself unlike alot of British people who think it is OK to fake their disability claiming millions from the state and never working a day in their life but let me guess you are fine with this because they are British!! and as for plenty of locals being out of work this is mainly down to choice because they would rather claim benefit than work. Walk in the job centre and you will find hundreds of jobs there ready to start tomorrow but 'shock horror' to british it is minimum pay so they would be above doing this work which i happily did for years so do not point your finger at me judging me and being rude when your opinions are falsely directed to me. im not looking for your opinions on something i have not or not planning on doing (maybe set up a new thread to discuss your strong beliefs on this) i am simply looking for some guidance.
Danka100   
3 Nov 2010
Love / Fell in love; I need to go back to Poland for 2 months - what to say at work (UK) [50]

I'd need to take an unpaid holidays or give a medical certificate of temporary work disability or something..or maybe should I just tell a truth and hope for understanding.. ???

As you can all see I'm just considering my options. I didn't say I'll be laying about it. I'd prefer to take unpaid leave most likely. But it's a pretty rough time, coz is really busy over the Christmas which makes me feel even worse..I'm just trying to find a best solution here. Honestly I'm not a bad person who wants to take advantage of anyone. I'm just looking for my own happiness for once.

Time is the master, if you are both meant to be together it will happen but please don't lie to your boss about being ill.

I won't do it. I know it would be wrong. I didn't thought this through while I've been posting this part.

I think that an employee who is very unhappy in her/his soul is not a good emplyee at all and I think she needs to take care of herself first and foremost. Now, if I was the man she's so much in love with I'd move mountains to make it happen. Whether me moving to her or us finding a way for her to move in with me BUT NOT UNTIL FINDING A JOB FOR HER so she could have a peace of mind.I hope it works out for you, just be smart, if unsure, wait...Love is patient, love is kind...

Thank you. It's nice to hear the opinion which touches the merits of the case and it's being kept in a friendly way of expression..pointing me in some direction at the same time.
Danka100   
2 Nov 2010
Love / Fell in love; I need to go back to Poland for 2 months - what to say at work (UK) [50]

or give a medical certificate of temporary work disability - you mean as in "get a doctor to lie in writing to your employer about a non-existing medical condition that supposedly prevents you from working so you can shack up with your new boyo"?

Just to let you know I hate to lie, but this is my life we're talking about and the dilemma is obvious. In the end I'd like to stay with at least one 'thing' I love..my man or a job...and not to be left with nothing at all.
Danka100   
2 Nov 2010
Love / Fell in love; I need to go back to Poland for 2 months - what to say at work (UK) [50]

What are the chances of him moving with you back to the UK?

None. I've tried that already. He's got a pretty good job out there as well.. He is a commercial representative and it took him about 4 years to establish his business relations, besides his parents are in a retiring age and they need him around (he is the only child). Family is very important to him so he will never decide to come over here. instead he wants to start up a family with me. At least that what he has been telling me before the doubts occurred..

Thank you for a beautiful quote by the way.

get a two-three week leave, both of you but not entire at the same time, maybe one week which covers.that way you should have about one month together without risk of job loss.

That would be the best option. I'd like to give this a try. He's on a sick leave at the moment. At this point I could try to go there for a week only (coz I live with a girl who will be moving out in the end of this month as well) but will that be long enough to get everything sorted?
Danka100   
2 Nov 2010
Love / Fell in love; I need to go back to Poland for 2 months - what to say at work (UK) [50]

I assume you're Polish (your screen name) and that you speak Polish, correct? Have you lived in Poland before? Also, I think both of you are pretty young? If so, have you been in a long-term relationship before?

Yes I'm Polish and I do speak Polish. I lived in Poland my whole life. But 4 years ago I moved to England and have been working very hard to get where I am. I'm 27 and I feel like settle down. I want husband a kid in a year or two..I've been in long-term relationship before (for almost 4 years).
Danka100   
2 Nov 2010
Love / Fell in love; I need to go back to Poland for 2 months - what to say at work (UK) [50]

Hi there,
I really need your help guys.
I've met someone couple of months ago on holidays in Poland and we fell in love so much that we've decided to move in together (in Poland, in his apartment). Since we've met we've been booking a flights back and forth just to see each other for a little bit. Currently I live and work in the UK (and I've got a really good job). We've set a date already which in the end of this month but lately we both got some doubts .. We don't know each other that well after all. I'm giving up my job and everything in here to move in with him and I can't help wonder what if we both will realize that was a big mistake?? That will be ME left with nothing..

So I'm thinking that maybe we should give this a try for about 2 months and then we'll both see if this is working for us. If it will the choice is going to be really easy but if it won't I'd like to come back and get my life in here back. Which means that I'd like to go back to my current job (which I like pretty much by the way). So to arrange that I'd need to take an unpaid holidays or give a medical certificate of temporary work disability or something..or maybe should I just tell a truth and hope for understanding.. ??? What should I do???? I'd really love to be with him (and I'm ready to sacrifice everything to do so) but in a worst scenario I'd like to have a place to go back to (I mean my job mainly). What should I say at work then???? Please help me coz my brain is in a whirl.. :(