Love / I'm a black African man and can't cope with my Polish mother in law [34]

hi
i have been with my Polish wife for slightly over 5 years and we have been married for 3 years,i am a black African male and i cant figure this out,in the interest of my marriage, i have to get on with my mother in law and i would like to know if this is the norm with all Polish MIL'S she came to live with us 3 years ago when my son was nearly born and the moment she got here she tried to change everything we did, for instance instead of our weekly shopping she now wanted to buy food from the polish shop daily(which was very expensive),cook polish soup everyday for dinner and have everything done how she wanted, when my son was born the only way to avoid arguments was to do what she wanted in short everything should be done her way otherwise it's arguments all the time,

in my culture this behaviour shows a lack of respect for me as father and husband to her daughter, so i ended up being so fed up that i threw her out of my house but everytime she says she wont do it again and when all is forgiven she starts again, she phones everyday with instructions on how to raise the baby,

up to the point where i got angry with my wife and told her i would not be involved as a dad anymore and she could raise him with her mum.is my MIL's behaviour typical of of all Polish mums(this is affecting my marriage) or is this the exception please help shed light on this i'm at he end of my tether.