Posts by Agata2010

Agata2010

8 Mar 2010

Love / How to convince English boyfriend to learn Polish? [39]

Thank you for sharing your opinions. Sometimes it is better to learn other people's view, especially when they are rational and I appreciate it a lot. I will try Softsong's approach and will see how it works.

I understand that culture may be sometimes more difficult to learn or less appealing if we do not have interest in the country but I thought, as it appears erroneously, that it would be natural to be curious of the background of the person with whom we share life.

Olly, your girlfriend must really appreciate your interest in language and culture and I also have a lot of respect for people who try to learn Polish regardless of any reasons why they do it.

Agata2010

8 Mar 2010

Love / How to convince English boyfriend to learn Polish? [39]

I have been in a relationship with an English man for over 2 years and he not only does not say a word in Polish but openly declares that he would not like to learn even basic words like 'thank you' or 'good morning'. I have never put any pressure on him to do that but I hear from other people who are in relationship with a foreigner that they partners make a lot of efforts to learn their language, at least the polite words. I know Polish is a very difficult language but could his lack of any willingness to learn be a sign that he does not think about our relationship seriously. I know that in the past he was dating Spanish girl and learnt Spanish so I cannot understand why he could not learn just few basic words in Polish.

His lack of any interest in Polish language and culture is quite embarrassing when it comes to meeting my family so I see them quite rarely and on my own. On the other hand, he expects me to visit his family very frequently so I feel it is a bit unfair.

What could be a reason of him avoiding all aspects of my life which relate to my home country? Is Poland really uninteresting for English people and if so why do they despite that decide to have Polish partners?

I would appreciate your advice / comments.