Love / A Polish womans relationship with her mother in law. [44]

Hello, I am a British woman who's son married a Polish girl 6 years ago. Before she married him, I thought she was lovely. Very beautiful and clever. She called me 'mum'.

When she was upset with women co. workers in England, she said it was because she was Polish. I said, no, its because you are very attractive, they dont like that. I had similar problems with women when young. I gave her support at that time.

When they married and bought a house, I was careful to say good things about the house and her decorating. She painted some pictures and I told her they were good enough to be in shops. I made a point of never, ever, saying, you should do this or that.

She became pregnant. My son said to me, 'Ask ME how she is, not her. She has her own mother. Why would she want to speak to you? ' This was very hurtful. It was at this point they started to call me the 'mother in law'. My son said 'Polish girls do not speak to their mother in law' (IS THIS TRUE PLEASE) He then informed me that he had done a survey at work (UK) and said 'nobody speaks to their mother in law.' I of couse said 'don't be stupid' I got an email back with 5, F. words in it. This is not the first time he has spoken to me like that. However, that was the last straw. We have not spoken to them since. In the meantime the child was born. They did not contact us to let us know. We have never seen the baby who is now nearly two. I cannot bring myself to go to their door. .The hurtful events mentioned here is only a small part of all the hurt. Everyday, I am sad, and shed a tear. Please tell me, are women in Poland kind a respectful to their mother in laws?